so, what should I do now?

[xHighRollerx]

So, last saturday I went out with this girl I met a few days before, sent her a text saying that I had some running around to do and the passenger seat was hers if she wanted it. she said she would be looking good by the time I got there. I get her address, call her to tell her I'm outside and she gets in a we go. Everything went well, conversation was good, got her talking about sex and basically she couldn't talk enough about it. So I drop her off at her place later that night, get a nice long kiss from her tells me to call her tomorrow if I didn't have anything going on for the 4th. Said ok and started to head back home. She texts me about 15 minutes later:

her: did you make it home okay
me: yea I did
her: so was I an ok kisser?
me: you were pretty good.
her: thats good to know.
her: Thanks for today, I had a lot of fun

I sent her a text on Sunday(4th), told her I was gonna be close and I could swing by and get her, then
her: I'm at my cousins, in (town about an hour away) I'm sorry.
me: no worries, you gonna be there all night?
her: ya

called her on teusday but no answer, sent a text this morning(wed)
me: meet me at my office at 1
her: I'm working
me: ok

I already know most are gonna say to just drop her, but I already know that one, I'm looking to see what else can be done if there is anything to salvage this.

 

[fatdog]

You've tried to establish communication too many times without reciprocation. I'd wait it out and get busy with other things in your life until she comes around. You're coming off as real eager, which may turn her away.

 

[xHighRollerx]

yea, as I was typing that up I realized that, so I'll back off and see what happens.

 

[COD]

DUDE JUST ASK OR TEXT "when are you available to do something".......dont complicate this or over think this.

Id opt for a phone call rather than a text, more personable and gets her used to your voice rather than cold technology texting.

IF SHE IS TRULY INTERESTED.........SHE will SAY YES, if not you will get another excuse.

ACTIONS SPEAK VOLUMES..............Mostly hers.

TWO THINGS COME INTO PLAY FOR ATTAINING ANOTHER DATE;

A) she is really busy, people have lives outside of dating.........huh go figure.

B) SHE HAS OPTIONS and sad to say U are a last resort option, kind of an if all else fails theres always you as a back up if some other guy cancels.

women who casuaL DATE have difficultly turning down offers from nice guys, so they give em the run-a-round. Cut 'em loose and say NEXT.

 

[xHighRollerx]

so if I ask her when shes available to do something, does it really matter when I call or text, as in today versus 3 or 4 days from now?

 

[NO MA'AM]

DUDE JUST ASK OR TEXT "when are you available to do something".......dont complicate this or over think this.

No, do not do this. While COD is right about cutting around the b.s. and flat out finding out when the girl is available, doing so in this manner mistakenly conveys too much availability on the part of the guy. It also mistakenly conveys that the guy will adjust his schedule around the girl.

Id opt for a phone call rather than a text, more personable and gets her used to your voice rather than cold technology texting.

Yes, do this. Phone calls are MUCH more personable and communication is a lot easier. It is much easier and better to arrange a meet-up or date over a phone call than through I.M. or text message.

 

[Sandow]

Yea you can keep trying I guess. Or go no contact for a bit, then shoot her a call or text and see how she responds to it.

 

[COD]

forget all that conveying crap...........JUST ASK.......i betcha 1 of 2 things will happen..........she will convey an excuse or GET THIS..........TELL U THE TRUTH.

THE WHOLE POWER SHIFT NON SENSE mistakenly conveys too much availability on the part of the guy. It also mistakenly conveys that the guy will adjust his schedule around the girl. THIS IS WHAT I MEANT BY OVER ANALYZING STUFF..............ASK THATS IT. DID I say adjust your schedule, did I say make an appointment with your doctor for GENDER RE-ASSIGNMENT SURGERY.............HELL NO.

BUT lose that pickup artist, alpha male mentality............GET A RESPONSE GOOD OR BAD OR MOVE ON.

WHEN U ASK DIRECTLY YOU GET A DIRECT ANSWER.........if U meet her and she turns out to be a waste of time at least U found out early. If she spews another excuse on the phone.........again you got your motivation to move on.

Its not knowing, no response that leaves you questioning what might be the reason.........JUST ASK........

IF YOU DESIRE TO STICK WITH THAT pickup artist mentality.......OPT FOR EITHER OR ULTIMATUM...........

WHICH DAY WORKS BEST FOR YOU WEDNESDAY OR THURSDAY........PICK ONE.

