So your girlfriend wants to "take a break"?

[bigneil]

When they say they want space, they might not mean it, they might just be saying it, there might be something she hasn't told you, and it's not really over yet, but it's time to walk away on your terms. You make her decision final. Going NC and getting in better shape is always good thing.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Leave my alt's out of your hurtful attacks on me.

On a side note: A queer deer walks out of a gay bar..He says: Damn! I just blew fifty Bucks!

Thank you thank you. I'll be here all week!

:crackup:

The Henney Youngman of the SS boards...

 

[GhengisT]

*claps* that's why you gotta keep side hoes.

VII. Always keep two in the kitty

Never allow yourself to be a “kept man”. A man with options is a man without need. It builds confidence and encourages boldness with women if there is another woman, a safety net, to catch you in case you slip and risk a breakup, divorce, or a lost prospect, leading to loneliness and a grinding dry spell. A woman knows once she has slept with a man she has abdicated a measure of her power; when she has fallen in love with him she has surrendered nearly all of it. But love is ephemeral and with time she may rediscover her power and threaten to leave you. It is her final trump card. Withdrawing all her love and all her body in an instant will rend your soul if you are faced with contemplating the empty abyss alone. Knowing there is another you can turn to for affection will fortify your will and satisfy your manhood.

Stole that from the 16 commandments of poon: http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

 

[El_matador]

This break thing is always BS. Usually she already has another man she's interested to know better and date. She wants the break because she does NOT know yet if it's going to work out with this new fellow.

Breaking up: burns the bridge, so she stalls for time. If the guy turns out to be No better than YOU (after she sampled him all she wanted) she'll be back saying the break was good to bring you closer.. blah, blah

If she pulled this break thing once, and you accepted that, she will do it again as soon as she deems it appropriate for her.

I'm speaking from personal experience and that of some AFC friends.

Fvock guys, my upbringing was always: Treat girls special, Be nice, bring them flowers, the more you do things for her, the more points you earn, be gentleman always, be pleasing.... endless list that pedestals women and gives them power to belittle you, use you, control you, manipulate you...

All that is my past and history. Of course I have been changing and learning as the years go by and reading this forum. It feels good Not to be that guy I used to be.

Anyway.

"Being on a break " it's almost always she's sampling other cokck, but she wants to have you as backup, while she keeps looking for a man to sweep her off her feet... Women are always looking to upgrade.

 

[Purefilth]

When they say they want space, they might not mean it, they might just be saying it, there might be something she hasn't told you, and it's not really over yet, but it's time to walk away on your terms. You make her decision final. Going NC and getting in better shape is always good thing.

True dat. (was looking for your original post here to quote) but yeah.


Walking away Is the thing to do. - She'll get all the space she could want. Chances are she'll have time enough to miss you ESSENTIALif getting her back is your game plan your game plan.

Working out is good for mind and body. But If the next time she sees you is 2 months down the road, and you're looking AWESOME - then who lost out.

We know she lost a great thing, now she remembers that she has too (thats if she hasn't spent all that time missing you already).

 

[Naughty Ninja]

True dat. (was looking for your original post here to quote) but yeah.


Walking away Is the thing to do. - She'll get all the space she could want. Chances are she'll have time enough to miss you ESSENTIALif getting her back is your game plan your game plan.

Working out is good for mind and body. But If the next time she sees you is 2 months down the road, and you're looking AWESOME - then who lost out.

We know she lost a great thing, now she remembers that she has too (thats if she hasn't spent all that time missing you already).

She'll realize she fvcked up even moreso if she winds up with a "PureFilth" next.

 

[Purefilth]

She'll realize she fvcked up even moreso if she winds up with a "PureFilth" next.

Now you're being silly! I am the prize!

She'll love the degradation that I subject her to

 

[Who Dares Win]

Very solid advice purefilth

Also lets not forget the "argue tactic" where she takes a minor problem and use it to create a conflict which justify the following breaking up.

She decides to break but wants to leave the blame on you so just wait for a minor fact and use it as a bridge.

You forget to tell her that you had a drink with the guys and boom, she screams that you dont respect her and you dont communicate therefore its necesarry the "break" that Op talked about.

Even more funny is when she pisses you off on purpose and when you react she screams back that you mistreat her and you dont love her anymore and she has no other choice than leave.

Its all the same sh1t just with different option.

 

[Purefilth]

Very solid advice purefilth

Also lets not forget the "argue tactic" where she takes a minor problem and use it to create a conflict which justify the following breaking up.

She decides to break but wants to leave the blame on you so just wait for a minor fact and use it as a bridge.

