So, she knows i want to just ****., anything else i need to do on my part?

[DJnoob]

She knows i want to fack, i told her in a straight forward manner.

Background: 1st date went fine. We had lots of kino, hugging,
Fast forward 3 days
Text convo summary
Milf: So, u just want to have sex with me right?
Me: Yes
MILF: Well, then, ill just introduce you to other woman from work for that sort of thing. etc etc.
--end of text-- ( I deleted her number already after that)

Fast forward 6 months, she sees me at casino, she takes me out to dinner there. She asked me if i had gf, she said he broke up with bf etc etc... There was light kino.. then i told her we should see a movie together. She said, i dont normally watch movies, but ill try it once.

Fast forward 3 days later, i see her at casino, she asked me to dinner again.
Below is just a sumary.
Me: Hey, put your number in, i forgot i lost it (but i really deleted it from long ago)
Her: oh, i dont use phones anymore, too many people calling me.

Anyway,
WTF? So, MY QUESTION IS, DO I STILL NEED TO TRY HERE????????????????? I feel like if i keep TRYING, ill be sounding needy. OR IS IT UP TO HER NOW? SHE IS A MILF, SHE SHOULD KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS??????????????????????????????????????????????????????

tnx

 

[AlphaNate]

If you hadn't answered yes to wanting to have sex with her, you could have ****ed her six months ago.

 

[dustmuffin]

She knows i want to fack, i told her in a straight forward manner.

Background: 1st date went fine. We had lots of kino, hugging,
Fast forward 3 days
Text convo summary
Milf: So, u just want to have sex with me right?
Me: Yes
MILF: Well, then, ill just introduce you to other woman from work for that sort of thing. etc etc.
--end of text-- ( I deleted her number already after that)

Fast forward 6 months, she sees me at casino, she takes me out to dinner there. She asked me if i had gf, she said he broke up with bf etc etc... There was light kino.. then i told her we should see a movie together. She said, i dont normally watch movies, but ill try it once.

Fast forward 3 days later, i see her at casino, she asked me to dinner again.
Below is just a sumary.
Me: Hey, put your number in, i forgot i lost it (but i really deleted it from long ago)
Her: oh, i dont use phones anymore, too many people calling me.

Anyway,
WTF? So, MY QUESTION IS, DO I STILL NEED TO TRY HERE????????????????? I feel like if i keep TRYING, ill be sounding needy. OR IS IT UP TO HER NOW? SHE IS A MILF, SHE SHOULD KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS??????????????????????????????????????????????????????

tnx

She is using you for entertainment. Move along

 

[devilkingx2]

don't pay for an expensive dinner for her, see if you can smash, don't waste time if you can't, don't waste money until you find out.

she sounds like she's playing games

 

[bigneil]

Punctuation would be a start.

Thank you for not having texted this from an Obamaphone.

(and don't pay for dinner, says the 19 year old who lives with his mommy).

 

[devilkingx2]

Punctuation would be a start.

Thank you for not having texted this from an Obamaphone.

(and don't pay for dinner, says the 19 year old who lives with his mommy).

I didn't mean "don't pay for dinner on principle" in that particular post, I meant "don't pay for dinner with a girl who doesn't seem interested enough to bang you"

And even then I said expensive dinner, you can take her to Applebee's for a 2 for 20 kind of thing, but don't get the escargot and caviar

Or in other words, would you lend $100 to someone who doesn't seem like they're going to pay you back? Of course not, $5 maximum

 

[dude99]

She knows i want to fack, i told her in a straight forward manner.

Background: 1st date went fine. We had lots of kino, hugging,
Fast forward 3 days
Text convo summary
Milf: So, u just want to have sex with me right?
Me: Yes
MILF: Well, then, ill just introduce you to other woman from work for that sort of thing. etc etc.
--end of text-- ( I deleted her number already after that)

Fast forward 6 months, she sees me at casino, she takes me out to dinner there. She asked me if i had gf, she said he broke up with bf etc etc... There was light kino.. then i told her we should see a movie together. She said, i dont normally watch movies, but ill try it once.

Fast forward 3 days later, i see her at casino, she asked me to dinner again.
Below is just a sumary.
Me: Hey, put your number in, i forgot i lost it (but i really deleted it from long ago)
Her: oh, i dont use phones anymore, too many people calling me.

Anyway,
WTF? So, MY QUESTION IS, DO I STILL NEED TO TRY HERE????????????????? I feel like if i keep TRYING, ill be sounding needy. OR IS IT UP TO HER NOW? SHE IS A MILF, SHE SHOULD KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS??????????????????????????????????????????????????????

tnx

I don't use phones. Lie.
Everyone uses a phone. Unless they are Mennonite.

