Some advice...New Girl

[HustlerDigital]

Hey guys..need some advice.

New Girl moved into town..been here for 4 weeks now. Comes from Kentucky to here which is Baltimore..TOTALLY diff. I myself have about 6 friends I go out w...and unfortanetly..having a godo job...a house etc..i dont get the chance to go out as much as I would like....that said.. My good friend basically got "first dibs" on this chick. I have no doubt in my mind she wont give him anything as he already tried and she didnt do anything w him...and his excuse why he didnt "hit" was cause he fell asleep..BS.

Anyways..this girl is great..good girl...etc. HER AND I ARE SOO MUCH ALIKE...the 3? times ive been out w her weve hit it off so damn good BUI im trying to respect my friends "property"..yada

Ive told teh girl I like her..and Im laying low as Im not disrespecting him..and her repsonse was "were just friends"...

My questions is how do I handle this..? This very well could turn out to be a great relationship..just waht Im looking for..BUT I dont to ruin my friendship w him or disrespect him.

As for my boy..i have no doubt its just a "hit and split" situation..and he doesnt give a ish about her feelings...but again..shes too good for that and wouldnt let that happen. Being that shes new to the area..every one of my friends has flirted w her...asked her number..etc. While I ...just laid low..when I get a chance to talk to her its great...even one night after coming out of the club she gave me a kiss..and choose to walk w me instead of everyone else.. (she was sober..i was smashed)

So whats the best way to handle a situation like this?

 

[Disturbed]

You might have the work cut out from you. You already told the girl that you like her and she LJBF'd you. If she had found anyone of your troop of friends attractive, she would have signaled IOIs. It does not matter who wanted her more, it is up to her to decide who can get her. Since your not hot enough for her, you can avoid the hassle of going up to your friend and asking for permission to steal his girl.

 

[Teen Spirit]

you're lucky so dont complain

i cant grow a beard cause its not in my genetics, ill prob have to wait a yr or 2 to grow a full goatee.

im still 19, so some of the facial hair hasnt finished sprouting yet,
so thats why i sahve every 2 day UNTIL i can grow full facial hair.

I woudlnt mind leaving facial hair, it reminds you and others that you're a man.

one of my friend leaves a small groomed mustache, but everyone considers him to be in his 30's, but that's also cause he dresses like a bum and does nothing to style his hair. he's actually 19

i think if you dress well, style your hair well, and keep your beard groomed, i think it will work extra to your benefit...if girls dig a guy w/beards. as long as you dont end up looking like a bum like my friend

 

[HustlerDigital]

I didnt get *****d by her..she has actually given me signs from the get go..but I also told her Im not doing ish because of my friend. Basically...she flirsted with me...she touched me..she said things that pointed out that she was interested...but then I basically came back with "Im not pursuing ish until later on...Im respecting my friend" he reply was "hes just a friend..last night was our first date"....with all of us...lol

an interesting thing to add...someone said something about the chick earlier today..my boys response "f her...she wont give me the time of day"

So to narrow it down..she put out interest...i said no.. i respect my friend..and then as an excuse when i was drunk i gave her a little love...it ended up with her asking to come home with me..i ignored her...because my boy was drunk as hell 10 feet behind me....so basically she went home with her friend..and ended that night wth a kiss on my cheek.

I know its there for the taking..i know we could have somehting..i just dont want to mess it up..and i want to respetc my friend

 

[tmpgstx]

First of all, your friend isn't worth resepecting when it comes to going for a girl you like.

Next, this girl asked to come home with you so soon? Hmmm ...

That doesn't make sense to me, especially with your friend only being 10 ft. behind. She also said they went on a date? Friends don't go out on dates.

Are you sure you're not trying to convince yourself of something more than it is at this stage here?

 

[Disturbed]

What?? the girl has become forbidden fruit just because your friend claimed her before you. Well you were decent enough to let him try to pull her but he did not succeed. Now it is his turn to accept your initiation of anything with her. If you don't act soon, then nobody gets her. If your friend complains about it, then I guess you should just dump him because he is not worth it.

 

[HustlerDigital]

Well I have a close net group of friends..I let ppl sleep over whenever (i bought my own home)..so I dont think she had intentions of doing anything...as she had come home with us b4 and nothing happened w anyone...My friend slept next to her on the couch.

Anyways..Im not stressing it..I might be reading her wrong...but who knows..ill go out flirt..if she plays back then ill go further..if it goes to the point where we want to be affectionate..Ill be stright up with my friend about it all

thanks for the help guys..

 

[Don_Joffe]

ALWAYS ALWAYS get the girl to tell YOU that she likes YOU first before you tell her.

 

[PRMoon]

Don't waste time. Go right for the heart of the matter. You'll never know unless you try.

You atleast have to attempt to talk to her and get a feel for where you stand with her. After you know your status you'll know what kind of decisive action you have to take.

 

[Don_Joffe]

Continue to build up more rapport and then if I were you Id take her to the movies and do the "Don_Joffe movie tactic" if you want a copy of it, just ask.
BUt i fear you have made too many mistakes to get her now.

 

[HustlerDigital]

the don joffe movie thing....officially requested...lol

 

[DJ_Dud]

All i got to say is this, your boy blew his chances with her. Because of that, him calling her really doesn't mean shyt. If you let your boys sit where they are, they will continue to be you ****blockers and mess it up for you. you want this girl, then go get her. she has obviously shown she is interested in you, why wait.

All i got to say about the "calling" thing is respect it, but when they blow their chances and it is clear she ain't interested, she's fair game and there's nothing you friends can do about that.

And just because they blew their chances, they talk trash about her, making her sound like crap. they're just jealous that they have no skillz.

 

[HustlerDigital]

UPDATE

I told my boy i was interested...he said hes not talking to her anymore and its no prob...so thats done.

I asked her out and will be taking her out sunday...she def is interested cause ever since I asked her out shes been making contact (callin...text) non stop since then.

Im gonna have to read up a bit on the boards here for this big date..lol