Hello.
I've been around this site reading on and off for a few years now, and never felt compelled to sign up until now. A little about myself. I'm 20, almost 21. I'm in the military. That's all you really need to know for this story.
Well, I was sent out to NJ for an AF training exercise that lasted for two weeks. There I met this girl, who is 21, and married to her high school sweetheart. She's been married to him for a year, but dated him for like 5 years before that or something. He's the only guy she's ever been with. We had a lot of time to converse and hang out during this exercise, and we really hit it off well. We had so much in common, it was EASY. I mean, it was crazy how much we had in common; right down to having the same car, and both have a left knee injury called patella-femoral syndrome. I swear, I've never instantly connected with a chick like this in my life. We talked a whole lot, played games together, even corny stuff like writing stories together one line at a time (this is how I found out that she was attracted to me; it was easy for her to describe how she felt this way.)
But the simple fact that she's MARRIED kept me from making any risky moves. She was also steadfast in not cheating on her husband, which only attracted me more. But on the last night, a bunch of us at the exercise had a pool party, and we all swam and had a few drinks, except her because he husband didn't want her to drink with us. We had a lot of fun in the pool, some friendly close contact was going on (such as me giving her a piggy-back ride, her riding on my shoulders and trying to push off other girls who were riding on other guys shoulders, and dunking her under water a lot). But when she talked to her husband and he told her that he didn't want her to hang out with us (we were having a pool party at the hotel and drinking) I could see the longing in her eyes that she wanted to stay with me, and was fighting a fierce battle within her. I told her that I really wanted her to stay, just to hang out with all of us, but I understand she has to listen to her husband. So she left, and I got annihilated. I got black out status drunk and I sent her a few revealing text messages saying I was thinking about her, etc. Then I called her later that night apparently and told her that I was really attracted to her and what not. She called me the next morning and told me all about it, not upset from what I'd said, but really pleased. I remember her saying that if she hadn't left, she would have ended up kissing me.
Well, as if her being married wasn't enough, now I'm back in ND, and she's back in AZ. We definitely have contact information, but as of the 2nd day of being back, I haven't sent her a text or called her, only added her to my myspace friends. Why? Because, I don't know what to do. She told me that I could text her, but just not so much that her husband gets pissed. Remember those stories I was telling you about? She says she wants to write them with me via myspace still.
Here is what I want to do. I want to keep regular contact with her, not so much that she gets in trouble with her hubby, but enough so she doesn't forget me. I don't want to be, in any way, a cause of divorce. I want to slip into the friends slot really, and ride it out until either A.) I find someone else who vexes me so, B.) Something causes their marriage to crumble. One of those things will happen eventually.
What I need from you guys is advice. I need advice on what is being too visible, not visible enough, if it's good/bad to keep her remembering how she felt about me and how I felt about her. I'm in need of advice on some of the best ways to keep her somewhat enthralled by me over long distances, yet be subtle at the same time. I need to know if liking a married chick makes me a big stinky *******.
Sosuave seems to be about helping men achieve the desired results with women. Can I be steered in the right direction to achieve the results I want, or is this one of the few insurmountable obstacles? Thanks for reading this long post, and thanks in advance for replying.
I've been around this site reading on and off for a few years now, and never felt compelled to sign up until now. A little about myself. I'm 20, almost 21. I'm in the military. That's all you really need to know for this story.
Well, I was sent out to NJ for an AF training exercise that lasted for two weeks. There I met this girl, who is 21, and married to her high school sweetheart. She's been married to him for a year, but dated him for like 5 years before that or something. He's the only guy she's ever been with. We had a lot of time to converse and hang out during this exercise, and we really hit it off well. We had so much in common, it was EASY. I mean, it was crazy how much we had in common; right down to having the same car, and both have a left knee injury called patella-femoral syndrome. I swear, I've never instantly connected with a chick like this in my life. We talked a whole lot, played games together, even corny stuff like writing stories together one line at a time (this is how I found out that she was attracted to me; it was easy for her to describe how she felt this way.)
But the simple fact that she's MARRIED kept me from making any risky moves. She was also steadfast in not cheating on her husband, which only attracted me more. But on the last night, a bunch of us at the exercise had a pool party, and we all swam and had a few drinks, except her because he husband didn't want her to drink with us. We had a lot of fun in the pool, some friendly close contact was going on (such as me giving her a piggy-back ride, her riding on my shoulders and trying to push off other girls who were riding on other guys shoulders, and dunking her under water a lot). But when she talked to her husband and he told her that he didn't want her to hang out with us (we were having a pool party at the hotel and drinking) I could see the longing in her eyes that she wanted to stay with me, and was fighting a fierce battle within her. I told her that I really wanted her to stay, just to hang out with all of us, but I understand she has to listen to her husband. So she left, and I got annihilated. I got black out status drunk and I sent her a few revealing text messages saying I was thinking about her, etc. Then I called her later that night apparently and told her that I was really attracted to her and what not. She called me the next morning and told me all about it, not upset from what I'd said, but really pleased. I remember her saying that if she hadn't left, she would have ended up kissing me.
Well, as if her being married wasn't enough, now I'm back in ND, and she's back in AZ. We definitely have contact information, but as of the 2nd day of being back, I haven't sent her a text or called her, only added her to my myspace friends. Why? Because, I don't know what to do. She told me that I could text her, but just not so much that her husband gets pissed. Remember those stories I was telling you about? She says she wants to write them with me via myspace still.
Here is what I want to do. I want to keep regular contact with her, not so much that she gets in trouble with her hubby, but enough so she doesn't forget me. I don't want to be, in any way, a cause of divorce. I want to slip into the friends slot really, and ride it out until either A.) I find someone else who vexes me so, B.) Something causes their marriage to crumble. One of those things will happen eventually.
What I need from you guys is advice. I need advice on what is being too visible, not visible enough, if it's good/bad to keep her remembering how she felt about me and how I felt about her. I'm in need of advice on some of the best ways to keep her somewhat enthralled by me over long distances, yet be subtle at the same time. I need to know if liking a married chick makes me a big stinky *******.
Sosuave seems to be about helping men achieve the desired results with women. Can I be steered in the right direction to achieve the results I want, or is this one of the few insurmountable obstacles? Thanks for reading this long post, and thanks in advance for replying.
