Social Filters

Nicholas Hill

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Social Filters

Introduction

Now that I am back in the circle of untaken men, I thought it would be good to express the wisdom I have gained in the past few years, and hence, I present to you this guide on where to meet good women. Good in multiple senses of the word.

One of the pitfalls that men fall into in modern relationships / dating or seduction is the lack of a concept of where to go in order to get the right girl. Often I used to ask myself: “So, where are the meeting places? Where are the venues?”. Often, the first choice that came to mind was “Go clubbing” or “Chat up girls on the street”. Although they have their merits at times, there’s no way of knowing the type of girl you are talking to and possibly forming a short or long term relationship with. Maybe this guide will be useful if you feel that way.

A social filter is a method of extracting lots of undesirable attributes in women with the least amount of effort. The only action you have to perform is to choose where to meet these women.

A club, for example, is a social filter, but it is not a very good social filter. The reason for this is simple: it’s the type of girl that goes to a club. They may have a lot of issues, they may be too loose (for even a person who thinks or is hoping to be a Don Juan) or they may simply be girls who want a lot of attention without giving anything back. Worse still, they could be future cheating monkeys, always looking for the next, better branch on the tree.

A charitable event, however, is an alternative example of a social filter. In this case, it is a particularly good social filter. Imagine the kinds of girls you would meet if you were performing charitable work alongside them. They would be kind, caring, considerate – and probably emotionally stable. The charitable filter removes a lot of the undesirable attributes and women from the scene, leaving good ones. Sure, it is possible that the women you meet in situations of charity may not look as sexy or as cute as the girls in a club or pub, but then again, I’m sure you have all met a girl who, say, grew up ugly and turned out beautiful (but doesn’t know it yet, shhh!). Or you may find that it is you who needs to change. You will get beyond breast size and appreciate the woman. But anything is possible.

I should inform you that I make no promises. The word “filter” is a very carefully selected word. Applying a social filter does not remove all of the undesirable attributes of women or the undesirable women themselves. Believe me, you will still get unstable girls on campus, but it is possible that fewer of them will exist when compared to the types of girls who go to pubs.

And so, I present to you a list of all of the social filters I could think of. Of course, the list is not complete, and in general it is ordered such that I start out with the group of the worst filters and finish with the group of the best. I have also taken the liberty to sort the list in order of how easy it is to work in the presented situation. Unfortunately, this still resulted in a single list, and so what is presented here is somewhat sorted, a hybrid. Difficult, or bad filters (or even difficult AND bad filters) are at the top and the easier, or good filters (or even easy AND good filters) are at the bottom.

By all means feel free to comment on any of the following situations:

Street Level

We start our tour by examining the street.

Walking up to people on the street and talking to them will not work very well in Baghdad. You can expect the same level of success in most of the other cities in the world, but it does also present a massive challenge to those who really do want to get rejected. The desire to get rejected is an extremely healthy one for a Don Juan, and so maybe the Street Level is not a bad place to get them. Saying that, there’s no way of quantifying how good a social filter this is, because the girls on the street come from entirely random backgrounds.

It is unfortunate that in recent years, approaching on the Street Level has almost become inappropriate, but the modern Don Juan finds ways of overcoming it. However, the street is not a necessary venture. My personal opinion is to avoid approaches on the street.

Work

It is unbelievable the lack of imagination the modern man has for where to get his girl. And he makes a terrible choice when he picks the workplace. Yes, it is relatively easy, and possibly exciting, but he pays for it when the relationship ends. Although it should be obvious to do otherwise, he follows his heart and gets involved.

Avoid going out with women who work with or near you. The short term fun does not make up for the long term, er, pain that is caused when you split. That is, unless you marry – but you should never be assuming that at the start anyway. I have never dated anyone in the workplace, and therefore you had better have a good set of reasoning before you do either.

Clubs

Clubs are horrendously difficult places to get women. If you have LADS, ie looks, alphaness, dancing ability and social proof (or are in a mood to learn them quickly) then by all means try out the club as a venue. Not a very good social filter, mind, except that you may enjoy it if / when a hot woman notices you and takes you home. You may enjoy the enhanced sexual play, but then again, you really do need to have the attributes I just listed in order to be able to pull it off. Then there are other considerations, like disease and the higher chance that you’ll end up in fights because you stole a girl from someone who previously thought they had won her. Without the attributes, your confidence can be wrecked with every girl who dances with you for a minute, or doesn’t dance with you at all.

