So i met a missionary....

[Cinamon]

... a few weeks ago. he is married, but not very happy. We have met each other on a few occassions at mutual social gatherings and decided to go out for a drink. I had a really good time with him, although he is a man of god, he really does know how to have a laugh. For the most part he was a gentleman, until the evening was about to end and he tried to kiss me, which i didnt object to.

We have been chatting alot, daily and although i am at early stages of dating someone else, he doesnt excite me like this guy. I think... well i know the religious guy is after an affair, which he knows is wrong, but just cant help himself. My issue is that i think it is morally wrong to do another womans man, and on top of that although i am not exclusive with this other guy, its not sitting comfortably with me, it seems a bit sordid. But for some unknown reason i am really drawn to the religious guy, i dont want to be his gf or anything, its more of a look how naughty i am statement i want to make with him, cause i think his sex life has been rather bland to date.

It would be so wrong if i led a man of god astray, but i cant seem to suppress the desire.

Some advice please...

 

[romangod]

But for some unknown reason i am really drawn to the religious guy, i dont want to be his gf or anything, its more of a look how naughty i am statement i want to make with him, cause i think his sex life has been rather bland to date.

It would be so wrong if i led a man of god astray, but i cant seem to suppress the desire.

Some advice please...

Let me get this straight. You want to make a statement to him of how "naughty" you are?

Now, I'll make a statement. You're full of sh!t. :yes:

You're attracted to this guy and he's got to you.

Anyway, in life we have to suppress many desires on a daily basis because we know they're not right and can only lead to trouble. You're courting trouble but my guess is you don't give a crap. The female dark side wants what it wants. Good luck.

Cheers!

P.S. Don't be surprised if he only wants to do it in the missionary position. :rock:

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

If I can predict that I'll feel bad about myself after doing something... that I'm a bad person or that I've got weak moral character, then I'll avoid doing that thing. If, however, I can justify it ahead of time to myself ethically, then I'll do it. Basically, I've got to be able to argue that I'd do it again in the same exact situation if it presented itself a second or third time with a different person.

Sounds like you already know what the 'right' thing to do would be in your own eyes. If you decide to sleep with this guy, then you might want to determine what makes it acceptable to you, and adjust your moral framework to account for that (otherwise you just go on believing that you're an immoral person, and that's not good for anyone).

 

[Da Realist]

Sounds like a love triangle to me. You're getting off on the idea you have a guy who wants you and another guy who seems more interesting because you would be sleeping with another woman's man. I can tell you it's all pure fantasy.

Think about it: as good looking as this guy is, he can't even keep one woman happy. So why do you think he do it for you?

Another thing is to look at a fat balding guy who isn't happy in his marriage. Same situation, but he doesn't look so appealing, does he?

Third thing is that you hook up with him, his problems become your's. His crazy wife keeps up trouble with him and you will have to hear about it all the time. Then there is the possibility that he may be the crazy one and he's stressing you out till you want him to leave you for another woman.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

You might have FFS (Forbidden Fruit Syndrome).

Religious metaphors aside, would you want this guy so bad if he wasn't "forbidden"? What if he was a single, beer-swilling cable guy?

 

[horaholic]

You're a woman. You're supposed to be good at finding some way to justify immoral behaviour. In this case, your here to see how many of us will tell you to 'go ahead,' so you can feel better about yourself. The fact is, if you go through with it, you will have done wrong, on many levels, and if you do, just admit it, and accept it, rather than rationalize it so you dont feel guilty about it.

Us men have to obey our penis, as its in our genes to want to sleep around. thats our excuse. Women have no excuse. If you do it, your sluttiness meter goes up a notch or two.

 

[Cinamon]

As much as I want to do it, I dont think I can go through with it. I believe in Karma, and if i do this, its bound to happen to me in some form. I think it porbably is FFS more than anything else.