So I got my man....but......

[ShortyBrown]

Hi Kids, hope Santa was good to you all.....

So despite our basic racial differences, I ended up with security boy last weekend. Before the event the dude did the following nice things:
-spent time telling me jokes and making my shift bareable
-often got the kitchen guy to make me cheese on toast just before my shift ended (which I did not drop hints about. He'd just do it.)
-Brought me dinner when I was in a bad mood because he'd learnt to recognise that a bad mood from me usually means that I have not eaten.
While I willing went with him knowing what would happen, I cannot help but feel regretful, really confused and mighty pissed off. For a few reasons; namely, he did not kiss me and if he was only after one thing, why bother with the whole 'hey Shorty, I like you' bit?
Here is where I am getting confused:
Since last weekend, we've worked together twice. First time he was awkward with me and gave me the time honoured, "well, I dunno where I'll be next time....." speech, right down to the voice trailing away.Which led me to think "yeah you're full of sh*t devious bastard, get phucked."
The following night when we are stuck together, he's a little more open to me, flirts with me, offers to spilt his dinner with me, laughs when I pulled faces at him. Which leads me to one question that I want your opinions on:

Should I front the man, clear things up, and tell him how I feel, or let it go, even though thats gonna hurt more than anything that I've been through in the last 18 months with a guy?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Let me get this clear? You had sex but did not kiss? Or what am I missing here ?

 

[soopafly4eva]

it sounds like he likes you but hasn't built up the courage to make a move yet... it's a common AFC thang

u could make it easier on him by initiating the romance if u wanted to

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by ShortyBrown

-Brought me dinner when I was in a bad mood because he'd learnt to recognise that a bad mood from me usually means that I have not eaten.

Whats up with women getting mad and in bad moods because their hungry??? A girl said this to me and I had to remind her of the tens of millions of people dying of hunger...and because she didn't eat for 4 hours I was suppose to baby her and feel sorry for her??? There is usually something deeper that is wrong in the psyche and emotional arena --- I dismissed her immediately!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Hu I get inn really bad moods myself when I haven't eaten because my bloodsugar and metabolism gets all fvcked up.

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

Re: Re: So I got my man....but......

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Whats up with women getting mad and in bad moods because their hungry??? A girl said this to me and I had to remind her of the tens of millions of people dying of hunger...and because she didn't eat for 4 hours I was suppose to baby her and feel sorry for her??? There is usually something deeper that is wrong in the psyche and emotional arena --- I dismissed her immediately!

Damn.

Shunning wh0res I can understand... but now you shun hungry bytches?

Your loss man. They say that the girls with the biggest appetites also have other insatiable appetites in the sack. Hmmm perhaps you assumed she is a slut for this reason..

Either way, you are fukkin crazy!

To Shorty:

Dont play yourself girl. Have some self respect and make him work for that ass. You dont want a wishywashy chump do ya? Let him be the man and initiate.

ALso I could probably lecture you on the folly of dating a coworker... except I recently started shagging my boss so I guess I will just bite my lip and wish you luck.

 

[joey37]

Re: Re: Re: So I got my man....but......

Originally posted by Crotch Sniffer
Damn.

Shunning wh0res I can understand... but now you shun hungry bytches?

Your loss man. They say that the girls with the biggest appetites also have other insatiable appetites in the sack. Hmmm perhaps you assumed she is a slut for this reason..

Either way, you are fukkin crazy!

To Shorty:

Dont play yourself girl. Have some self respect and make him work for that ass. You dont want a wishywashy chump do ya? Let him be the man and initiate.

ALso I could probably lecture you on the folly of dating a coworker... except I recently started shagging my boss so I guess I will just bite my lip and wish you luck.

LOL He's shunning hungry *****es!!!!!! note : There are many people in this world who are starving, i'm not laughing at that. I'm laughing at this guy's attitude.

 

[joey37]

BWHAHAHAHAHAH...he "nexted" her because the blitch was hungry.....LOLOLOLOLOL.....


Sorry, but that is some funny ****.

