so I'm going to ask this girl on a date through text

[JPlaya]

I honestly really don't know what to text besides hey and ****.

 

[oneboy21]

not a good idea to ask a girl out thru texting
Call first
develop some raport
and then ask

 

[HappyHarryHardon]

do NOT ask a girl out via text. call her and say "hey how you been? lets catch up on friday night/saturday night for a coffee and get to know each other a bit more. yeah? great! let's meet up... 7pm. see you then" ???

 

[Matthew Lyon]

Call her and ask:

You: "What are your plans looking like for tonight?"
Her: "Blah, blah... going out with my friends."
You: "I'll tell you what. Cancel what you're doing and come join me for a night of fun in town!"

 

[JPlaya]

What if we're friends, but not close friends and I've never called her before. Wouldn't that be kind of weird.

 

[Matthew Lyon]

What if we're friends, but not close friends and I've never called her before. Wouldn't that be kind of weird.

If you think it will be weird, then go with your intuition. Why not invite her out to do something as friends and then build chemistry from there? Any type of relationships needs to be built on the basis of being "natural".

 

[oneboy21]

Well you are trying to hit on a girl who you already know
SO try your luck, Mathew's suggestions is what i recommend

 

[HappyHarryHardon]

so you asked for her number or something at one stage? but you never called? what the fuk you waitin for boi!?

 

[JPlaya]

Well I used to text her, so I waited like a week in a half.

 

[mahoney]

ah you and your texting issues again

if the only thing you know what to say to a girl is "hey" then you really have something of a problem! are you going to have the same kind of problem if you actually do meet up? you really do need to become more interesting or have something to say about something! but really stop being so focussed on texting, you are obsessed with it!

how did you get this girls number? what was the context?

because you have trouble being interesting and you're sort of obsessed about texts even though you literally don't have anything to say at all, whatever you text is going to be poor, i think your only solution really is to be straight to the point, ask her to go somewhere with you next week..."hey you free any time next week, we should totally go to xyz one night"

 

[Your_Royal_Flyness]

I honestly really don't know what to text besides hey and ****.

Not to be mean...but stop being a WUSS. Call that chick, chat for 2-3 minutes then invite her out, e.g.:

"Hey, let's hang out at [place] on [day] at [time]...I wouldn't mind seeing you."

If she's interested, she'll agree. If she's a potential flake, you'll know because she will give an excuse (without counter-offering a different date/time) or will say "I'll let you know".

Here are some signs she'll flake:
http://www.twitvid.com/CEBFA


But yeah dude, f*ck all that texting. Call her or have her call you. Man up, homie!

 

[JPlaya]

Judging my history i dont think i would have madeit this far if she didnt think i was interesting. I just asked for her number and she told me to text her. Im probably just nervous. And wouldn't she think im weird if i called her. .Or i can call her and hope she doesn't answer and if she calls back say it was an accident and hope she tries to continue the convo

 

[Iceberg]

Judging my history i dont think i would have madeit this far if she didnt think i was interesting. I just asked for her number and she told me to text her. Im probably just nervous. And wouldn't she think im weird if i called her. .Or i can call her and hope she doesn't answer and if she calls back say it was an accident and hope she tries to continue the convo

She might think you're weird. She might not.

I think you're pretty weird. Because you already got lots of good advice in here, and you're still whining about the issue.

Here's the main thing - you want to ask her out. So fu*king do it. Do it by text. Do it by phone. Do it by written fu*king letter. Just do it and shut up about it.

Christ, man. You're not debating global warming. You're debating whether or not to text a girl. If she likes you, then it wont matter whether you text or call. So just do one (or the other) and stop responding with stupid comments every time someone tries to help you.

 

[Mike32ct]

Trust me, you are overthinking this. Calling a girl and asking her out is NOT a big deal. While it can be a little more scary, it isn't much different than calling a guy friend and inviting him to hang out.

Stress the EVENT, not that it is a "date." In fact, don't even use the word "date." It has to be "hang out" or "get together" or "catch up" or something like that. "Hang out" is classic. Or use none of the above as I did below.

Example:

Mike: Hey how have you been?
HB: Pretty good.
<Brief fluff talk>
Mike: Anyway, the reason I'm calling is that there is this really cool bar and grill called XYZ. They have really good bands play there and awesome chicken wings.
Mike: I wanna get over there at some point soon. I was thinking Thursday night about 7ish. Wanna go?

I recommend that you call her instead of texting. It shows more b*lls. Now if you get voicemail, simply leave your meet up suggestion as a voicemail. If she's interested, you will hear back. Otherwise, she will ignore you or give you an excuse. Either way, it's not a problem. You aren't doing anything wrong.

But, if you really feel better just doing this by text, then fine, just text her. It isn't THAT critical. Just get it done.

 

[JPlaya]

Yes. With most of the girls I've been with we practically only text each other. Calling was only done minutes before scheduled dates to confirm meeting points.

But its a new generation and everyone's different.

I can understand this

 

[Jeffst1980]

You SHOULD ask her out via text, because you are clearly petrified of calling her. Do what is comfortable for YOU.

All you need to do is come up with something fun that YOU would like to do and invite her.

"Hey, I'm going to xyz on Thursday to do xyz. Wanna come with me?"

If she's INTERESTED, she'll jump at the chance, or make a counteroffer if she's busy. Anything else, and she's probably not interested enough (this can change, though!).

It's really not that hard. There's no "magic bullets." Sure, some guys will tell you to text something more forceful like, "Let's together either Wednesday or Thursday," on the off chance that your TEXT ALPHA-
NESS (??) will tip the scales in your favor, but in reality, she either wants to meet up with you or she doesn't. It doesn't matter what you say, but you SHOULD err on the side of not creeping her out. No sexual talk!

 

[JPlaya]

I really dont know where to go lol. I was just planning on telling her that we should do something this summer and depending on her response i would say so what days are good for u in the next two weeks

 

[mahoney]

You're doing it again, instead of being firm and saying "lets do this one day next week" you are setting this up to be a string of texts - why do you want your initial text to be so vague? "we should do something this summer" - i mean, what is that? you are setting this up so when you ask her its not going to be in the first text, or the second but like the 5th. honestly, this first text is so vague and weedy, you're not giving her anything to work with at all, just some vague idea about doing....something....at some point...in the future? so that she'll respond and then maybe in your subsequent texts you'll ...eventually get around...maybe...to actually suggesting an actual thing at an actual date

Its like you want to stretch out the texting as much as possible, why are you so addicted to texting? Most people don't require a string of texts to arrange to meet someone. Make an actual suggestion, for a night next week

 

[Vice]

What if we're friends, but not close friends and I've never called her before. Wouldn't that be kind of weird.

That was the dumbest thing I've ever read.

Seriously? Are you that thick?

If it's weird to call her up, like any MAN would, what do you think it will be like when you two are TOGETHER?

Take a good, hard look at the link in my signature.

 

[JPlaya]

I just dont know where to go and im comfortable around her