I have social anxiety pretty bad. I get real nervous talking to anybody whether it's a guy or girl or elderly person. I even get nervous when I go in a store and one of the workers asks if I need any help even though they are just doing their job. So I'm ready to get out there and approach girls I see out during the day. I've heard being indirect can be good especially if it's like a cashier or something. The thing is I'm gonna be nervous anyway. So I would rather just be direct. Is this ok or the best way to go about it?
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I personally think that it's more important in that situation to learn to just be relaxed with being friendly with strangers / people before pushing your limits too much (that can get you down & make you give up). You also need to learn to not give a damn what people think of you.
Yeah. Being social is a skill too. What you need to do is work on yourself first until you will reach a moment when you will say "I have NOT social anxiety". Force yourself with little baby steps and everyday try to do something social you are scared of. Just keep a relaxed body language while you do this and don't come off as a shoe-cleaning beta. You will learn quickly and you will be proud of yourself and eventually you'll be able to do a public speaking and be 100% comfortable with it. Start practicing a competitive sport too and try to become the best at it, if you aren't already, that will increase your confidence and you'll become more relaxed around people. Just don't sit there and whine on the fact that "you have social anxiety" there are millions of people in the world that say that and cry that the world is bad and bull****. Take action and try to become the best you can
The first thing that pops up in my head is that you are looking for confidence. Well confidence come from KNOWING things and being comfortable in certain situations. I agree with 6nemesis9 in that you have to work in baby steps.
So first congratulate yourself getting out there. That's the first step! Second, start with going out to a place where you feel comfortable. It doesn't matter where it is, library, supermarket, park. Just go there and observer pple and try to picture in your head what you would say to each one of them. Do this for about a week straight without fail. Next, talk to people that are paid to talk to you, like the sales girls. I know you said you get nervous but I'm to tell you that IT'S OK!!!!!!! It's ok to because it' their job to talk to you, so you're not gonna be rejected. So your goal is just to conversate, that's all. Nothing more. No number, no kino, just talk. Do this for about a month and you should be used to talking to people and making strides against your approach anxiety.
It's not something that disappears over night. But you can lessen it little by little everyday. Good luck!
So first congratulate yourself getting out there. That's the first step! Second, start with going out to a place where you feel comfortable. It doesn't matter where it is, library, supermarket, park. Just go there and observer pple and try to picture in your head what you would say to each one of them. Do this for about a week straight without fail. Next, talk to people that are paid to talk to you, like the sales girls. I know you said you get nervous but I'm to tell you that IT'S OK!!!!!!! It's ok to because it' their job to talk to you, so you're not gonna be rejected. So your goal is just to conversate, that's all. Nothing more. No number, no kino, just talk. Do this for about a month and you should be used to talking to people and making strides against your approach anxiety.
It's not something that disappears over night. But you can lessen it little by little everyday. Good luck!
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you may have something hiding in the closet. the reason you have social anxiety is???? some form of self doubt or the like? I suffered from it too, than i realized that its all an illusion and it goes away. only after you truly know yourself
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Man, I think everyone has some inhibitions to some extent.
I have two friends who have social anxiety disorder.
One of them tried taking the med route, taking vyvanse and other prescription drugs to help. All though they did make him less nervous/shy they took away his personality and made him feel numb, the withdrawels when he wanted to get off them made him *****y and i wouldnt recommend it.
The best way to deal with the issue is to do what makes you feel uncomfortable man. As long as you are the one who wants to change then it will happen.
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone - Neale Donald Walsch
I have two friends who have social anxiety disorder.
One of them tried taking the med route, taking vyvanse and other prescription drugs to help. All though they did make him less nervous/shy they took away his personality and made him feel numb, the withdrawels when he wanted to get off them made him *****y and i wouldnt recommend it.
The best way to deal with the issue is to do what makes you feel uncomfortable man. As long as you are the one who wants to change then it will happen.
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone - Neale Donald Walsch