You forget to tell her that you had a drink with the guys and boom, she screams that you dont respect her and you dont communicate therefore its necesarry the "break" that Op talked about.

Even more funny is when she pisses you off on purpose and when you react she screams back that you mistreat her and you dont love her anymore and she has no other choice than leave.

Its all the same sh1t just with different option.

Good point here. I missed that.

 

[zinc4]

Guys...listen to my story...it is the exception to the no coming back from a break thing...

I was out of the country for 10 months and we agreed to get back together when i came back...i came back and she acted much different than before..barely wanted to see me and said she wanted to go out with her friends a lot more and just distant in general instead of being happy to see me...i was shocked because i was used to holding all the power with her...and we had kept in steady contact while i was out of the country...i was over confident about how long she would cling to me...

After a few lackluster meetings she confessed and told me she had met another guy who she really liked and that she had held on as long as she could but this "very good looking guy" or so i was told swept her off her feet...admittedly i was very upset and a little heart broken feeling...she then said the words...i think we need to take a break...in my heart i was devastated and shocked....

A break? I said...i know what that means...ok i will give it to you....have a nice life.

These words were very hard to say because i really did care about her and her rejecting me so suddenly over a new guy spiked my IL back up many notches and made me realize what i was about to lose...a great girl who i take for granted at times. But so be it i thought...i will not ask nor beg her for anything and i certainly won't wait. I had already made those mistakes in the past.

That same night i went out clubbing and one of her friends happened to see me...she called my GF who i was "on a break" with and my gf surprised came and saw me making out with about 3 different girls throughout the course of the night...

So after sitting there spying on me from a dark corner the entire night she grabbed my arm as i was about to go home with another girl and i turned to see who it was and i was shocked...she had tears running down her face and begged me not to leave with the other girl and asked me to get a hotel with her.

After that we had some amazing makeup sex and it went right back to where the relationship was...me with the power...and she promptly stopped replying to the new guy altogether and once again is in the palm of my hand......this was over a year ago...and she is constantly buying me gifts and stuff and always eager to see me....

So guys the OP makes a very solid statement....walk away with your head high and never ask and certainly never beg them for anything and never wait for anything as well...if they want a break give it to them on the spot and go out and meet other girls immediately...they may realize the mistake they made and come crawling back...if not...their loss and it's for the best. Whatever happens happens.

 

[j0504s]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Purefilth again.
glad this has been rezzzzzzzzzzzzurected

 

[Purefilth]

Aww thankss^^ Allow me to bump my thread. Seems some new guys here need to read it.

 

[JT12]

This is totally true. I went through a break up and in the worst way possible. We lived together and she left. So I had to sit around our home and stare at her **** for a month and then her family showed up unannounced one day with a moving truck and took all her **** and left me in a half empty apartment.

It was devastating; especially as she works right down the street and would stop over every other day to have sex and grab a few things like "clothes" and she kept on saying well do distance and blah blah but really she was just blowing me so I wouldn't put her **** on the road like she knew I would. Then her family showed up and acted like my best friend "Hey JT12 hows work and life and ETC" "Its so good to see you".

Though now I just feel a **** you attitude towards her and have since gotten in it. That felt awesome I wanted to be the first to have sex with another but idk if she has or not but who gives a **** in my head I did.

 

[writhe666]

Amen true through and through.

I lost all my power to a very good girl (yes she was wife material in every way) by being to "chivalrous". She got tired/bored went cold and blamed her parents break up, her moms sickness, school and even her period. Nah bro, she was inching away hoping she could keep an orbiter and emergency provider a cute puppy..dude you don't wanna be a chicks bestie..

my now foolish "betaized" self chased and chased until she gave me the cold shoulder. I knew it was the wrong way but i thought she was different and ditched all my don juan ways.

I should have kept my path (your mission, your definite purpose, something other than a girl) and told her to have her break, because i was moving on.

Don't let a woman tell you whats going to go on in a relationship. You make the rules and if she doesn't obey, take away your time attention and any other asset you invest in her. Make her feel she isn't worth the ground she stands on.

(harsh but you get my point)

 

[Purefilth]

Bump For the Newbies.

 

[j0504s]

Bump For the Newbies.

Deff/ a whorthy BUMP...Filth U sex machine...emergency plan B pill For the win ehheh

 

[Purefilth]

Deff/ a whorthy BUMP...Filth U sex machine...emergency plan B pill For the win ehheh

heh Its funny now its all done with - but I was wound up on wednesday!

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

This is so eerily similar to what happened to some guy I know, but he's always been a naive little ***** so he deserved it.

 

[Kailex]

The only breaks I take are the ones in between rounds.

 

[Purefilth]

Bump