 

[Big Pappy]

Did I miss something? Your thread reads as if you've already done the deed. If so, and no kiss... that's a bit odd. Please clear things up for Big Pappy, as I'm quite hungover and not thinking very fast.

 

[Alonso]

Re: Re: So I got my man....but......

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Whats up with women getting mad and in bad moods because their hungry??? A girl said this to me and I had to remind her of the tens of millions of people dying of hunger...and because she didn't eat for 4 hours I was suppose to baby her and feel sorry for her???

You will usually not go wrong treating women as if they were infants. I had this insight after, on consecutive days, taking my three year old nephew, and then a girl I was dating, out on the town. Both complained that their feet hurt, both complained that they were tired, and both whined about being hungry.

Just as with infants, there isn't much impulse control, or much of a filter between feeling something and immediately blurting it out. You're tired, you cry; you're hungry, you cry; your tooth hurts, you cry; why the hell not?

Lack of accountability comes into play, as always, too. What would happen if a guy started whining because he was 20 minutes overdue for din din or his shoes were too tight or he had a tummy ache? People would start to wonder about him. No one expects any better from the ladies.

 

[jbbrain]

shorty, like the other said, we're missing some key info..

Why have you left yourself so open to hurt with this particular guy? What have u done with him?

Does that mean Im not comign to australia anymore?

 

[iqqi]

yeah, shorty, i definately have an opinion on this, but it is based on whether or not you all "shagged". dammit, girl, we don't all speak australian!

as for the hungry thing-idiot. if you are starving, haven't eaten, your blood sugar level gets fcuked up, you get jittery, ever heard of a hunger headache? don't you get in a bad mood if you have a migraine!? duh. it isn't a big deal at all, just leaves a person feeling miserable leading to a bad mood. common sense....

as for shorty, she works in a restaurant i guess, where you really don't get breaks to eat. so that is her whole shift she possibly goes in a fcuking restaurant, with an empty stomach. (been there )

give us more details, girl.

 

[Alonso]

Originally posted by iqqi
as for the hungry thing-idiot. if you are starving, haven't eaten, your blood sugar level gets fcuked up, you get jittery, ever heard of a hunger headache? don't you get in a bad mood if you have a migraine!?

Of course. I'm just saying man up.

To be fair, shorty didn't announce she was hungry to the world, which is what always gets me.

 

[ShortyBrown]

Let me get this clear? You had sex but did not kiss? Or what am I missing here?

You're not missing anything darling. I know. Bizzare.

it sounds like he likes you but hasn't built up the courage to make a move yet... it's a common AFC thang.............u could make it easier on him by initiating the romance if u wanted to.

I would....I want to, but I don't want this to turn into a bigger stuff up than it already is.

Dont play yourself girl. Have some self respect and make him work for that ass. You dont want a wishywashy chump do ya? Let him be the man and initiate.
ALso I could probably lecture you on the folly of dating a coworker... except I recently started shagging my boss so I guess I will just bite my lip and wish you luck.

That is what I want to do, feel like the princess deserving of being chased. I've been through my little 'I want to have my freedom' bit and now I've meet a man worthy of giving that up for. I aint going down without a fight here.(To clarify-we dont actually work together. I work in a bar-with a restaurant- and his boss has the security contract for the place.)

Does that mean Im not comign to australia anymore?

Quit snobbing me off on msn and I'll think about it.

To be fair, shorty didn't announce she was hungry to the world, which is what always gets me.

I mentioned it to the other girl I was working with. I guess he asked her why I was unhappy.

Look, the deed was done. Though it shouldn't have happened. (God I wish I could take it back) And for the first time ever, I am at a total loss as to where to go from here, and I have little insight into how he is feeling. I really want something good to come of this.