But I will give you guys a small tip. Learn to dance in front of mirrors. Overdress. Exercise heavily before you go (to get the hormones going and therefore increase your level of confidence), and take two or three guys with you for the social proof. Then, concentrate on having fun first without thinking about girls, and slowly move on to that prospect.

Pubs

Pubs are quite similar to clubs, but I have ranked them higher on the social filters list for a simple set of reasons: they are cheaper, it is quieter, girls are more likely to talk, you can be judged on more than just the amount of meat you have on your upper body, but I still think it is a relatively difficult situation and social filter. Women tend not to appreciate approaches in a pub, especially in Britain, because that is what all men do. Saying all men, what I mean is, a considerable number of desperate men take their desperation out on pub approaches, mistakenly thinking that it is a simple place to pick up women. They are wrong, and you should know this already, but they do present a challenge that should never really be avoided by a Don Juan. Try it a few times, get those bonus rejections, and move on, or perfect your game there.

Don’t get thrown out by bartenders, and don’t go alone, unless you can pull it off (ie: studying for an exam while in a pub).

Public Transport

Buses, trains, coaches, trams, taxis, airplanes or boats are places you spend a small amount of time on while you travel from one place to another, and they host all kinds of female creatures, depending on where the vehicle comes from, and where it is going.

A lot of people neglect public transport because they see it as a meta device – travelling helps you get to your destination, rather than being the destination itself. It can be effectively used as well as the destination. Nonetheless, although a social filter cannot really be applied to the form of public transport, men should use the opportunity to talk or banter with girls in these situations. Who knows, it may help your confidence and get you a number or possibly more, but best of all, if it doesn’t work out, you won’t be seeing them again anyway, and you can even leave at the next stop if you are threatened with impending doom. Not that it is likely to happen.

Park or Beach

If you are alone or in a group you may find it fun to walk around a nearby park or beach, places many girls associate with calmness and sometimes fun. Their personal man-defences will tend to be offline, so long as you approach them in the right way. It’s a reasonably good social filter and it’s easy to tell if your target is taken by a significant other or is single.

To some degree, it is as difficult to approach women in a park or beach as it is to approach them on the Street Level, but a park or beach have unique qualities and attributes that for some men may make it easier.
 

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Exercise Places

The gym or swimming pool are examples of “Exercise Places”. They are places in which people congregate, and there is usually a lot of room for talking and socialising, but unfortunately not many people realise this, in both sexes. As a result, a lot of people go to public exercise places in order to exercise and avoid social contact. Girls may not appreciate it if you’re too obviously in that situation in order to pick up girls, and so it can be a challenging place if you are only a recovering average guy. You may also be facing some visual competition with guys who are more slender, more slim, more built up in the upper body, more confident or more capable. So in much the same way as you need to be in a club you need to be in these public exercise places.

The social filters for these places are relatively good – girls who want to better their physical self and be healthy. Every man wants a healthy, good looking girl.

One final note: your social life in an exercise place must be secondary to the actual exercise! It will become quite obvious if you have your priorities out of order. The girls will notice and avoid you.

Mall or Shopping Centre

Often busy places, but a shopping centre venue is filled with thousands of women by themselves or in groups of women, looking to spend some money in order to make themselves even happier, aka retail therapy. A carefully placed wink and smile can go a long way, especially when adhering to the three second rule. Pay attention to the girls who aren’t moving around too quickly, they will be far more approachable.

Much like a campus lifestyle, there are shops, coffee places, libraries and general communal areas in the shopping centre. There are even parks and beaches in or near some, so for those who lack a campus, or want more opportunity than to pick a single filter from this list, then the shopping centre is for you.

Although you should buy something as well.

Coffee Shop

As well as a destination for couples, high class women tend to go to coffee shops and often in groups of other girls. This presents good opportunities for the Don Juan, who would have gone to the coffee shop with his friends or even alone. With a bit of practise, you, as that Don Juan, can make eye contact and approach a girl who is either by herself or when there is a lull in a conversation for a group. The girl(s)’ defences will be far less than if you had approached them in other situations due to the relaxing, quiet nature of coffee shops.

Family and Friends Events

You can normally gain the highest level of social proof via your family and best friends. Both will support you and put in a good word for you when they introduce you to their friends. Your success rate will go through the roof!

So, take advantage of weddings, bbqs, house parties, graduations, and even funerals, or any other social situation that involves close friends or family. Although many different types of filter apply depending on the event, it is possible to more easily read women and what they’re about when you’re given the head start by your friends or family during introductions.

Church or Charity

To succeed in church you really do need to be of the religion of people you are hoping to attain. For most people, this means being a Christian (and the more sincere a Christian you are the better). I think churches represent one of the highest forms of social filter available to man; do I really need to describe the qualities of a girl who attends church regularly of her own free will? Of course not!

