So my GF tell me this morning that

[Sinistar]

why are you living with a chick almost ten years older than you. Set the cougar free....

...usually its more like the cougar has the chump pinned down under her front paw

 

[jophil28]

...she sat there and was like, "well what i meant to say was that the longer i know you the more i realize i dont know you."

i just shurged

THis later statement from her has quite a different spin on it.

Her original statement indicated that she felt irritated by your unwillingness to fall in line with her political leanings and that she regarded your relationship as becoming distant ( "growing apart"). She gave you a quick insight into her feelings toward you.

Now she is changing her story because she has had time to consider the ramifications of what her revealed. Now you are getting the sugar coated version because she realised that she told you the spontaneous truth about how she feels toward you. The spontaneous truth is something that women avoid with a passion.

If I were you I would get ready to leave her before she leaves you.
Somehow i do not think that you will .

 

[steve38]

Hey useless...welcome to sosuave! I saw your posts about your fights and training on another forum and I cannot believe that someone who is such a stud in the fight game is such a wimp when it comes to women. You should be having the time of your life when it comes to the ladies and not putting up with any BS at all. Pay close attention to all the advice you are getting here and read everything in this forum. Eventually it will sink in and you will realize what this chick is doing to you. Good luck!

 

[useless]

Hey useless...welcome to sosuave! I saw your posts about your fights and training on another forum and I cannot believe that someone who is such a stud in the fight game is such a wimp when it comes to women. You should be having the time of your life when it comes to the ladies and not putting up with any BS at all. Pay close attention to all the advice you are getting here and read everything in this forum. Eventually it will sink in and you will realize what this chick is doing to you. Good luck!

haha thanks bro, what forum was it?

And i think thats my problem is that I focused so much of my attention with training and fighting that it bite me in the butt when it comes down to chicks.

 

[backbreaker]

what is the official "cougar" age? my GF is 33.. am I dating a cougar?

 

[slickaz]

So a few minutes later she tells me "the more that I know about you, the more we grow apart."

she changed it to "the longer I know you, the more we grow apart."

we've lived together since April on this year but been together off and on for 3 years if any of that matters.

Dude..let me ask you..she's known you 3 years and she's saying The longer i know you, the more we grow apart?

I know people have crossed the world in like 88 days..3 years? and if you were growing apart all this while, she should be on mars..

shes just being manipulative..you need to unhook her like a silk D cup bra. and move to newer younger, hotter tail..

she's threatening you while slowly building a case to one day very soon drop you.

women do that..they start to slowly build a repository of all the "bad" things you've done and then convince themselves they can
dump you
cheat on you
abuse you

id say, find another place for yourself..move out..and drop her like a wet panty.

 

[jophil28]

women do that..they start to slowly build a repository of all the "bad" things you've done and then convince themselves they can
dump you
cheat on you
abuse you

id say, find another place for yourself..move out..and drop her like a wet panty.

That is exactly what they do - priceless insight Slickaz.
I would add that their "definition" of bad behavior is irrational as well. A woman feels bad when her guy does not behave in a way that pleases her..ergo you are BAD because you made her FEEL bad. YOur actions do NOT have to be destructive or dishonest or immoral, they just have to trigger off any one of her negative emotions IN THE MOMENT for her to paint you black. However this all can change inside a day. There are no rules with most women.

There is an "off the planet " logic to all this, but do not try to understand it... life is bizarre and chaotic on Venus.

 

[MatureDJ]

Lay down the law

When she gives you all this BS about "growing apart" just because you will not lockstep vote for the same candidate, you just confront her and ask if she wants out because of this. It could very well force her to realize that she is being quite catty and picky in deciding her man - or make it clear that she doesn't value you all that much. It will show that you have a pair, and that is always a good thing.

 

[jafyk]

I agree with you, Speed dawg.

It comes down to the core values. I have a really, really good friend who is my complete political opposite, yet we roomed together for 2 and a half years and are still good friends to this day. We've had many discussions, but only one or two of them started to get heated, at which point we just left the room. The point is we respect each other as friends and as people with different values. He is a liberal poly-sci major, I am a conservative med guy.

An LTR on the other hand, is a different story. I would date a woman who had some marginal differences in political views, but not one who was markedly different from me. Why? Because it goes back to the whole 'unequally yoked' thing: it is going to cause problems down the road.