 

[iqqi]

what we have here is a case of men don't know what the fcuk they want

shorty, shorty, shorty. songs have been written about it. it is the timeless truth, that your daddy probaly warned you of. "boys only want one thing".

men of sosuave, please pay attention. what we have here is the opportunity to point out some good sh!t about men. you all say you want a woman who is "secure" enought to not "play games" and make you wait for the punani (they say that in australia, yet?)

buuutttt....then we have the actions of you same men, which completely contradict what you say.

but i understand. because the truth of the matter is, (and men you should be able to relate), men do not know what they want. just like it is hard to find a woman who is mature enough to know herself, it is the same with men.

shortyb, and all womenkind reading, do not despair! all is not lost. you just have to keep this in mind and remember a lesson taught daily at sosuave, never listen to a woman. in this case, never listen to a man! they think they want the punani, and they do! but they are incapable of handling such intimacy so soon. so the result is you are CUT OFF. they hit it, now hit it, shortyb.

if you want a man to know there is more to you than the 'nani, you have to make him see it FIRST. make him get to know you, and truly like and care for you. otherwise you were just a shag. sad, but true.



disclaimer: "i know that some of you men are different. nevertheless, you are all men, so you are all the same. (inside joke)


posted in another thread:

Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
I've noticed something about myself. I AM evil, and I do use girls... I've found out I actually have very little respect for girls that I want to fvck... I have respect for friends and others though.. But I found out that the nastier **** I can get a girl todo the hornier get and the less I like that girl...

Originally posted by yours iqqily interesting you say this, this leads into what i was getting at in the other thread. (legolas? pay attention: )

men DO like/respect/value you more if you do NOT sleep with them.

in my free spirited ways, and with my uncontrollable id, and i admit, even a deep rooted insecurity, i used to be easy. but only easy if i liked the cat (which WAS rare).

now that i am able to stop things that are seemingly unstoppable, and observing the aftermath, i am amazed at the truth behind that theory.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

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Let me get this clear? You had sex but did not kiss? Or what am I missing here?
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posted by shorty brown...

"You're not missing anything darling. I know. Bizzare."

"That is what I want to do, feel like the princess deserving of being chased. I've been through my little 'I want to have my freedom' bit and now I've meet a man worthy of giving that up for. I aint going down without a fight"

You had sex but never kissed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HUH?????????
Don't get me started on this thread - somebody please hold me back ----- please take my keyboard away ----- I'm going to brake my fingers so that I can't type more than a 20 word response --- I 'll just type my response with my nose...

you know what I'm going to say anyway, if you read my prior posts.....let me be to the point here ......

Wh@res are not to be chased they are only to be found!!!!!!!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

iqqi,

My above post is for your edification as well!

 

[ShortyBrown]

no no no......he has taken the time to get to know me, I didn't meet him just last week, I've known him for months. Thats why I'm in such a tizz.

I've noticed something about myself. I AM evil, and I do use girls... I've found out I actually have very little respect for girls that I want to fvck... I have respect for friends and others though.. But I found out that the nastier **** I can get a girl todo the hornier get and the less I like that girl...

I know this, and I let the guy know that I know before anything happens. If both parties want the one thing, theres no point in hiding it or being deceitful, and leading the other person on. There was no prior rules set-it just happened. It did not feel sleezy or cheep at the time. It was what it was-two people gettin' it on.

men DO like/respect/value you more if you do NOT sleep with them.

So despite our basic racial differences, I ended up with security boy last weekend. Before the event the dude did the following nice things:-spent time telling me jokes and making my shift bareable
-often got the kitchen guy to make me cheese on toast just before my shift ended (which I did not drop hints about. He'd just do it.)
-Brought me dinner when I was in a bad mood because he'd learnt to recognise that a bad mood from me usually means that I have not eaten.
While I willing went with him knowing what would happen

Again, I do not do nice things for people I dislike or don't respect. If ya wanna phuck and thats all, you generally don't beat around the bush about it.

 

[Revlis]

Haha, I feel your frustration PRL!

He probably has less respect for you now. I would forget about him if you don't want to take the initiative.

 

[ShortyBrown]

Then that would make him quite the hypocritical opportunist. For all his high and ****ing mighty declarations about 'not caring what anyone thinks' he was pretty quick to dismiss me as a brainless slut.