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Nn877

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So last weekend was my birthday, girlfriend took me out on fri night expensive dinner, and I told her I was planning on going out with friends on sat that she and her girlfriend should come.

Bottle service and a club in the city I live near SF, long story short, me and my friends get there and promoter is trying to charge us extra for 2 more people, my gf and her who were on there way, I told everyone fuk it and lets go. Call my gf said promoter acting shady and we're going to a different spot, at this point my gf got very irritated and was complaining about going to a different place and how the music sucks there etc. (she wasn't driving) and then she said she's just going to go home because she won't have fun there.

I was pissed but wasn't about to let her ass ruin my bday night out so I didn't start a fight and said fine, she texted me some bs i didn't respond. There was actually a girl in our group who was literally all over me the whole night needless to say i wasn't worried about the gf.

So sunday night I call her and explain what happened, but she quickly turned into an argument that she hates last minute changes, I needed to be more organized, all this ****, I was like wtf is she angry about its not even her bday. I mean she did take me out friday but then flip 180 attitude next day.

She went out with friends sunday night and so did i, haven't talked since, like what can she be mad about. I texted her earlier today about something going on this week. Gonna act like I'm not affected by her attitude.
 

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That is strange.

Could she be mad/upset that she took you out on Friday but you were not wanting to pay for her to get inside that place on Sat?
 

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Either the place you decided to go to really does piss her off, or she just lacks spontaneity. It's one thing to decide you aren't up for going out, but it's another to turn it into this big issue, especially when the night is a celebration for someone else. Looks like she needed some attention.

Keep acting indifferent about this weekend, and try to actually get over it and don't bring any of it up. If she bring it up again at all, and makes it into an issue again, you may need to re-evaluate your situation.
 

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Yeah strange I know, we werent getting bottle service at second place and she made it out to be more like it was her night out. I could care less as long as u got friends with you.

I didnt talk to her yesterday and texted her abt an hour ago no response.
 

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Some people just can't go with the flow and accept last minute changes with out getting their panties in a wad. Sounds like she is one of those.
 

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Yeah I guess...its just now I feel theres this tension between us over some stupid plan change. Should I call her out or just act like nothin is a matter
 

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Don't call her out on it, just let it go. If she brings it up you will have a very strong indication that not everything is ok.

All that can come from discussing this any more is tension and distance, regardless of who brings it up.
 

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Nn877 said:
Gonna act like I'm not affected by her attitude.
This is what AFC's do, they pretend it doesn't bother them when it does. Don't let her grab the power to start walking over you, if she isn't behaving right, get rid of her. There's no need to put up with it.

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I didnt talk to her yesterday and texted her abt an hour ago no response.
Quit texting her and reaching out to her. She had no interest in calling or texting you. Don't be an AFC trying to smooth things over after she treated you like sh1t. Her behavior was uncalled for, she should be reaching out to you. The more you reach out and get ignored the more power she is going to have. If she is going to act that way, let her, you had a chick interested in you that night. You should've got her number to have an option. Always have other options available.

I'm pretty sure she had dudes hitting on her when she was out with her friends and now she is ignoring you.

Even though she took you out to an expensive dinner, I see trouble in your relationship. Girlfriends who are in love with their boyfriends don't behave this way over something petty as this. Sounds like she is causing this on purpose to start a fight leading to a break up. Going out with her friends without you during an argument is a sure sign of that.

I know a guy who's girlfriend bought him some nice things for Valentine's Day. After that she was pulling the same sh1t as yours is doing. She broke up with him on the spot during a fight, then the next week she already had another guy calling him her boyfriend.

Don't call or text her, go about your business, wait for her to contact you, get another option. No exceptions.

If she reaches out don't make her a priority, don't kiss her ass, wait and see if she apologizes to you and asks to hang out. Don't offer to hang out with her. Gauge her behavior to see how she is acting the next few days. If it isn't up to your liking then get rid of her. No need to be putting up with bvllsh1t caused by her ruining your days. There's other chicks out there, don't hang on to one who's bringing you down.


Hmm said:
That is strange.

Could she be mad/upset that she took you out on Friday but you were not wanting to pay for her to get inside that place on Sat?
Why is it strange? Some chicks want everything to be about them instead of understanding the situation. Then when plans change they get pissed off when it doesn't suit them. Also, when they have plans of breaking up, they will act this way when they carry it on too far. If it was only about her she would be mad for the day, not continuing to ignore the guy.

That spells T-R-O-U-B-L-E.


Dreesy said:
Keep acting indifferent about this weekend, and try to actually get over it and don't bring any of it up. If she bring it up again at all, and makes it into an issue again, you may need to re-evaluate your situation.
AFC's who pretend to be an alpha always act indifferent. There was a famous guy in this forum who did that time and time again. What happened when he did that? His girlfriend disrespected him worse each time and he continued to put up with it. He had no power when she controlled him and the sex.

He is the man that should be leading this relationship, he should be setting an example of how she should be behaving. When you let sh1tty behavior slide such as this, she will do it again because she will see she can get away with it. Some women need to be shown how to behave or otherwise they will continue to behave poorly when they have no guidance.

There's no reason to be treated this way, if she doesn't shape up, dump her, that's why you have options to take her place.

