First time posting. But i have been reading alot at the mature forum part of the site. There is so much that resonates with my personal experiences.
I want to ask you guys some advice on a situation im in.
Im about to drop this girl or sorta already did..
Since my social circle fell apart i dont have an oppertunity to share my red flags on a situation.
The story goes..
Im registered to a forum for ppl with MS. Really just signed up for info and maybe give some advice for who needs it. Soon i lost interest in the website and even forget my subscription. Then out of the blue i get an friend invite from some random girl from another country. She's like " hi , i just signed up and looking for new friends" my reply was short in terms of "cool, hit me up if you have any questions" then she says she wants to know more about me. She gave a lame excuse that pm's werent coming true and asked if she may email me. I said sure.
2 or 3 emails later we seem to hit it off flirting and i said she should add me on whatsapp. The same night we were hardcore sexting eachother and she send me some nice pics.
Couple of days pass and now she "seems" head over heels and says she is going to come over to my country. I told her thats fine and that we should meet for a weekend. ( questionable ?! )
A day after she tells me that she wants to come over for a week at my place, 3 months from now.. With the carrot in her hand like im gonna fvck you the whole all week but she does want some "sight seeing". In my head there is a bell going off! I even told her im not going to be your tour guide ya know.
We start to talk over the phone with eachother. She feels comfortable enough that she starts telling me all these crazy sex, drugs and rock and roll stories. And offcourse your usuall rape aka being dominated fantasy..
( really amazes me how often i get these stories from women ) anyway im in non-judgemental mode about it. Telling me she doesnt have a drinking problem but is drunk most of the time when she goes out.. Or telling me she fvcks guys she dont even liked in the first place.. Yall know her..
Ive been with a true! Bpd for 2 years.. suicide attemps included the vip package.. ( i know right.. Was a good but hard lesson in my life. Got diagnosed with MS in the process.. Still recovering in a way after 2 years with out her or friends.. trying to get my life back together. It got me vulnerable for your typical manipulitive attention *****. So that was the next trap i fell for .. Sigh.. Just moving down the ladder.. )
Anyway.. We are now 3 weeks in talking on the phone, texting everyday.. And her actions are starting to not match her words. I can tell she is losing interest. Logical since we are long distance.. Still my efforts to keep attraction are fading.
In the meanwhile she goes out in the weekend get drunk and still tells me she is going to stay celibate for the oncoming weeks untill she meets me.
LOL.. Really. 3 months ?! . Didnt even tell her to do so.. She came up with it on her own and i dont believe sh!t of it. Ive noticed there isnt much sexual attraction anymore towards me and for example when i ask or insinuate her for a pic or to show me something. She doesnt show me anything. Maybe a duckface selfie..
She had me hooked in the beginning by sending pics of her body,tits, ass and her lingerie.
Now she is starting to use me as a "girlfriend" talking **** on the phone and everytime we get to sex the subject turns into something different. I stay aloof and still she is always the one that keeps contacting me or calling me, And reaffirming that she is coming around to see me. Also when she tells me about herself its obvious she is bi polar or bpd or has some kind of personality disorder together with being self destructive. The only reason i took her serious in the first place was cuz we met on a MS forum for godsake! And i thought there would be rapport..
This is not a oneïtus ! I just want to learn from this experience.
My question to you guys:
Am i on point ?
Pump and dump for the week if she doesnt start acting up ?
Or just run off while i still can.
Any other advice is also welcome
I want to ask you guys some advice on a situation im in.
Im about to drop this girl or sorta already did..
Since my social circle fell apart i dont have an oppertunity to share my red flags on a situation.
The story goes..
Im registered to a forum for ppl with MS. Really just signed up for info and maybe give some advice for who needs it. Soon i lost interest in the website and even forget my subscription. Then out of the blue i get an friend invite from some random girl from another country. She's like " hi , i just signed up and looking for new friends" my reply was short in terms of "cool, hit me up if you have any questions" then she says she wants to know more about me. She gave a lame excuse that pm's werent coming true and asked if she may email me. I said sure.
2 or 3 emails later we seem to hit it off flirting and i said she should add me on whatsapp. The same night we were hardcore sexting eachother and she send me some nice pics.
Couple of days pass and now she "seems" head over heels and says she is going to come over to my country. I told her thats fine and that we should meet for a weekend. ( questionable ?! )
A day after she tells me that she wants to come over for a week at my place, 3 months from now.. With the carrot in her hand like im gonna fvck you the whole all week but she does want some "sight seeing". In my head there is a bell going off! I even told her im not going to be your tour guide ya know.
We start to talk over the phone with eachother. She feels comfortable enough that she starts telling me all these crazy sex, drugs and rock and roll stories. And offcourse your usuall rape aka being dominated fantasy..
( really amazes me how often i get these stories from women ) anyway im in non-judgemental mode about it. Telling me she doesnt have a drinking problem but is drunk most of the time when she goes out.. Or telling me she fvcks guys she dont even liked in the first place.. Yall know her..
Ive been with a true! Bpd for 2 years.. suicide attemps included the vip package.. ( i know right.. Was a good but hard lesson in my life. Got diagnosed with MS in the process.. Still recovering in a way after 2 years with out her or friends.. trying to get my life back together. It got me vulnerable for your typical manipulitive attention *****. So that was the next trap i fell for .. Sigh.. Just moving down the ladder.. )
Anyway.. We are now 3 weeks in talking on the phone, texting everyday.. And her actions are starting to not match her words. I can tell she is losing interest. Logical since we are long distance.. Still my efforts to keep attraction are fading.
In the meanwhile she goes out in the weekend get drunk and still tells me she is going to stay celibate for the oncoming weeks untill she meets me.
LOL.. Really. 3 months ?! . Didnt even tell her to do so.. She came up with it on her own and i dont believe sh!t of it. Ive noticed there isnt much sexual attraction anymore towards me and for example when i ask or insinuate her for a pic or to show me something. She doesnt show me anything. Maybe a duckface selfie..
She had me hooked in the beginning by sending pics of her body,tits, ass and her lingerie.
Now she is starting to use me as a "girlfriend" talking **** on the phone and everytime we get to sex the subject turns into something different. I stay aloof and still she is always the one that keeps contacting me or calling me, And reaffirming that she is coming around to see me. Also when she tells me about herself its obvious she is bi polar or bpd or has some kind of personality disorder together with being self destructive. The only reason i took her serious in the first place was cuz we met on a MS forum for godsake! And i thought there would be rapport..
This is not a oneïtus ! I just want to learn from this experience.
My question to you guys:
Am i on point ?
Pump and dump for the week if she doesnt start acting up ?
Or just run off while i still can.
Any other advice is also welcome