CapedCrusader08
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You'res,her's,how you feel,how you make her feel,how to prevent her toying with your'es. You controlling your'es enough. Right?
So it's all about emotions?
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Yes,CaperCrusader08. It's all about emotions. Dude,this is basic,elementary knowledge about women. This is something you should have learn your first day here at Sosuave. You've been here two months,and you're just now figuring this out? Yeah,it's all about her feelings. It's not about you,that is,your character that they care about,it's how they feel when they're in your presence. That's all they care about. That's all. You can be the nicest,the sweetest,the most handsome,the most honest,the most generous,have the biggest house,drive the fanciest car,you can do all these things combined,but unless she "feels" something,it's all for useless.
You can do a hundred things right,but her not "feeling" anything will cancel out the 100 good qualities you have. And you can do a hundred things wrong,but if she feels chemistry/passion,that one positive of her feeling attraction will override the hundred negative things about you.
Yes,CapedCrusader08,it's all about emotions.
You can do a hundred things right,but her not "feeling" anything will cancel out the 100 good qualities you have. And you can do a hundred things wrong,but if she feels chemistry/passion,that one positive of her feeling attraction will override the hundred negative things about you.
Yes,CapedCrusader08,it's all about emotions.
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Well,I realize that;s how it is. I just haven't been doing anything or nothing right,or I overthink things very badly. Well,like you said,presence,how do you do it? The strong frame as you say, to get rid of any nervousness,anxiety,insecurity,etc. It also feels like not being "that guy",.the cool connected guy who has something really going for him,like a guy in a band for example,or a guy in a high paying job with a good education,etc.
Well, act like a high rolla. Act like a rock star. You exemplify being nervous, anxious and insecure by acting that way. People think I'm some somewhat rich guy because I have a big ass TV, decent car and I go to a private college, but I'm barely scraping by with the crappy job that I have. So, I go with the flow -- I act like a high rolla, I back it up with my intellect and I dress for success. It pays dividends my friend.
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Look,I don't mean to flood the board(s) with the same thing over and over,it's just I feel this is where I can come to really talk about my problems. I don't do to bad in most social situations,but there is this nagging feeling of something being wrong with me. I have some possibly real serious issues concerning shyness,sex,intimacy,social aspects,confidence,lack of risk taking,
Look,I don't mean to oveflow the board with the same thing,but it is the only place where I feel I can talk about my problems. I feel and am concerned I may have some serious issues concerning,sex,dating,intimacy,etc. I do alright in most social situations,but even tend to feel like something is wrong. I don't know,it could be from prolonged periods of isolation.
I feel rather behind in several of said areas,i don't know if it's due to just inexperience,or inaction,or what.
I also tend to not give a damn about stupid,superficial trends that people seem to hold in such high regard. I tend to see people as dumb,idiot,followers just following this,and making sure they say the right thing in order to just fit in.
Look,I don't mean to oveflow the board with the same thing,but it is the only place where I feel I can talk about my problems. I feel and am concerned I may have some serious issues concerning,sex,dating,intimacy,etc. I do alright in most social situations,but even tend to feel like something is wrong. I don't know,it could be from prolonged periods of isolation.
I feel rather behind in several of said areas,i don't know if it's due to just inexperience,or inaction,or what.
I also tend to not give a damn about stupid,superficial trends that people seem to hold in such high regard. I tend to see people as dumb,idiot,followers just following this,and making sure they say the right thing in order to just fit in.
So many people use self-help as an excuse to put off doing anything constructive. After all, you're just at the beginning of your journey, right? Small steps, right? No, do something immediately. As in right this second. Don't put it off another moment. If you're not willing to do something now, you're not willing to do it.
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Yeah,thats the problem. Not having taken action asap. Thats what kills me.
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Youre redudant in asking the same question cause youre expecting a magic pill to cure you. Everything takes WORK! You have to talk before you can crawl, you go through 12 years of school before college. You do things to prepare you for what follows. Youre not doing this. You want to get from A-Z by bypassing the rest of the alphabet. One step at a time.
You feel begnid, think if you haven0t read dj bible? 
you'd still be an afc!
you do have to learn how to talk to a girl, but most of that learning happens WHILE you talk to a girl. You wanna know how to swim, jump in the water! Action action action.
seriously dude, you must be BORED as HELL. You're doing the most BORING part of everything there is, learning how to do something that should be FUN. What the heck?! There's fun in failing too and don't mind embarassing yourself. Others can't hurt you unless you let them, remember that! IT's not like you're under a real threat going to talk to a GIRL. Go in for the practice at least. But do bolder stuff, step out of your comfort zone. And most importantly, don't give importance to whatever STUPID toughts get in your head. You're not THAT messed up, you said it yourself. Action! Nobody understands that lots of people spend tremendous energy just trying to be NORMAL.
Then you talk about your feelings... What's wrong with a little nervous? I'd RATHER have that energy then feeling DEAD. Which is what you are trying to do- ignore the feelings. FEelings are GUIDES man, that tell you something isn't right with you. Anxiety simply means that you are lacking on confidence. At least it's energy you can channel to excitment. View it as a positive. http://www.sosuave.com/articles/at/nervous.htm
I guess that if you do a little action, you'll feel better about yourself. Just remember you have to be comfortable getting rejected too, or else you won't go far. When you do stuff, don't aim at getting approval, do things that make you have fun and that if you fail, at least you get experience! If you think people are boring, learn how to socialize, or you can make your own fun, say things for your own fun. You know how to have fun right? Cmon, I'd like to see you do it!
you'd still be an afc! you do have to learn how to talk to a girl, but most of that learning happens WHILE you talk to a girl. You wanna know how to swim, jump in the water! Action action action.
seriously dude, you must be BORED as HELL. You're doing the most BORING part of everything there is, learning how to do something that should be FUN. What the heck?! There's fun in failing too and don't mind embarassing yourself. Others can't hurt you unless you let them, remember that! IT's not like you're under a real threat going to talk to a GIRL. Go in for the practice at least. But do bolder stuff, step out of your comfort zone. And most importantly, don't give importance to whatever STUPID toughts get in your head. You're not THAT messed up, you said it yourself. Action! Nobody understands that lots of people spend tremendous energy just trying to be NORMAL.
Then you talk about your feelings... What's wrong with a little nervous? I'd RATHER have that energy then feeling DEAD. Which is what you are trying to do- ignore the feelings. FEelings are GUIDES man, that tell you something isn't right with you. Anxiety simply means that you are lacking on confidence. At least it's energy you can channel to excitment. View it as a positive. http://www.sosuave.com/articles/at/nervous.htm
I guess that if you do a little action, you'll feel better about yourself. Just remember you have to be comfortable getting rejected too, or else you won't go far. When you do stuff, don't aim at getting approval, do things that make you have fun and that if you fail, at least you get experience! If you think people are boring, learn how to socialize, or you can make your own fun, say things for your own fun. You know how to have fun right?
Cmon, I'd like to see you do it!