So Tell me about Parties...

[BPH]

I'm 16, I'm a junior, and my social circle needs to expand outside of my own school. I'm simply not satisfied with the girls available to me within my own school.

So tell me about finding them as well as about throwing them

 

[Progress]

my social circle needs to expand outside of my own school. I'm simply not satisfied with the girls available to me within my own school.

Be social with EVERYONE! Chat to anyone and give value (not in a creepy PU sense, but inviting people over for a few beers and a movie etc, gatherings and whatever, making the stuff happen that YOU wish would - every high school dude thinks the same).

Invites will come flying back at you if you're good company, and there's bound to be a few 'outisders' at some of your mates nights. Get to know them, stay in touch over stalkbook or however you choose, invite them to things and get invited back.

Receiving invites and stuff is generally about offering something yourself.

 

[BPH]

How do I break into a social group though? It seems like the stoners at my school would like to party. But I don't smoke so how would I do something like that?

Otherwise I just need people to elaborate on what Progress said.

 

[arghx7]

Parties aren't easy to pull off in highschool. High school parties are glamorized in movies and ****, but most of the time it's a struggle because often you have to BS your parents to stay out late and nobody can seem to find booze. Usually the good ones are the ones where the parents approve of or even host the party (everything the media tells parents not to do).

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

The stoners will always welcome you into their group, as long as you have money for drugs. You'll pay dearly in several different ways if that's the group you choose to associate with. I am not speaking from a textbook, either. I learned a lot about human nature in the drug culture that most poeple will never understand. Let's just leave it at that.

As far as social circles, the easiest way is to try to make friends with a single person in the group and then see if they invite you to stuff that the group is doing. You don't need to be cool with an entire group to become part of a group. This same way of targeting specific people you think you'll get along with and then getting to know them works in high school, college, and during your adult life.

If you want to throw a party, you need to go to a few of them first. You need to see what it takes to get the word out, get the booze (and since you're 16, I'm officially recommending that you do not involve alcohol), and CLEAN UP afterwards. If it's at your parents' house, assume something will be stolen if it's a large party. I do not recommend throwing parties, unless you're already friends with many, many people.

It's really, really tough to meet people at other schools without some kind of common interest. The easiest way to do this is to actually find a hobby or sport that engages people from different schools/areas so that you can actually meet these people in a reasonable setting.

 

[BPH]

@Ripped: I play football and volleyball and I haven't heard anything of parties in either sport.

Also I don't want to be friends with the stoners but I want to be cool enough with them that I get invited to the things they hear about them.

I don't know, I just wanna get laid and I don't see that happening with the girls in my own school, so I'm looking to parties.

 

[arghx7]

As I was saying before, parties aren't as easy to pull off as you might think. If you are 21 and in college (no problems getting booze or finding a place) it can still be difficult if your school doesn't skew 60/40 female in terms of demographics.

In most cases parties have a natural tendency to turn into sausage fests. If there's booze and the remote possibility of girls, then a bunch of dudes will show up. If the ratio skews too much toward dudes, many girls don't want to show up (as weird as that sounds). They get uncomfortable being heavily outnumbered, and believe it or not a lot of the girls get the impression that you the host are a loser if you can't bring attractive females.

There are a couple important elements to throwing any good party. You need a location that isn't too hard to find and isn't too likely to get busted. You need to figure out parking. You need music that will appeal to girls (make them want to dance and shake their asses) but won't completely alienate the guys at the party. For example, whether you are into him or not lots of chicks like Lil Wayne but also lots of guys respect him.

But here are important keys

1) control expectations--if word gets around that you are having a "huge party" but you can't deliver, people will bounce and you will look like an idiot. Unless you know you can get a large crowd of girls, tell people it's going to be small and then let it get bigger if you want it to. It's all about quality over quantity. If people expect a huge awesome party straight out of movie you better deliver.

2) control the number of dudes, especially ones you don't know. Don't let some guy bring his three buds. When the ratio hits a tipping point you could be screwed, because as I said many girls don't want to go to a party with too many guys (believe it or not). So don't let many guys come unless they bring their own chicks.

3) Booze. I won't advocate breaking laws, but if you are baller enough to supply decent free booze for everybody (keg, whatever) go for it. The key is to keep strange dudes out because they will drink your beer and then leave or just start fights. Only girls and your inner circle should come.

 

[Alle_Gory]

You don't need to be best friends. Just be friendly, pleasant, and don't take sh*t and disrespect from people. Ideally, avoid all situations when that can happen.

It also helps if you make friendly with the girls.

 

[BPH]

Alright so going by what arghx7 said I don't think I'll be throwing my own party any time soon. I have a good location but no connections for booze, not a large social circle outside of my own school, and almost no place to park.

and don't take sh*t and disrespect from people. Ideally, avoid all situations when that can happen.

This is something I've never been quite good at. Specifically there is one class with 3 of my friends in it. The teacher is something of a pushover so we tend to screw around in there, but occasionally it makes me look like a b*tch. I mean they throw paper balls, punch each other in the back, and when they're behind me it gets annoying. I'll hit them back but I won't fight them because outside of this goofy class they are my friends.

