My first two years in college I spent mostly in my own little shell. Very few friends, very little socializing, whatever. I read up on a lot of stuff here and elsewhere about pick up, but never put any of it into action.
I study abroad last year, and I decided that I wasn't going to be the social hermit any more, and I mostly succeeded. I had a great time, made tons of friends, and ended up dating a very attractive, very sweet girl.
I get back to the states, and right before I go back to school, I decided that I don't want to try and force a long distance relationship at this point in my life with the girl, she agrees, and we break up on good terms.
I show back up on campus and all of the skills I seem to have developed over the past year are gone. Just walking around campus, being around tons of people, I feel TONS of anxiety. I know I have the skills, but I just freeze up whenever I'm in a situation with a lot of people.
I loved having a big social circle, but now I'm back to only a couple friends and feeling like I'm missing out on a great experience because of my anxiety. I know I'm an interesting person to talk to and be around, I know I'm not hideously ugly, but the anxiety makes me question myself and kills my confidence. I've been trying to stay on campus and be around those other people, even if I'm just sitting by myself and reading a book, just to try and condition myself to the atmosphere. However, other than that, I can't really think of anything.
Thoughts?
I study abroad last year, and I decided that I wasn't going to be the social hermit any more, and I mostly succeeded. I had a great time, made tons of friends, and ended up dating a very attractive, very sweet girl.
I get back to the states, and right before I go back to school, I decided that I don't want to try and force a long distance relationship at this point in my life with the girl, she agrees, and we break up on good terms.
I show back up on campus and all of the skills I seem to have developed over the past year are gone. Just walking around campus, being around tons of people, I feel TONS of anxiety. I know I have the skills, but I just freeze up whenever I'm in a situation with a lot of people.
I loved having a big social circle, but now I'm back to only a couple friends and feeling like I'm missing out on a great experience because of my anxiety. I know I'm an interesting person to talk to and be around, I know I'm not hideously ugly, but the anxiety makes me question myself and kills my confidence. I've been trying to stay on campus and be around those other people, even if I'm just sitting by myself and reading a book, just to try and condition myself to the atmosphere. However, other than that, I can't really think of anything.
Thoughts?