ME.........I ask directly........and i get my answer instantly. When U start splicing your words, syntax, adjusting your alpha male BS.........it just complicates stuff and if it dont sound genuine CHICS PICK THIS UP.

ALL your doing is asking a question........yes or no lady. Chics dont go thru the whole why is he calling me for a date saturday, why is he willing to adjust his schedule, etc............SERIOUSLY DUDE CHICS DO NOT THINK THIS WAY.........alpha males with too much time on their hands do. They got a tactic for everything when all they should have done is FLAT OUT ASKED.

AND YOU KNOW WHAT.........if she says no...........screw her its her LOSS. You are so worth more than silly excuses, like she would have gone out with you had only U displayed more alpha........PFFT YAAAAAA RIGHT.

REAL CHICS DIG honesty, and you should never be affraid to reveal your softer side.

Its up to you to decide which advice works BEST FOR YOU. Now flip a coin, shake your magic 8 ball and call..........RIGHT NOW.

LET US KNOW WHAT HAPPENS......EITHER WAY

 

[Warrior74]

Give her the gift of missing you...hell I've dropped chics for a week or two while chasing some other girl and then one day when I'm bored I might call them and see if they want to do something. They might not contact me during that time...but I'm so busy with work and other stuff, its not that big of a deal. I don't treat it like one and neither do they. bad timing happens...she may be seeing someone, i may be seeing someone, she might be busy, I might be busy...if we hook up, we hook up, if we don't we don't...she's just one girl of the few I call and ask out to have fun with.

That's the attitude to have. I have worked that plan for as long as a month or two...the girl I'm going to a party with in a couple of weeks I haven't seen in months. We just started chatting out of the blue on facebook, and planned a date...if she cancels I'm still going to the party, maybe solo, or maybe with someone else. It's all fluid man, you gotta get in the flow!

 

[iliketennis]

don't do anything drastic.. and call instead of text

 

[xHighRollerx]

Lot of good pointers from everyone. So, I hear a lot of call instead of text, with a text, I know she will respond, if I call her, and she doesn't answer, what kinda voicemail should I leave, I can basically hold my own pretty well, but voicemails are not my strong suit.

 

[iliketennis]

i usually just tell them to call

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Give her the gift of missing you...hell I've dropped chics for a week or two while chasing some other girl and then one day when I'm bored I might call them and see if they want to do something. They might not contact me during that time...but I'm so busy with work and other stuff, its not that big of a deal. I don't treat it like one and neither do they. bad timing happens...she may be seeing someone, i may be seeing someone, she might be busy, I might be busy...if we hook up, we hook up, if we don't we don't...she's just one girl of the few I call and ask out to have fun with.

That's the attitude to have. I have worked that plan for as long as a month or two...the girl I'm going to a party with in a couple of weeks I haven't seen in months. We just started chatting out of the blue on facebook, and planned a date...if she cancels I'm still going to the party, maybe solo, or maybe with someone else. It's all fluid man, you gotta get in the flow!

This is gold advice first of all!

Secondly your CHASING TOO HARD!!!

Were all attracted to what we can't have and at this point its too early to be calling her so much without letting her miss you or wonder what your up to.....

If she had very high interest then it wouldn't matter, but the events of the last couple texts/phone calls prove that her interest is mild to medium at best right now.

Be more confident, I'd disappear for at least a couple days, preferably longer and focus on other girls and she might even contact you during this time.

Your interest is too high, she knows it and this is a recipe for failure.

When she asks you stuff like "so was I a good kisser?" --- that's a PERFECT opportunity for you to increase the attraction by saying something ****y or funny: "you were alright.... I guess, while laughing or LOL through text or something sarcastic "it was the best I've ever had!! LOL"

The point is, these are golden opportunities for you to amplify the attraction, instead your supplicating and reaffirming that she is a goddess whether you meant to or not.


Cliff Notes: Disappear, focus on other chicks, be more confident with her and bang her.


And enjoy yourself, too many guys stress over all this, its just one chick and its suppose to be fun!!! Don't forget that and don't have any expectations and you will never lose.





PIMP

 

[xHighRollerx]

I gotta say pimp I like the sound of your advice, I've got **** that needs to get done these next few days, so ignoring her won't be too much of an issue. On a side note, although the texts really weren't too ****y or funny, believe me when see was with me there was plenty of it. Looks like my texting is a little lacking lately.