So I met a girl at a clothing store...

[lansing]

She was at least an 8.5, pushing 9, 5'8" blonde with black highlights(my favourite hair colour) and seemed really nice. So now my problem, I talked to her a bit, showed her a little interest, she was showing quite a bit. She was following me around the store, we made eye contact a few times and she would just smile. I was going to buy a really unique hoodie, something that you wouldn't see most guys wearing, and I asked her how it looks on me. She just giggled and turned away and walked to the back room. I never did see her again, so I decided to not buy the hoodie, and I would go back tomorrow and talk to her again and ask for her number and maybe to hang out this friday. But, would this be too soon to go back? And would not buying the hoodie be a really lame excuse to go back so soon?

By the way about 7 months ago I talked to her without wanting much, she never showed any interest, and seemed shy. I had forgotten about her until today, Im just glad this site is so helpful, and that she forgot how much of an AFC I was back then, thanks :cheer:

 

[Metaphysical]

Does she work at the store?

Sometimes some guys mistake a cashier's or a waitress' niceness for interest. You need to aware that these women are getting paid to be nice to customers, YOU.

I avoid picking up women from stores, but if you are absolutely certain she is interested in you, then wait a few days and pass by again. Preferably bring a friend so you dont look like a guy that's stalking her or something.

 

[lansing]

Yea she works there, but I am pretty sure that she wasn't just being nice because she had to, and if she was she went above and beyond what I would expect from an employee. Even if she was, what do I have to lose? Also, taking a friend isn't really an option for me

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

She was at least an 8.5, pushing 9, 5'8" blonde with black highlights(my favourite hair colour) and seemed really nice. So now my problem, I talked to her a bit, showed her a little interest, she was showing quite a bit. She was following me around the store, we made eye contact a few times and she would just smile. I was going to buy a really unique hoodie, something that you wouldn't see most guys wearing, and I asked her how it looks on me. She just giggled and turned away and walked to the back room. I never did see her again, so I decided to not buy the hoodie, and I would go back tomorrow and talk to her again and ask for her number and maybe to hang out this friday. But, would this be too soon to go back? And would not buying the hoodie be a really lame excuse to go back so soon?

By the way about 7 months ago I talked to her without wanting much, she never showed any interest, and seemed shy. I had forgotten about her until today, Im just glad this site is so helpful, and that she forgot how much of an AFC I was back then, thanks :cheer:

As soon as she giggled at you, you should have said "what's your name"? Then made small talk, and then number closed.

You have to act immediately and never hesitate.

 

[lansing]

I wasn't really worried because I know I will see her again, and I already promised my friend that I would number close when I go back, if not I have to give him $20. But when I was talking to her I was helping my dad find a present and we were kind of in a hurry, but next time I will go alone so I can take my time =)

 

[lansing]

Ok so I am beating myself up right now. I had a perfect opportunity and I wasted it. I was talking to her just fine it was going smoothly, went and had a coffee with her on her break, but I was too scared to ask her to hang out sometime. I didnt even get her number. Does anybody have any tips I can use so that I am not so scared to ask her next time? Obviously the "promise to give your friend money if you dont" didnt work, I just dont know what else to try. I have been looking for other ways to get past it, but I just cant find any that will work for me, so if you have any ideas I would appreciate them...

Also, she was looking rather good today, as in my favourite style I have ever seen, so I was thinking of mentioning that when I see her again, good idea or no? I swear its like she knows what I want...I just have to go get it

 

[EdmondDantes]

usually in malls it is easier to approach women in stores.

That was not a mess up, I think. Just ask next time. Go directly and ask.

Or better yet do not only focus on one women. Especially since your not together yet.


A tip: focus on multiple women. focus WELL on all of them. It is a shame on you both if you cannot close...

 

[EdmondDantes]

I will give you a trick.. One interesting idea is to bring one of your friends who is a girl and have her ask for you.

 

[lansing]

usually in malls it is easier to approach women in stores.

That was not a mess up, I think. Just ask next time. Go directly and ask.

Or better yet do not only focus on one women. Especially since your not together yet.


A tip: focus on multiple women. focus WELL on all of them. It is a shame on you both if you cannot close...

I am not focusing on just her although she is my main priority right now (I think that is my problem right there =/). I know in my head that I have nothing to lose if she says no, so I am not sure why I even care, and caring really isn't even my style, I am usually a really relaxed guy who doesn't have a care in the world.

Also the store is in a mall, right across from a coffee shop thats where I got the idea from.

And the friend asking for me...that very well could work thanks for the tip, but one thing, wouldn't that be a turn off...showing I dont have enough confidence to ask for myself?

 

[lansing]

Ok so I might go with a friend to the mall tomorrow and hopefully she is there, and now that I know what its like to miss a chance, and how s hitty I felt after I dont think I can go through it again. But I still need some advice

I was thinking of saying something like " You know those boots you were wearing on Monday? You should wear them on Friday" and when she asks why I tell her I am taking her out...good or no? I loved the boots she was wearing, something about those fur boots I find attractive