Some American men are pathetic panderers

[Manure Spherian]

You are correct. The question becomes " are men monogamous in nature?". I dont believe they are monogamous. They should not be "cheating". They should be allowed to have multiple wives or concubines that they are legally bounded to. This way they are actually covering a woman and taking care of her.

Ancient cultures used to provide structure to the " cheating" so everyone benefited from it.

As far as control goes, the male sex drive is too strong for most men to control fully. It should be channeled into either multiple wives for controlled prostitution.

Polygamy makes society unstable, and yes, dangerous.

 

[Fruitbat]

Thoughts:

I have sympathy for famous men as they literally have women following them into toilets trying to satisfy every whim. Power and fame are aphrodisiacs which make women almost pathetically desperate. I experienced this a little bit as a DJ, when I started playing quite big nights the women were absolute. I wasn’t even nationally famous.

Guaranteed if I was today an A list celeb I’d probs have cheated this AM. I am not used to that kind of power.

I do not believe men should or have any special dispensation to cheat. Monogamy is a hallmark of a civilised culture. Any culture which leaves many men dispossessed of their chance of a wife and turns women into concubines for the rich and powerful isn’t going to be as successful - it’s a more primitive outlook.

Cheating is wrong full stop. Because it’s lying. You don’t make commitments ans break them.

if you were an a lister, I would imagine many women would accept one way polygamy to just be with the guy. That’s how pathetically desparate women are for famous and wealthy men. They would probably join in TBH.

 

[Scaramouche]

Tacitus claimed,that at the time the Romans arrived,Ancient Britons lived in communities of 12-20 Folk,the Women were held in common,the Children looked after by the whole community,sounds quite reasonable to me....Our own Aboriginals had a strange kinship system of partnering where different relatives could use each others Woman when their own Lady was unavailable...Elders had first crack at the Girls which sounds even more reasonable...great guys our First Nation People.

 

[DJ Novice]

I didn’t cheat throughout my 20 year marriage.
The thought of what my kids would think of me was the main reason along with my marriage vows which I took seriously.

It’s a lot harder when you aren’t married/don’t have kids and have many options, especially if you are above average in looks, status and/or wealth. The need for variety in the bedroom is in our DNA.

I think as you get much older, your testosterone levels decline and your energy levels are lower this can also be a handbrake.

 

[Pandora]

I didn’t cheat throughout my 20 year marriage.
The thought of what my kids would think of me was the main reason along with my marriage vows which I took seriously.

It’s a lot harder when you aren’t married/don’t have kids and have many options, especially if you are above average in looks, status and/or wealth. The need for variety in the bedroom is in our DNA.

I think as you get much older, your testosterone levels decline and your energy levels are lower this can also be a handbrake.

Yes you make good points. I am much less sexual compared to my 20s. Its def a testosterone thing. It is also harder because to resist because I do not have kids looking up to me.