Your LIFE. She'll take you as far down as you let her (and I promise her bottom is lower than yours). She can burn it to the ground, abandon her kids, take up with junkies in an abandoned trailer park--your ego won't let you walk away from all that. If you were full blown ASPD, I'd say go for it. You're not.
It's like, I'm not emotionally invested in a tornado hitting my house--doesn't mean it won't fvck up my life. She doesn't 'respect' you--you can't respect anyone or anything if you don't have some degree of self-respect, which require a degree of self, which she doesn't have. She has you beat at game theory by default. You're playing chicken--she removed the steering wheel from her car a long time ago.
The only play is to eject. She may or may not take it upon herself to ruin you (though she'll certainly try if you make it so damned convenient). You know what I did with my ex? I went BP AF; took the blame for everything; told all of our mutual acquaintances that I was fully responsible; mirrored her back to herself--told her I was a six year old trapped inside an adult body. Validation, validation, validation. Then I locked myself in my room for a month and meditated nonstop. There was no more game left for her to play--so everything blew over. That's a 'W.'
