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I'm going to get right to it.

I walked her home, HB 8/10 shall we say. Talked, got her laughing. I know her from a few months back. Never really talked to her, so this was basically our first real meeting.

Strangely, when I asked for her number, she recited it to me like a thoughtless reflex. This was outside her house.

I turn up at the place where she works (retail store, sells groceries, lots of people around), approach her, talk briefly, request a date not too deeply into the conversation:

A: You fancy going for a drink next Thursday?
HB: Thursday? Yes. (very quick answer - another reflex)
A: Ok. It'll probably be about 8ish.
HB: Sure, just ring me or something.
A: Sure. Cya.

Done and done. Her expression was, neutral. It confused me. She wasn't overly positive, but she agreed to the date without hesitation. This was only the start though.

I rang her, her phone (a cell phone) was off. Rang again, and again. Constantly. Off. At first I thought she had given me a fake number, setting the date with the fact I wouldn't be able to contact her in mind.

Her friends, most of whom I know, tell me it doesn't work for them either. They also tell me she doesn't have a home phone.

Strange.

So anyway, Thursday came and went. I went to her house a few hours before 8, met her little Sister, told her to tell the HB that I'd be round later to pick her up. Little girl was helpful.

I turn up. HB is not there. I have been stood up.

I see her sister again, the next day somewhere else and she tells me the HB, when she finally came in, "didn't know who I was" when they mentioned my name. Ouch. She also confirmed that they didn't have a home phone, but the HB had a mobile.

I'm pissed. I'm really pissed.

I let it go for a few days.

I saw her at work again, same time, same day:

A: Forget something?
HB: *Blank expression*
A: Thursday.
HB: Oh, ****!
A: Indeed.
A: I did call round, but you were out.
HB: Yeah, I got back about midnight.
A: Oh, right. Well, I went out with my friends in the end (a lie).
HB: Oh, I see.
A: Shall we try this again.
HB: *Blank expression*
A: When do you get off?
HB: Now, but we have a meeting after this.
A: I'm busy tonight and tomorrow, but am free Monday.
HB: Yeah sure, just ring me or something.
A: You're mobile doesn't work and you don't have a home phone.
HB: Yeah...I need to get it fixed. I'm getting it fixed on Monday.
A: I'll call you then. Cya around.
HB: Bye.

I left even more pissed off. I felt that she'd just told me a pack of lies. What magical cell phone shop does same day repairs? Was she being naive or stringing me on further? I guessed the latter.

It's now Monday. Her phone still doesn't work. I considered calling round her house, but left it.

She makes a date, then goes out and does something else the same night. She makes it again, and then doesn't get her phone "fixed". Hah. What a load of crap.

I had thought that since there was almost a week between setting the date, and the actual time, me not ringing her and her downright naivity could have been the reason it all ****ed up. But then I think, you judge women on their ACTIONS, not their WORDS. Her words are saying yes yes yes, but the actions are saying the complete, miserable opposite.

I don't care anymore. If she'd just told me no, that she had a boyfriend, that she wasn't interested or anything like that I would have been happier. Now I'm getting stressed. I have a headache. She's getting to me.

I don't want to forget about it with some sort of closure. I couldn't give a **** what happens. I just don't want this "what if" feeling. All I can think of is calling round there when she's home and setting the record straight. But knowing me, that's proabably the wrong course of action.

What. Should. I. Do?
 

Julian

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Dude, get a hold of yourself. Obviosuly this chick isnt interested, as im sure you can tell.

Theres no need to set any record straight. All that this situation requires is a swift NEXT.

Forget her and quit showing up at her work and house and calling her otherwise your just going to look like a creep.
 

1utfan1

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To answer your question, DO nothing. Don't call her, don't stop by where she works. You answered your own question when you said her actions speak louder than her words. She's not interested. And I got the impression from reading your post that your a little desperate. I'm sure she noticed that as well. That's something you definatly want to work on. The DJ Bible is a good read. Check it out. Good luck.
 

chlywly

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call me "or something" should have been a clue lol, anyways just next it, your catching the oneitis for who?? lol.. Who gives a ****, next woman, Do nothing.
 

JJMcLure

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She is not interested.

Chicks hate to say no. Several reasons for this:

- They think you'll be crushed to hear an outright rejection
- They are wimps and hate confrontation (if you confront her on breaking a date, it'll be "sorry", then some excuse blah blah, which leads you on even further and keeps you thinking she may have interest).
- More sinisterly, they like the attention even though they aren't interested. It boosts their ego so they have the confidence to flirt with and attract guys they do like.

Even shy and ugly girls like some AFC followers.

You got it right - pay attention to actions not words. NEXT.

There's plenty of chicks out there, go find some more.
 
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