Being indifferent doesn't do anything by pretending it doesn't exist, she knows it exists because she is treatng you like sh1t.

Do you honestly think she is going to forget about the incident and how she's treating you like sh1t when you are pretending it didn't happen? :crackup:

Don't be stupid here gentlemen, think about it.

Never be a AFC kissing her ass after she disrespected you on your birthday weekend. AFC's are indifferent to the disrespect, they let it go on.


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There's no reason to put up with this sh1t from your girlfriend at all. She ruined your birthday weekend with her b1tchy behavior turning you into the bad guy. This was your weekend to have fun, and you included her in on the fun. What did she do? She b1tched, complained, refused to go, went out with her friends instead, excluded you, and now is not speaking to you. Then you have posters telling you to ignore it and pretend it didn't happen. That's fvcking stupid because she knows it happened, she's treating you like sh1t. Do you think she's going to forget about that?

It comes down to respect and dignity, also what the chick did to cause the disrespect. This is a very blatant infraction of disrespect as far as I'm concerned. When she is acting this way over something petty as this, what is she going to do when she makes it into something bigger the next time? Is that the type of woman you want to invest in? I wouldn't. That's what you should be paying attention to and be thinking about.

I always have options, and if a girl treated me this way, she would be gone. No need to be treated that way over nothing.

Communication is a two way street, if she isn't willing to communicate with you, apologize for her actions instead of being hostile to you, then she needs to go.

There's no reason why you can't tell her how sh1tty she acted, if she wants to argue and fight with you, then you have your answer on what she's trying to do. Then show her the door.

I'm not sure if it's a company event for you or for her, I'm sure she knows about it. If she isn't talking to you, then she has no intentions of going to it.

If she's still acting sh1tty, why would you want to bring her around to cause tension and trouble? If she doesn't reach out, then continue to ignore her, go without her to the function, wait until she contacts you.

Options always come into play, because you if you had some, you can bring another woman in her place. I wouldn't feel bad about doing that that at all when she is being a b1tch. She chose her friends over your you on birthday weekend treating you like a bastard having her own fun.

Keep your frame and don't bend at all for her. If she is treating you this way over nothing, she doesn't care about you that much, that's a woman you certainly don't need in your life. :yes:

Don't bow down to a woman taking her sh1t and kissing her ass when you've been disrespected. That is pathetic. Take your own actions like a man. :up:
 
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Wow thanks rascal, def needed that. I didnt want to make a big deal about it, but her actions are making it out to be just uncalled for. Fact that it was me who called her sun and she clearly showed her displeasure then went out and now its radio silence.
I sorta buckled and texted her, what her plans are thurs becus I have a company dinner to go to, but nonetheless how should I address the weeknd situation?
 

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Weren't the celebrations for you? Surely people should accommodate your needs rather then me, me, me? Not wifey material.
 

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Right mangotot, things were poorly planned but at the same time its my bday and it shouldnt matter if plans change. Very self centered.
 

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Who the hell knows why she got upset. To me that's not something I would tolerate in a relationship because I been there done and I decided that I don't want a woman who is going to be so inflexible that on my birthday she can't handle a venue change because you were getting ****ed by the promoter.

That being said acting indifferent isn't the way to go here because you're not handling your business. This is a **** or get off the pot type deal.

You need to tell her that you that her behavior was disrespectful. The fact she hasn't made an effort to reach out seems to tell me I would need to know about this woman. Not suitable for a LTR.

It was your birthday and you pulled an audible to make sure that everyone was having a good time. A good girlfriend would have been cool with it because she would be concerned with you having a good time on your birthday and having a good time in general.

Believe me I've had this happen before and the **** she pulled is ridiculous, self centered, and petty.

Sorry that your birthday wasn't as important as getting into some club in the City. There's literally some many damn clubs there that not getting into one shouldn't ruin your night.
 

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I agree with whoever said she's looking for reasons to create enough strain to initiate a breakup.
Women are fvcking insane, but it still doesn't excuse her actions here.
Don't try to contact her again. The ball is in her court and she has absolutely no justification for behaving this way over something so minor (unless there's something bigger you haven't divulged to us).
I'd confront her about it and do not concede any ground. You've done absolutely nothing wrong, you are innocent of anything that would make a reasonable and sane, loving girlfriend go off her head.
If she continues to ignore you, you have your answer and kick her to the kerb.
 

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So last night I called her out, and her top reasons were as followed: she really dislikes the second place, music and overcrowded, the night wasnt planned right and hates last min changes, she is very stubborn.

She did take me out the night before for dinner which was my actual bday and spent $200 on the meal. I held ground and told her just because of a venue change shouldnt matter since it was my bday weeknd etc. . I had to stop arguing because I started to get pissed off her deflections and rebuttals. Girls are experts at that. Im withdrawing attention drastically and she how she responds.
 

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Quick question: did you bang her after the expensive dinner she paid for? If so, did you really bang her? I mean, really good? You know the difference.
 

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I did bang her good, she even said that was deepest ive gone. I didnt break the bed but it was a good bang. And knowing her schedule I think she might be.. .I even asked her last night and she wouldnt answer.
 

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Look I'm all for women chipping in/paying, but unless she's a millionaire why is she paying $200.00 for dinner? Could that be a source of what's going on here?
 

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She chose the place, id think she looked at the menu prior.
 
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