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So I think I'm developing one-itis...

Joeybphs

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Well now, it's time for me to describe my situation.

Four years ago in the sixth grade I met a girl, and she thought I was weird as hell. Granted, I wore swear pants everyday and my t-shirts recycled every other day. I also looked like a loser and had the self confidence of a hamster. Or something. Anyways, she was a jerk to me all throughout middle school, and in high school stuff has changed. I rethought my style, learned to use products that kept my curly hair under control [tis more of a straight deal that curls at the ends :/] and now she apologized for being mean to me those years and we talk alot.

We have a class called Communication Applications.. teen leadership is what everyone calls it. We just talk about stuff that bothers us and learn to open up to people. It's a pretty bogus class but it's an easy speech credit. I was in a different class but transferred into hers a few weeks after the second semester started.

We greet eachother with a hug, and since I sit next to her in this class and band, I've sort of developed an interest in her. She's slim, athletic [in track], never had a boyfriend, good person, smart, reallllllly cute. [I know some of you people use some sort of hb# rating system here and I have no idea how it works. So I won't try.], and the longest eyelashes you've ever seen.

She's a really cool person, like for instance she leaned over and I got a glimpse of her underwear, she turned a bit red, I laughed and she joked about it ["Good thing I wasn't wearing a thong, that would've been worse"]..

Anyways, enough with the longwinded explanations. Sorry about that. Basically this girl has changed her attitude towards me, we've been talking a lot this year, she tells me who she likes [and she seems to like 2-4 guys at a time, which leads me to believe she's immature..], and I don't think she has an interest in me. Should I tell her and risk losing her? What do I do? I don't have any interest in any girls, and I get jealous easy when I see her talking to another guy when I'm nearby and she could be talking to me. I don't want to become obsessed with her.

Thanks sosuave, you guys rock. Especially if you read this far. Sorry about the wall 'o text.
 

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She just wants to be friends with you and has no interest in you, and she's not immature for "liking" 2-4 guys, that's what she's supposed to do...and don't be afraid to think about her logically rather than emotionally...she's just a girl, and chances are she's not super intelligent, genuinely nice to everybody, excellent taste in music and movies, great sense of humor (few girls have that)...don't let your emotions get the better of you. And if you feel the need, just stop talking to her...gradually maybe...but that will help you to let go.
 

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Exhumed said:
She just wants to be friends with you and has no interest in you, and she's not immature for "liking" 2-4 guys, that's what she's supposed to do...and don't be afraid to think about her logically rather than emotionally...she's just a girl, and chances are she's not super intelligent, genuinely nice to everybody, excellent taste in music and movies, great sense of humor (few girls have that)...don't let your emotions get the better of you. And if you feel the need, just stop talking to her...gradually maybe...but that will help you to let go.
Thanks. It's not like this is the first time I've had this problem. I kind of become fixated and no one else seems attractive. About the immature thing; it's just something I heard from another friend. :/ I tend to become emotionally attached kinda quickly. It's something I need to work on. Thanks for the response.
 

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You practically have oneitis.

Get rid of it, it just ruins your game there no direct easy way to get rid of it, it's all in your head so work it out in your head, read heaps of the stuff on this website it'll get her out of your mind, and should keep you thinking about the advice days after.


High school game, is a little bit different from older game you can get away with a sh!tload more if the girl is interested in you.

Only try with this girl if you don't have onetitis with her, so I'm saying yes give it a shot, change again, use the advice from this website to make it damn obvious your not trying to be just friends, but as the advice says don't make it too obvious. I know the girls your talking bout never had a boyfriend, cute, shy (but not shy lol) and like 4 different guys and are happy to say it and tomorrow it will be a different 4, and you know what there is a fairly good chance that often you come up in this 4 but she leaves your name out, girls like this have no experience therefore skill in there own game therefore they don't know the signals there giving off thats why she can't find a guy because there confusing as anything.

So just get over her, use the advice, then try get her and if you fail move on
 

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I know this is going to sound way lazy, but is there any particularly important 'MUST READ' articles that I should make sure not to miss? I'm starting with the DJ bible - I had already read a bit of it before I made this post, but I guess some of the advice got lost due to the past several days of drama.

A friend of mine, who I would call a DJ himself, [this girl I was talking about is interested in him, and so are tons of others. He's always right when it comes to girls. Kinda amazing.], told me my problem was that I'm way dramatic. Eh.

But yeah, if there's any really important do-not-miss-this articles, I'd appreciate a link. thanks.
 

Analyzeit

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The bible points out the MUST READ ones i'm sure you've seen em

Yeah the bible looks pretty........ long and its kinda not exactly set out great looks like a mission.

Just read it as you can, the good thing about this is you actually want to learn it, so most of it gets absorbed pretty quickly.

Everybody has different opinions on this question, i personally find the best ones to read are the attitude ones. I feel that being a Dj is more based on attitude then being just a PUA, the fact is there is no exact advice to know everything is good lol
 
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