Some GREAT advice on "Self doubt"

[cannibustacap]

I don't know if this has been posted here, but I found this on mASF and it is one of the best threads I have read in a while.

http://fastseduction.com/discussion/read?182080,23

The one thing that absolutely kills pickup:

That is doubt.

Doubt is single handedly probably the biggest obstacle to any pickup. (Assuming you have some competence.)

I am probably not sharing something that is a big secret. Nevertheless, allow me to elaborate:

Lack of doubt comes from confidence. CONFIDENCE leads to a STRONG FRAME.
Strong Frame, of course, is key!

Any shred of doubt lowers confidence. The best analogy I can give is a scene from the first Matrix movie. “Neo” is asked to jump across two sky scrapers which are far apart.
It is a long jump of about 60 yards (50 meters). Clearly, a jump a human being cannot make.
Yet, he can make this jump if he believes he can without a shadow of doubt. The most miniscule amount of doubt will cause him to fail.

Pickup is many ways operates in the same format. No matter what you are doing, you must believe in it without doubt. It is because when you truly believe, it shows in the most minute details, and the smallest nuances of your body change. Simply put, the look in your eyes changes.
It’s the difference between uncertainty and having that eye of the tiger look. (oh, no, Not another movie reference…).


Imagine the following example for one minute:
A person walking up to every girl and saying the following phrase without doubt, “I think you are sexy. I want to have sex with you.”
You’ll piss a few off. Some may laugh at you. Some may (probably will) slap you.
You may get thrown out of a few places too.

However, eventually you will find a girl that will sleep with you. It might take 50 tries, but you’ll find someone. It’s not that most efficient and practical way of doing it, obviously. You also don’t get a choice of your target, but rather, whoever happens to respond.
Efficiency and solid game are not the point of this example, though.
It’s about belief.

It’s having RESOLVE and conviction. Now, imagine having that LACK OF DOUBT COMBINED with SKILL and gamesmanship. You will truly blossom.

Belief combined with some competence is what one must seek. (Please do note the fact that I mentioned some competence. So don’t throw examples of deranged or delusional weirdos at me.)

So the question becomes, how do you get to that point? How do you eliminate doubt?
This is tough to answer for it varies from one individual to the next.

It also fascinates me how some guys grow up to have such a carefree mentality about women and others have the opposite. I have known guys who get laid because they simple just do enough approaches until a girl responds. Is it solid game? No. Would I consider them great in the field? No. Do they get their choice of women? No.

However, this “I don’t give a ****” approach does get them laid after they do enough approaches.

As you learn game, concepts, tactics, and such, also be on the quest to eliminate doubt.

If I can compare it to anything, I'd compare it to that of an athlete being
in "The Zone."
The sports fans here know about instances in professional
sports where an athlete performs extraordinary levels, which leaves even his
own peers in awe.

A basketball player makes every shot with the greatest of ease no matter
what the degree of difficulty. It does not seem to make difference if there
is a hand in his face, two or three defenders hanging on him, and so forth.

Similar examples can be made in other sports, (i.e. quarterbacks in football,) depending on the sport of your choice.

Part of this phenomenon can be explained through the concept of zero-doubt.
Every time, I have watched athletes being interviews after a superb
performance where they were in the zone, they made similar comments. Talks
about surreal consciousness and an unreal state of confidence where they had
no doubt that any shot they took was going to fall in.
There was never any doubt. They just knew.

This concept of “Doubt-Elimination” does not apply just to being successful with women. It applies in different areas in life, whether you are a student, a professional athlete, or a salesman.


Lastly, Why is this post in advanced??

The removal of doubt is not easily achieved. It's not something that comes from playing "The Game". It comes from a deeper place within.
It stems from self-mastery and self-actualization.

Eradication of doubt, while a simplistic concept, takes a mastery level skill and
mindset.
It won't help the beginner.
He ought to be concerned with tonality, body language, story telling, being
interesting, conveying personality and value.

Removal of doubt is definitely for the advanced.
I cannot say that I have it mastered but I can say that I am working towards
it. I truly have not met too many people in life (Game or non-game) who
have achieved this.

This is not some supreme discover on my part. We all know about confidence.
It’s in the back of all our minds.

However, recent life experiences made me realize just how important of a concept it is, and its true impact was fully realized on a scale that I had not before conceived. -------- The One

 

[cannibustacap]

no replies?... anyone have thoughts on this article?

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by cannibustacap
no replies?... anyone have thoughts on this article?

its too long, from what i skimmed on it seems to make itself worth reading by stating that doubt is hard to get rid of, wich is a lie.

 

[cannibustacap]

Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
its too long, from what i skimmed on it seems to make itself worth reading by stating that doubt is hard to get rid of, wich is a lie.

too long? are you kidding? its not that long at all.

And why was it so easy for you to get rid of self doubt?

 

[Dukester]

your self-doubt post kinda goes along w/ my confidence posts. in the 2nd once, it tells you what you need to do to gain confidence (aka- get rid of self doubt)

check out the links in my sig.