The same goes for charity. It does not take much to imagine the qualities of a girl who spends her free time performing charity. You could work with kids, old people, in an office, or it could tie in with a holiday (ie, I work as a voluntary steward one week in a year for Spring Harvest with about 50 other people).

However, the rate of growth of intimacy between you and your target could frustrate you. The girls from these situations are best suited to the most meaningful of all the types of relationship – the long term relationship. Not suitable for some.

The added bonus is that when girls see you going to church or performing charity, they think so much higher of you. These places are normally devoid of men so you have an amazing, uncluttered, non-competitive opportunity to really make your mark on a dream girl, and have fun at the same time in an unrelated discipline, assuming you can grow or already appreciate the atmosphere in a church or charity situation.

Holiday

A lot of people imagine finding a dream partner on holiday, and with good reason. It is, however, quite difficult as you have to work out who it is you want and spend the appropriate time with them before your time is up, and if she turned out to be the wrong girl, you end up with nothing, and as I said before, you run out of time and have to leave.

This situation is quite similar to the Public Transport situation. Soon you will be leaving, so you are free to make a mess of things. I often thought about a social experiment where I would be allowed to do anything to boost my confidence and then turn back time such that it didn’t happen. That is essentially what you have when you go on holiday.

It should be said that there is more than one type of holiday. There are holidays abroad (possibly with your family) and there are holidays inland (say, a house party with a university group for a weekend). The range is quite diverse, and many people go on multiple holidays in a year. Maybe you need to expand your definition of what a holiday is so that you can enhance your prospects.

I rate this social filter highly because of the opportunities that are presented when you can cut your losses and leave if things get bad. I say this because I know a lot of people are concerned about failure, even though they really shouldn’t be.

Campus

Some of us are blessed with the opportunities presented to us by young future-professional women on the grounds of our college or university. With so many facilities – such as the library, lecture hall, park, beach, coffee place, dining areas – you would be an incredibly unlucky guy to go through an entire academic course without having been presented with several key opportunities.

In order to play on the campus you really do need to be a student, although I do expect some level of success can be obtained if you are a tutor, lecturer, professor or postgraduate. More so for the postgraduate.

I believe the campus life presents some of the highest quality women available to man. They’ve just grown up and tend to be emotionally stable.

Conclusion

Social filters represent one of the very useful tools a Don Juan should use. It is also extremely simple to use the tool, because the only thing that needs to be done to use it is to select the place you would like to meet women. If you use the wrong social filter, you take more of a risk, while if you use a good social filter, you could find a partner for life. Some are more challenging than others but could be more rewarding, while others are simpler but you may need to settle. Carefully choose your filter.

If any of you have any comments or questions, post them here and I will try to expand.

Thanks,
Nick
 

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Holy shiit look who crawled out of the dungeon!! What's new with you man?! How ya been?
 

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imo, campuses don't work well at all. The girls are very commitment-phobic at my school. A high percentage of prudes and an even higher percentage of hors.

good post, tho
 

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Hey great post man. You get rep points from me.:up:


Keep posting we need posters like you on sosuave.
 

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I think this should go in the DJ bible because its pretty important stuff. For campus' check out the cafe' its almost too easy. If its full just sit beside some hotty, also lines when you buy things.. I guess that could work in any eating environment eh... :)
 

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re keep it up

:rock: cool stuff dude
 

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Nicholas Hill said:
Don’t get thrown out by bartenders, and don’t go alone, unless you can pull it off (ie: studying for an exam while in a pub).
I would like to add to the Pub/Club game. Don't go alone is a sound rule, provided you have someone to go with. If you are new to an area, by all means, go alone. But, you'll have your work cut out for you: you'll need to acquire a group to hang with, or several.

Another thing I'd like to add is too not go to a club or pub with the intention of "picking up women". Also, don't go to drink.

Go to throw darts, play pool, get a burger, play cards, play a video game, bowl, etc. Don't go to a drinking venue with the purpose of getting drunk or picking up women.

As a DJ, your world doesn't (or shouldn't) revolve around women, or booze. By going to a venue to have a good time regardless of women, you'll likely succeed in having a good time. If you go with the intent of picking up women... you'll likely fail to pick up women, and likely not have a good time.

I've seen many a night destroyed by guys club/pub hopping looking for targets. A cloud of negativity hangs over everything, and should some targets magically appear, you're in the wrong mood for getting results.

Nevermind the targets and have a good time.
 
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