So this girl I really like is interested...

[DJZ]

Ok here's the deal. This girl that I've been checking out in one of my classes, I'm pretty sure likes me. I saw her out one day at the cafeteria and introduced myself to her, and we ate lunch together. Now whenever I come into class she always makes eye contact with me, and has a huge smile. I don't sit by her, but have always sat a few seats back. The other night I bumped into her at a bar, and she gave me a big hug, yelled my name and had a huge smile. She also asked me who I was there with, which I took as her trying to find out if I was there with another girl.

Anyway, I want to take my time with this one, and play hard to get. If she does like me, which I'm pretty sure she does, should I sit next to her next time we have class? Or, I thought about maybe sitting by her one time, and the next time not. I'm not trying to get all technical, but this chick is an HB9, so I want to make sure I keep her IL up. If I start sitting by her everytime we have class, she might think I'm to easy of a catch. I dunno, come on DJ's, what should I do?

 

[becker]

If she's very interested in you, then so long as you don't act like a total AFC idiot around her, you should be OK.

The main problem I've seen here is that if she doesn't know you well, she may be attracted to the image of you, rather than you. Then, when she actually gets to know you better, you'd better be at least a little close to the image she has (which you're responsible for creating anyways, so it shouldn't be too far off) or else she may get turned off.

 

[Walden]

Originally posted by DJZ

Anyway, I want to take my time with this one, and play hard to get. If she does like me, which I'm pretty sure she does, should I sit next to her next time we have class? Or, I thought about maybe sitting by her one time, and the next time not.

Fcuk that "hard to get" sh*t. If you want her , take her out , apply kino on the first date and fcuk her silly at your frist opportunity.

How interested do you think she's going to get by waiting?
If you wait for six weeks will she get so interested that she asks you out?

NO!

Okay I gotta get some air , I think I ruptured something.

 

[Nathan]

Exactly.

WTF are you waiting on?

Don't ask her out, tell her that you two need to go out sometime.


"Hard to get" is very good for those women that try to play mind games with you, or those that may take a little prep work first, but if a woman's IL is high enough, you need to just be a man and take advantage of the opportunity, ie., don't fvck around wondering "does she like meeee?"

Read her signals on the date. If you think she's being aggressive in letting you know that she likes you, keep initiating and you'll probably get laid.


In essence, let this be a learning experience. Sometimes, you have to seize the moment and just TAKE what she's subtly offering you. A lot of men lose a lot of women because they simply don't the balls to just DO what the women are DYING for them to do -- ask them out, kiss them, fvck them, whatever.

That's how you end up in the FriendZone, bro...

 

[violator]

Nathan has hit it on the head.

Too many inexperienced DJ's think that waiting around to make the move when she is giving you all the signals is the right thing to do. The fact is, and I learned this the hard way, playing hard to get or being a great challenge only works with girls who have initial moderate IL to begin with or need a little work to get her IL up there. Even Doc Love who is a great proponent of Challenge says it all goes out the window when the girl is giving you the green light.

And remember, you have to be keen to the suttle hints and womanize that women peddle because it is rare that a girl will outright tell you that she wants to have sex or get intimate with you.

For instance, a while back, I managed to get a HB9 in my apartment after a night out and I decided to play it cool and not make a move. Her IL nose dived after that because she probalby interpreted it as me not being sexual. The lesson I learned is that when a girl you hardly know agrees to stay at your home, this is a green light for you to make the move.

And, while passing through my neighborhood to drop off a chick at her house one night, she asked me that she was thirsty and if I had water. Like an idiot I went to a nearby 7-11 and bought her a bottle of water. The womanize I missed was that she really wanted to go to my house to get laid.

If the chick is giving you not so subtle hints that she want to fyck you and you don't respond in kind, she is going to LJBF'd you and find someone else. Depending on her IL, she may give you several tries. But eventually she will move on. Plain and simple.

It is all a matter of being able to read her.

 

[Nathan]

Right on.

Women feel like a slut if they say, "I want to have sex with you," but they don't feel like one if they give you some subtle hint and you take it.

It's weird, I know, but that's how they work.