So tell me how to deal with things like this please

 

[Alle_Gory]

So tell me how to deal with things like this please

If violence doesn't work, public embarrassment could. Make fun of them in front of everyone for being useless d*cks.

 

[powpow]

Just practice talking to people. Stay positive, and just say hi.

When I was in highschool, I went through a social blossoming period. Build some sort of worth, whether it is academic, sports, just excel at something.

Anyway, just go up to someone youve never talked to before and start talking. It was kind of awkward when I was in highschool, but I just decided to start going up to people and saying something like, "Hey, I see you all the time on campus and noticed that Ive never really met you. Whats up?".

Just smile, be cool, and talk. People are usually pretty receptive. Unless theyre a d!ck. And you dont want those people anyway.

I started with the guys first. Kind of builds social proof and anyway, its good to have a nice circle of guy friends. I met a lot of girls through my guy friends. The most important thing is that you prepare socially for college.

 

[Progress]

Just practice talking to people. Stay positive, and just say hi.

When I was in highschool, I went through a social blossoming period. Build some sort of worth, whether it is academic, sports, just excel at something.

Anyway, just go up to someone youve never talked to before and start talking. It was kind of awkward when I was in highschool, but I just decided to start going up to people and saying something like, "Hey, I see you all the time on campus and noticed that Ive never really met you. Whats up?".

Just smile, be cool, and talk. People are usually pretty receptive. Unless theyre a d!ck. And you dont want those people anyway.

I started with the guys first. Kind of builds social proof and anyway, its good to have a nice circle of guy friends. I met a lot of girls through my guy friends. The most important thing is that you prepare socially for college.

This is money advice for HS+College.

 

[BPH]

Just practice talking to people. Stay positive, and just say hi.

When I was in highschool, I went through a social blossoming period. Build some sort of worth, whether it is academic, sports, just excel at something.

Anyway, just go up to someone youve never talked to before and start talking. It was kind of awkward when I was in highschool, but I just decided to start going up to people and saying something like, "Hey, I see you all the time on campus and noticed that Ive never really met you. Whats up?".

Just smile, be cool, and talk. People are usually pretty receptive. Unless theyre a d!ck. And you dont want those people anyway.

I started with the guys first. Kind of builds social proof and anyway, its good to have a nice circle of guy friends. I met a lot of girls through my guy friends. The most important thing is that you prepare socially for college.

Gold

 

[Black Dog]

Just practice talking to people. Stay positive, and just say hi.

When I was in highschool, I went through a social blossoming period. Build some sort of worth, whether it is academic, sports, just excel at something.

Anyway, just go up to someone youve never talked to before and start talking. It was kind of awkward when I was in highschool, but I just decided to start going up to people and saying something like, "Hey, I see you all the time on campus and noticed that Ive never really met you. Whats up?".

Just smile, be cool, and talk. People are usually pretty receptive. Unless theyre a d!ck. And you dont want those people anyway.

I started with the guys first. Kind of builds social proof and anyway, its good to have a nice circle of guy friends. I met a lot of girls through my guy friends. The most important thing is that you prepare socially for college.

This is what I do, it's gotten people a lot more willing to talk to me, but no party invites.......(I'm a Junior in HS as well)


I think you really need to join a sports team, and/or club to get to knowing a lot of people.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Yeah, I agree with these posters.

For my first 3 years of high school, sports were my only form of social life, and they allowed me to make friends that I otherwise wouldn't have had a chance at making. I also built some confidence from those early friendships that allowed me to break into other social groups.

Plus I got in amazing shape! It's a win-win.

 

[Black Dog]

Yeah, I agree with these posters.

For my first 3 years of high school, sports were my only form of social life, and they allowed me to make friends that I otherwise wouldn't have had a chance at making. I also built some confidence from those early friendships that allowed me to break into other social groups.

Plus I got in amazing shape! It's a win-win.

Yeah it keeps you in great shape, plus you meet the ladies with who keep in great shape as well.

 

[BPH]

Thanks for the tips guys.

Just practice talking to people. Stay positive, and just say hi.

When I was in highschool, I went through a social blossoming period. Build some sort of worth, whether it is academic, sports, just excel at something.

Anyway, just go up to someone youve never talked to before and start talking. It was kind of awkward when I was in highschool, but I just decided to start going up to people and saying something like, "Hey, I see you all the time on campus and noticed that Ive never really met you. Whats up?".

Just smile, be cool, and talk. People are usually pretty receptive. Unless theyre a d!ck. And you dont want those people anyway.

I started with the guys first. Kind of builds social proof and anyway, its good to have a nice circle of guy friends. I met a lot of girls through my guy friends. The most important thing is that you prepare socially for college.

Especially this.

Before I apply it is there anything else I should know?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Before I apply it is there anything else I should know?

Before you apply talking to people socially?

Say hi. Talk about the class. Talk about the weather. Don't pee on them.

What else could there be that you couldn't figure out on your own? You seem like a smart enough guy.

 

[ArcBound]

Specifically what do you need to know about throwing a party? I can definitely help you on this subject.

The only thing you really need for a party is some friends and free alcohol and people will come...

 

[Alle_Gory]

Throwing a party tip #1. Avoid your place as the location if you have nice stuff and clean sheets on your bed and you want to keep it like that.