Say she supports a canidate who wants to tax the fvck out of the 250k + income bracket. That's my future income bracket, thank you. Of course I dont support this. Or say she is a major proponent of 'gay rights'....a lot of political issues are indicative of deeply-held beliefs. If I dont support 'special' rights for gays then I dont want my S.O. to either.

These remarks arent meant to be incendiary, just to illustrate. I'm sure I will be flamed for being a right-winged nutjob but I really dont give a fvck. I personally despise most politicians and politics in general. But I am a citizen and I am going to exercise my rights as such and vote for what I think is best.

To the OP:

-She is looking for a fight because she knows it will not last.
-Women will almost always take the indirect route to breaking up. I.e.--picking fights, subtle insults, henpecking, etc.
-As everyone else has reiterated, it is not in your best interest to 1) live with a woman, and 2) be in an LTR with one 9 years your senior.

One last note:

If ANY woman I was dating openly said those things about my political choices, it would be over. The rel. is destined for ruin. So my advice is you should exit before that happens.

I've read what you wrote and I can agree with you that one's party could be a sign of one's deeper values. I'm not for the gay rights either, I think it should be seen in the same way someone mighty prefer doggy over missionary. All the same although some political parties hold certain views they still have some views that one can find acceptable. I believe in democracy but not gay rights for example. It might sound contradictory but I'm sure you see where I'm coming from. Besides, according to my political science instructor during campaigns the candidates ussually come to the center on their views and afterwards go left or right.

 

[Hooligan Harry]

"So whats that mean and what do I do from here?"

It means she's a daffy fvckin dingbat and you should be with someone else.

Start listening to the Tom Leykis show.

And don't be moving in or living with any other chicks.

Get out of your current living arrangement as soon as possible.

Just pump em and dump em or keep a few girlfriends around who don't know you've got more than one relationship going and make sure that you stay at your place and they stay at their place and you only go to her place or she comes to your place when you want to hang out together or knock it out with her.

Avoid serious relationships and avoid marriage.

They do not benefit a man at all in today's world.

If you can't kill the need for a serious relationship bug inside of you though just make sure the next time around that once again you both talk about things in the beginning and make sure you hold the frame for the relationship moving forward which means hold to the dream of the relationship you want so if the girl is against something that is extremely important to you or does something as one of her habits that is against how you want a woman in a relationship with you to be move on and look for a new chick until you find what it is that you really want and who would be totally compatible with you.

Look for chicks with the same goals, dreams, religion or lack thereof, political beliefs or lack thereof and outlook on life as you have for the best possible results.

Don't ever settle.

If you can't find what you are looking for in a serious relationship partner just keep hittin it and quittin it with random girls.

Better to live that lifestyle than being married or in a longterm relationship with the first girl who says yes to having a relationship or marriage with you and then it going to fvcking hell later on as the resentment towards eachother grows from absolute lack of compatibility.

Also do a forum search here for red flags that show you the type of behaviors of girls to avoid.

Some examples I can give is...

-Avoid single mommies like the plague

-Avoid druggies unless you're into that

-Avoid chicks with tramp stamps ie tattoos unless you are a biker/gangbanger type of maniac

-Avoid chicks that vomit out some sob story immediately when you first are getting to know them as it is a false sympathy trap they are putting out to manipulate your emotions to draw you closer to them and under their control. They are usually fvcked up in any number of ways mentally.

-Avoid chicks that only have guy friends and no women friends in site or scarcely any woman friends. As a girl who cannot get along with other females is usually mentally fvcked up and the guy friends aren't friends but guys she occasionally fvcks or replacements for you when you get boring to her. You'll hear all kinds of excuses that sound reasonable for why she can't make female friends. Don't believe a one of em. A girl like this is fvcked up beyond all recognition and thats really all you need to know.

-Avoid older women that come on like gangbusters talking about wanting to start a family with their dream man as of course who they have in mind to be that guy is you and what they also want is financial security so you will be her choice for provider and baby daddy. Avoid this trap. Her attraction is false as she only wants financial security as well a baby to trap you.

Holy mother of christ

Dude, if you are only banging these broads and never looking for anything serious why the need to exclude so many women from your potential **** pool?

I dunno mate. Seems to me that if you are looking for something serious then the red flags you mention mean something. If its just a piece of ass, then it makes no difference if she has a tattoo or too many guy friends

 

[MrLuvr]

Maybe she is finding it hard to understand how anybody could consider for voting for this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQobIUE1zTU