So over em, honestly

[ink_wizard]

Thanks kailex and thanks to everyone else for the replies, they made alot of sence.

However i thought i should give an update...The girl with the boyfriend, we started talking again and everything is fine now she was just busy but were still heavily flirting and have decided to meet up this weekend which im happy about but i have a small problem....she tells me shes not happy with her bf an that she broke up with him last night but yet when i go on her facebook she still has her relationship status in a relationship with him and shes still happily chatting to him like a gf and still flirting with him saying things like "i cant wait to wake up next to you" "you have such a cute voice i love you" "cant wait to see you tomorrow" etc
now isnt this all abit weird if they apparently "broke up"

I need your opinions, because i dont get her game here, is she playing us both?

 

[Pandora]

That's called being human. I do it to chicks, chicks do it to me all the time.

The problem with most men here... like 98% of them.. is that they involve themselves with so few women--usually one at a time or maybe 2-3--that they're unprepared when the chick flakes. I deal with flaky chicks all the time.

Seriously, guys, you have to get out and hit on more women. Or do online dating. Whatever. It's PURELY a numbers game. If you're a short ugly moron but you get yourself in front of 10 new women every week, over the course of the next 5 years you will get laid more than Tiger Woods. I won't say that your percentage of lays to introductions will be higher, but your overall number will be higher.

It's numbers, pure and simple. Think of it like a cold-calling telemarketer. Even if your product is super lame and you totally suck at sales, if you call 100 people a day you will outsell everyone around you.

I had a chick flake on me three days ago and another chick lead me on for weeks before it dawned on me she'd never sleep with me. Both of these things bugged me for about 5 minutes. Why? Because I have about a dozen other chicks that are taking nibbles from my bait

Exactly right. This is pure gold for most guys.

 

[teddy240]

everytime ive heard the "my life is crazy" or "my life sucks" is pretty much a flag that says "im not interested, but i want you to think my life is crazy and messed up so you get the hint that im trouble so youll leave" its funny, women know what to tell men that they know are totally into them. Would you be attracted to any other woman in your life that said her life sucked? no you would think she was a sad sally

 

[Falcon25]

You have to understand something. Sometimes, it has nothing to do with you. Girls have boyfriends, fuvk partners, they are on the rebound, on their period, they have hundreds of guys pursuing them, they want money, they want bad boy, they want nice guy, they want this they want that. But sometimes it has NOTHING to do with you. It just wrong timing, or something else.

 

[ink_wizard]

falcon i understand what u saying man, i just wish i didnt have to come across so many of these types of girls -__-

Gentleman i still need an answer to that question about with girl with bf, i seriously dont know what to do with her?

 

[Igetit!]

Gentleman i still need an answer to that question about with girl with bf, i seriously dont know what to do with her?

Well if she already has a boyfriend,why don't you just make things easier on yourself and go pursue another girl.



But whether you decide to go after her or not,the things I mentioned before about you being "nice" and befriending girls,you need to stop doing those things reguardless.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Similiar situation?????? Out of my comfort zone??

Ink,

I'm in a similiar jam. I've been seeing this girl for about a month, been on 3 dates. She was meant to see me last friday, but didn't call or text her reason for not turning up.

Then, that same day, she called and explained - said "sorry for not coming today", but I'll have to call you back", I was watching a World Cup matcxh with my buddy, and kinda gave the impression that I didn't care and that I was going out the following night to have fun, bye bye.

She hasn't called since, she phoned twice yesterday, but I didn't pick up, then I shot her a text in th emorning to call me, she called until this afternoon and said she HAD TO CALL ME BACK, again.

We haven't spoke like we usually do, no flirting, phone talk or texts, NOTHING? Note: Every date we've had so far has been non-stop make-outs and sexual escalation, beats me??????? :s

 

[ink_wizard]

pachuco, thats weird i dont know what to say man because im pretty much in the same boat at the moment...

Says she likes me alot too and can see us having a future together but yet shes still with him and ohh i havent heard from her today at all, usually she messages me once a day an flirts abit, but i got nothing today an yesterday she hardly flirted as much as she usually does an was abit quiet?

I cant figure her out shes confusing as hell -_-

 

[Kailex]

She has a boyfriend.
There's NOTHING to figure out. She'll only contact you when he's not around or when she's mad at him... it'll only be situations where the advantage and convinience is all hers.

She says that you two have a future together, simply so that she can continue to string you along and keep you on an emotional leash, and it's clearly working.

As Igetit! said, why not just move on to someone who DOESN'T have a boyfriend?

She probably didn't message because she was too busy getting railed by the boyfriend. Food for thought.