Some girls are Don Juanitas (aka want nothing than sex), and that's 100% OK

[manfrombelow]

Starting from this thread:

Need closure from you guys.

I was seeing a girl for 3 months. It was more like fwb. She didn’t want me to sleep over and we didn’t hang out outside. She didn’t want it. I probably rushed things because I kept seeing her twice a week, food sex and tv at her place. She is 35 and never had a serious relationship just flings...

www.sosuave.net

The problem with the OP (as well as many of us, I believe) there was that he wanted bonding with a woman that doesn't want it.

The fact is, in life, many girls are Don Juanitas, which means they just want SEX (and I mean the hot steamy animalistic sex) with you, and NOTHING MORE than that. They don't want to have sweat honey cheesy romantic dates with you like Disney lovers.

And this is 100% normal and 100% OK.

For myself, looking back, the most devastating breakup (which caused me to have a full 360 degree review back into myself, and which lead me to learn everything I could find on such sites as SoSuave) I had was exactly like the aforementioned thread:

I wanted a "meaningful & lasting relationship" with a hot slutty woman who just wanted sex with me.

If only I had just kept it as a FWB relationship, it would have been much much much better for the both of us, especially myself.

So yeah, many women are Don Juanitas, and that's totally OK. In fact, nowadays, I consider myself lucky if I could find one to just fvck her like crazy and then go about my own business with no strings attached. I mean this is the perfect scenario for a bachelor like myself at the moment.

Your inputs are appreciated, fellas!

 

[The Duke]

I had two of these. It actually got a little boring for me. There was zero challenge and no seduction, I'm a hunter. This was like shooting fish in a barrel. Basically they would come over, have some drinks, listen to music, then sex. Cheap and easy never keeps my attention. It was a little better than masturbating. I'd rather seduce some girl in a bar and bang her brains out later that nite.

 

[sangheilios]

I don't think women behave like this typically with men. The power dynamic shifts when the man and woman have sex with one another, you'll often see that the woman develops some sort of bond with the man afterwards. This is biological programming/instinctual, as such an act had a high chance of resulting in her getting pregnant......so to bond with that man means she and her potential baby are more likely to survive.

I'm sure there are women like this but I believe they aren't that common, this isn't like something you see out of Sex and the City or some **** like that lol. A woman wants to have hot sex with a guy she finds hot, aka a Chad, and would LOVE to have that regularly, assuming he wasn't a complete dud. If a woman only has flings you are just another one of many men who she will fool around with, realistically you aren't impressive to her and she doesn't really get much from the interaction other than validation. Sex is one way women achieve validation that they are seeking, it's the pinnacle of attention that she can get from men. I've always believed that *****s that sleep around with a bunch of men are just attention *****s at the end of the day lol.

There are women that also don't want bonding but it's more likely due to them being unable to do so. This is a very weird and unusual trait for a woman to have.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I’ve come across a few chicks that were no fuss no muss like the duke described and were truly interesting good looking women, maybe too much testosterone.

I’ve had two 8+’s try to fwb me to start and I said absolutely not, both acquiesced immediately like with no hesitation. Went on to multi month situationships with both.

 

[Murk]

And this is 100% normal and 100% OK.

It's not normal though, is it?

I've had only 1-2 women just want sex, they mostly all eventually want commitment, next steps, or I don't tick certain boxes for LTR and they leave. None gave me "I just want sex" vibes even the 18 year olds, the 22 years olds.

I don't think being a massive h0e is normal and we shouldn't be normalising it. It's not ok, those girls are mentally damaged by some low-quality man, maybe even their father or lack thereof.

100% not normal behaviour, people are just more damaged now.

 

[manfrombelow]

It's not normal though, is it?

I've had only 1-2 women just want sex, they mostly all eventually want commitment, next steps, or I don't tick certain boxes for LTR and they leave. None gave me "I just want sex" vibes even the 18 year olds, the 22 years olds.

I don't think being a massive h0e is normal and we shouldn't be normalising it. It's not ok, those girls are mentally damaged by some low-quality man, maybe even their father or lack thereof.

100% not normal behaviour, people are just more damaged now.

It's "normal" in the sense that they do exist, and if we somehow deny the fact that they only want sex (instead of a proper relationship), and try to push our need onto them, they would eventually go away, and leave us devastated and confused as fvck.

 

[Murk]

It's "normal" in the sense that they do exist, and if we somehow deny the fact that they only want sex (instead of a proper relationship), and try to push our need onto them, they would eventually go away, and leave us devastated and confused as fvck.