Next.

 

[stovepipe]

If you hadn't answered yes to wanting to have sex with her, you could have ****ed her six months ago.

This. You should have said you wanted something more. Then pump n dump. You fell for her trap.

 

[devilkingx2]

This. You should have said you wanted something more. Then pump n dump. You fell for her trap.

isn't letting girls think you're auditioning for provider instead of lover usually a bad thing?

So.... you screw up by letting girl know you just want to f*ck, she offers to introduce you to women she knows for exactly that purpose and your second instinctive reaction was to.... delete her number? Or did you just automatically listen to the automatic "next" advice so often given?

perhaps OP thought she meant "if you want that, I'll give you the number for an escort service" or something along those lines, which is how i personally originally interpreted it

 

[DJnoob]

yeah, id hate to be the "desperate guy'.. along those texts she said something like "Oh, what a waste.. i really liked you"

in my head i was going, "i thought she was looking for a no strings attached relationship" because thats WHAT SHE SAID during our dinner talk (just sex, from my understanding and i figured she's in her 40s and would know what she really wanted).

Anyway guys, i moved on. I appreciate the insights. I hate being used as "entertainment" and i hate "crawling and begging". Im not gona go for that carrot at the end of the stick

 

[devilkingx2]

in my head i was going, "i thought she was looking for a no strings attached relationship" because thats WHAT SHE SAID during our dinner talk (just sex, from my understanding and i figured she's in her 40s and would know what she really wanted).

women have all kinds of hangups about dumb sh!t, even most of the ones looking to hookup aren't going to outright admit it (ever been on tinder and see a bunch of morons on tinder saying they don't want hookups?)

 

[DJnoob]

BTW

This female is a Filipina , 45 years old, 2 kids, and watching over 2 of her parents and earning money on her own to pay for rent.

maybe..she's never had a casual relationship and not used to it yet. I dont know..

 

[kenpiffyjr]

So.... you screw up by letting girl know you just want to f*ck, she offers to introduce you to women she knows for exactly that purpose and your second instinctive reaction was to.... delete her number? Or did you just automatically listen to the automatic "next" advice so often given?

Exaaaactly!

Where are your fun genes? This was fun banter to me, and you totally went serious for nothing! Lol

The fact that she asked you if you just wanted sex is a set up to poon, you just played it totally wrong. If she's asking you a question like that...think about it, you're not in the friend zone. YOU have to start being in the moment and REALLY listening. Though your intentions are good, I can tell by that one exchange that you are not in the moment and kinda in the deep end of the ******* mode ...just picking replies like its guidelines.

Her: you just wanna have sex with me right?
You: Wrong!
Her: *startled look* wrong?!?
You: you think dinner and gazing into my eyes is all its going to take to get in my pants?

If you can't imagine yourself even saying that...you need to work on your fun/aloof personality aspect. You might be too serious.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Also I'll add that "yea" isn't bad. If a girl wants to f*** you it doesn't matter what you say or your personality...BUT in this instance, I can tell by that question she hadn't figured it out yet which is when you have to have a lil game to swing the pendulum.

 

[old_skoolr]

Props for telling her you just want her for sex.

You lose points for not being sarcastic, when she said she'll introduce her to some friends, should've called her bluff and invited her to a bar only if she brings her friends.

Though some common sense would tell me you use this kind of game on a 18-25 year old, not a 45 year old with 2 kids. Bit of tactical nous goes a long way.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[devilkingx2]

BTW

This female is a Filipina , 45 years old, 2 kids, and watching over 2 of her parents and earning money on her own to pay for rent.

maybe..she's never had a casual relationship and not used to it yet. I dont know..

a 45 year old woman with 2 kids has been around the block twice as many times as you have.

 

[DJnoob]

exactly, so, thats why i just went straight to the point. 45 year old, 2 kids, been around the block..... no games.. right?

 

[devilkingx2]

exactly, so, thats why i just went straight to the point. 45 year old, 2 kids, been around the block..... no games.. right?

i was just saying that assuming she hasn't done casual relationships makes no sense, she may be stupid enough to continue playing games despite being middle aged

 

[DJnoob]

i was just saying that assuming she hasn't done casual relationships makes no sense, she may be stupid enough to continue playing games despite being middle aged

yeahh, your right on. True true. That she hasn't had casual relationships. true true..was my assumption too.