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*Kinda long sorry*

So my ex recently reached out to me on Sunday crying and **** told me I was right about what I said about relationships and so on and that she will never find another person like me(not gonna lie my mind was telling me that this was bull**** but I still talked to her anyway) anyway so we talked all Sunday night said our goodbyes and I got her feeling better and the she text me again on Monday just casual conversation and she asked me out to go out with her on Sunday which I agreed on(she even asked if we could start over and give us another shot which I told her when we go out Sunday we see how it goes) anyway I haven't heard from her since left her message last night on WhatsApp which I am seeing she read it(the message read"hey if u still up for meeting up on Sunday let me know no explanation is needed just a simple yes or no") still haven't gotten any reply yet so Im already planning on not meeting her again anyway but I wanna know what u guys think that was all about,what her whole reason for just reaching out to me for telling me she was ts to Start over and then disappeared?(I personally think she and her new boyfriend was just having some issues and she just texted me just to get attention or validation but let me know what u guy think).
 

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I checked the calendar, it's Saturday right now. The reason she hasn't messaged you back is because she wants you to message her, which you don't do, since she didn't answer to your text. You make plans for the Sunday, got other options? If no, I suggest a bottle of some kind of whiskey and a movie at home, always works for me, or a pub, always works. She's going to message you Sunday I guess, you reply to her in several hours without reading her message, and you tell her that you already made some plans, tell her you'll come up with time for her next week. From this point on man, no Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays, it's only midweek at your place. She has entered herself into realm of being nothing more than a f buddy. Even if she does message you today, which she should, she's still an f buddy, and you invite her over to your place to fck.
 

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*Kinda long sorry*

So my ex recently reached out to me on Sunday crying and **** told me I was right about what I said about relationships and so on and that she will never find another person like me(not gonna lie my mind was telling me that this was bull**** but I still talked to her anyway) anyway so we talked all Sunday night said our goodbyes and I got her feeling better and the she text me again on Monday just casual conversation and she asked me out to go out with her on Sunday which I agreed on(she even asked if we could start over and give us another shot which I told her when we go out Sunday we see how it goes) anyway I haven't heard from her since left her message last night on WhatsApp which I am seeing she read it(the message read"hey if u still up for meeting up on Sunday let me know no explanation is needed just a simple yes or no") still haven't gotten any reply yet so Im already planning on not meeting her again anyway but I wanna know what u guys think that was all about,what her whole reason for just reaching out to me for telling me she was ts to Start over and then disappeared?(I personally think she and her new boyfriend was just having some issues and she just texted me just to get attention or validation but let me know what u guy think).
No anwswe then dont txt anymore, double txting is needy
She just want a back up plan imo act accordingly
 

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She was feeling bad and insecure and needed some validation so she got it from you and now she doesn't need you anymore, until she needs more validation......you fell for it, but don't feel bad because 97% of men do.......

Sure I can be wrong but I'm leaning towards this here, she's a ex for a reason, I wouldn't even had responded to her at all in the first place, hell I would of forgotten she even exsisted depending on how much time has past since the break up......
 

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Most likely.

IMO, this is unacceptable behavior. Do not let her come running to you every time sh*t goes south with some other dude she is banging.

My advice is to turn the page on this girl even if she does respond.

She’ll run off to someone else for validation all the same if you get back together again. Also not worth being a f-buddy. Too close to home and manipulation. If you want a f-buddy find it in someone else you don’t have an emotional history with.
This is the likely reason.

Congrats on Moderator Amante. Nice to see your wisdom recognized. Cheers.
 

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(I personally think she and her new boyfriend was just having some issues and she just texted me just to get attention or validation but let me know what u guy think).
OP, You answered your own question, exactly this^. She wanted some temporary validation and you were available to give it to her.
 

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Most likely.

IMO, this is unacceptable behavior. Do not let her come running to you every time sh*t goes south with some other dude she is banging.

My advice is to turn the page on this girl even if she does respond.

She’ll run off to someone else for validation all the same if you get back together again. Also not worth being a f-buddy. Too close to home and manipulation. If you want a f-buddy find it in someone else you don’t have an emotional history with.
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Most likely.

IMO, this is unacceptable behavior. Do not let her come running to you every time sh*t goes south with some other dude she is banging.

My advice is to turn the page on this girl even if she does respond.

She’ll run off to someone else for validation all the same if you get back together again. Also not worth being a f-buddy. Too close to home and manipulation. If you want a f-buddy find it in someone else you don’t have an emotional history with.
Not gonna lie this makes a lot of sense
 

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If you guys only knew how much free beer I had to offer to get this gig....
I tried to sucker each of the new mods into sacrificing one HB from their rotation to the mod team, but none of them fell for it. :confused:
 

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You played it all wrong. She wanted you to be mean to her, and dismissive, because that is what she would have deserved... instead you were Mr easy, Mr nice
 

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Do not let her come running to you every time sh*t goes south with some other dude she is banging.
Do we always assume if a girl doesn't respond quickly / doesn't initiate contact / initiates then disappears - she is always banging another dude? Now I get 2% resistance or her story changes 2% I think she is getting hammering by a 6'1 black guy. This site will brainwash you.

she asked me out to go out with her on Sunday which I agreed on
Wouldn't have. Now you are in her frame / mindset.

Would have said "Possibly, let me check and get back to you."

"hey if u still up for meeting up on Sunday let me know no explanation is needed just a simple yes or no"
Wouldn't have said this.

1) If SHE is still up for meeting? Gives her the power
2) Let me know? Gives her the power
3) No explanation needed? (Means you want an explanation) Gives her the power
4) Just a simple yes or no? Gives her the power


I would have just said: "I'll pick you up 7:30 pm on Sunday."



My advice is to turn the page on this girl even if she does respond.

She’ll run off to someone else for validation all the same if you get back together again. Also not worth being a f-buddy. Too close to home and manipulation. If you want a f-buddy find it in someone else you don’t have an emotional history with.
+1
 

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