More and more common maybe, not normal, I believe most girls want an LTR.

 

[manfrombelow]

More and more common maybe, not normal, I believe most girls want an LTR.

Well I should have use "Some" instead of "Many" in this regard. Thanks mate!

Would some moderators help me change the title from "Many" to "Some" please? @TheProspect @Serenity @nismo-4

 

[kavi]

EVERY woman wants to bond with and have an ltr with a HIGH QUALITY GUY who invokes FEELINGS and ATTRACTION. Women do casual flings and just sex because they cannot get that. The thread in the OP is a perfect example, poster ofcourse had chances to create long term attraction but failed.

Very very few guys know how to create long term attraction and stand out from the pack. With most women having given up on experiencing that or not even knowing it exists they then go for NSA sex only relationships but it is only because they havent experienced real attraction.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

It’s also market dependent. Where gender ratios are skewed less men more women e.g. Austin ~2016 women adjust to the wants of men and did rampant hookups. Unlike the west coast cities where men outnumber women, men adjust to the needs of women.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Most women I've been with who've been 'just sex' change in about a month to wanting a relationship.

 

[manfrombelow]

It should be neither normal nor OK. I understand this is a site for dudes who are all about hooking up with no strings attached, but this creates a lot of grief for the woman and her husband later in life - assuming that is something she wants at some point.

Dude, you're in a forum where "spinning plates" aka maintaining a SEX-ONLY relationship with multiple women as long as possible while fully knowing that you won't give them the girlfriend-label at the end of the day is a widely accepted strategy, so please be aware that whether or not this would "create a lot of grief for the woman and her husband later in life" is her problem, not mine.

 

[manfrombelow]

As long as you don't mind eventually landing a wife whom has a 20+ body count and is unable to pair-bond, you're correct.

I do mind. Of course. So what are you saying here? That I am somehow responsible for another AFC's choice of wife, a guy who I don't even know? Give me a fvcking break!

 

[Dr.Suave]

Im not sure I would call them "Don Juanitas" but yes, these girls exist. Why would a girl f0ck you but wont LTR you?

A) She is unable to pair bond.

B) She was brainwashed into thinking she doesnt need a man.

C) She´s in the party years. She wants to ride the C0ck Caruossel. She can always lock down a beta provider later down the road (aka The Epiphany phase).

D) She doesnt see you as bf/hubby material. She can f0ck u on day 1 while she makes "Mr. Right" wait a few weeks for sex.


I think @Money & Muscle is on to something. Karma is a b1tch.

 

[manfrombelow]

Im not sure I would call them "Don Juanitas" but yes, these girls exist. Why would a girl f0ck you but wont LTR you?

A) She is unable to pair bond.

B) She was brainwashed into thinking she doesnt need a man.

C) She´s in the party years. She wants to ride the C0ck Caruossel. She can always lock down a beta provider later down the road (aka The Epiphany phase).

D) She doesnt see you as bf/hubby material. She can f0ck u on day 1 while she makes "Mr. Right" wait a few weeks for sex.


I think @Money & Muscle is on to something. Karma is a b1tch.

In my case, the chick was already married to a rich dude, so while she came to me for d~ck, it was obvious she couldn't leave such a huge sum of resources. Low-level move she pulled on her husband, I guess.

 

[RazorRambo24]

This is 100% true and its sad to see that people are just realizing this..

Regardless, its up to you as a man to recognize that and if you are CAPABLE of dealing with that -- you can reap the benefits of a NSA sexual relationship. If not, trust me, it will only hurt you and hurt your self esteem in the long run.

 

[member160292]

I don’t really care about body count, but probably I’m not looking for anything long term. Time with any women will always be fleeting, just enjoy the moment.

 

[TheEveningChronograph]

True that. I turn up downtown with a few friends and peacock hard. I'm purposely dressed like a brah or wearing some poverty fashion brands + my Submariner and giant gold ring. I stay clean-shaven though... Broads bend over backwards and ignore all the politics and social circles and try to qualify themselves to me...Sloot biology is in them as well as all the other crap that they put on hold further down hoe road.

 

[Solomon]

I tend to notice this with loose women from OLD they just want some good dyck.
I remember a woman i hooked up with 6 years ago telling me "I'm just on Tinder to get as much dyck as I can"
needless to say I never hooked up with her after and recently when I joined tinder again she still has profile

 

[Serenity]

Would some moderators help me change the title from "Many" to "Some" please? @TheProspect @Serenity @nismo-4

Sorry for the delay, it's done now.