So i called her and she said that she didnt know me, thanx sosuave

[Plain & Simple]

ima ask this and this my only question left, if she does not call back tomorrow, should i call her wed, thursm or fri? or when would it be good?

note : tomorrow the hurricane supposed to pass by us not hit us though. not that it prevents her from calling but she might be with her family or whatnot, with boys last thing in her mind

 

[DumpaLumpagus]

Do not call her again, the jig is up!

 

[griffon65]

Like LIT said the 3 day rule is there to help AFC's from calling a girl 3 times on the first day they get the girls number. In reality there are no rules. Hell you can call the next day just do not call the day you get the number unless the girl gave hints that she wants to do something that day.

Anyway I'm not gonna agree with everyone here and say that your phone conversation was weak. You didnt do anything worng on the phone. The problem was you waited too long to call her. Next time dont wait so long. Call in 1-2 days or go by your gut.

As for this girl, wait a week to see if she calls. If she picks up then take it from there. If she doesnt, then leave a message and then forget about her.

 

[ICaughtFire]

not calling her until 3 days after will only work if she is highly intersted in u when u first meet, and u have something for her to remember about, a joke, ur red tie, ur hair, how u treat her etc

no sh!t she will forget about u if ur just another random guy that she gave her phone number to coz u know how to flirt a bit

 

[italostud]

What kind of girls just jump into a stranger's car and accept a ride? Oh yeah, sluts with no morals or values. Sounds like you found yourself a couple of little crazy mamacitas. Now you're wondering why she doesn't want to talk to you on the phone? Think about it man. These girls are probably 18 with 3 kids already. They don't play by society's rules. So you called her? She was probably riding some other brother's stick when she told you she had "company". Play with fire and you get burned, bro. Don't be suprised when street trash throw you for a loop.

 

[italostud]

Originally posted by DumpaLumpagus
Do not call her again, the jig is up!

Your name is awesome.

 

[Gonzalo]

Dude, you heard her tone of voice on the phone: Was it the tone of voice of a girl who's interested? The very fact she didn't remember your name or that you met last Friday (not last month) should indicate her IL. If she was with company the time you called her, why did she pick up the phone? Just to say "I'll call you later"? And no, three days shouldn't make that worl of a difference if she were at least somewhat interested.

Solution? Building rapport, like someone above said.

I'm sure deep down your gut told you something about her IL talked to her, but instead you'd rather check with the board first. I'd try giving her a ring in a week, just for fun.

 

[GropeDope]

You gotta read the articles bro. There is some good sh!t on there that you're obviously missing out on.

I read an article a year ago or so.. (it was from the DJ Bible.. when it wasn't as large as it is today)...about calling a girl the first time after your inital encounter with her.

The guy who wrote it mentioned on part of the article where when he eventually called them, he started the conversation about something funny/memorable that happened during their first encounter or a special piece of information she told him when they met. The reason why he was able to do this is cause he created rapport during their first encounter together. You did this too, whether you realize it or not. He didn't reveal who he was, but mentioned some event or fact that he knew about the girl or something to make them crack up or smile right at the beginning of the phone conversation, and they always remembered who he was shortly after.

I actually applied that article to a HB I met last year. She mentioned something about really liking Julia Roberts when I first met her in person...which wasn't much, but I knew that's all I had at my disposal.

So when I called and heard her voice pick up (it was a pretty unfriendly hello if I remember), right away I said something really corny like "I'm trying to reach a Ms. Roberts Wannabe" "WHAT? Uh...you have the wrong num-" "First name, Julia. Julia Roberts Wannabe" Two seconds later she started cracking up, and knew it was me, and then said something like she was so happy I called her. I didn't even think it was that funny but I guess she appreciated the fact that I remembered some little meaningless piece of information she told me when I met her. But she was actually busy on the other line when I called and said to me, "That really was great --------------. Hey I was actually on the phone with my friend when you called...let me get her off the other line, don't go anywhere I'm gonna put you on hold" and I refused and told her to call me back. She called me back in less than a minute and we had a great 15 min conversation.

We're AFCs bro so YOU GOTTA PLAN AHEAD when you make that first phone call. You don't have to script the whole thing but you should at least have a good opener and at least 2 or 3 brief topics you're ready to bring up that require more than one/two word responses from her.

You might not get anywhere with her anymore at this point, but don't delete her number just yet. You can at the very least use her for practice. If she don't call you back this week maybe you can try calling her again on Sunday night or something. Just for experience sake.

 

[sparky1981]

This all just a guide a man. U can not expect every girl you meet to be interested in you. Even if they appear to be. Not all of them are. or will be

If you believe that this site will turn you into to some sort of god with the ladies that they all just want to be with. You seriously missunderstand both women and the fundamental purpose's of this site.

 

[Modro]

u may have better results if u got out the car. Like i said in your other thread thats just weird.

 

[BackToTheMack]

Stop trying to find and create rules for dating. The game is like water its fluid, malleable we should stop concentrating on rules and start concentrating on the game itself. All these rules restrict us they give us limitations and I myself don’t like to be limited.

I view the rules as guidelines so I am never limiting myself. If at sometime I feel like telling a girl she is beautiful I do it because I don’t have rules restricting me. I believe this is what makes my game so strong.

So if you want to call her call her don’t feel you should follow any rules like the "3 day rules" ect ect.

 

[anonymousguy]

hey: well, though luck. You should've asked her on a date.

But let's see what the possible outcomes are:
1) She isn't interested in you and she just used you for a ride
2) She was busy ("I have company")
3) She gave you her number, and I think that girls don't easily exchange numbers

What did you do wrong?
1) You didn't ask her for a date
2) You had terrible timing (see "company")
3) Why wait so long? I also don't understand why you have to wait 3 days, because she already forgot you. BUT perhaps it's also a sign to see how good she likes you. If she didn't forget you, it means she's very interested in you.
Do you still remember the first time you kissed? That's the feeling I'm meaning.

Well that's my opinion. But at least you have learnt something. There are enough fine asses in Miami dude.

Greetings

 

[Plain & Simple]

Thanx yall .

My gut feeling told me to call her on saturday afternoon to ask her for a date but i wanted to follow the Dj bible by the letter.

Ima call her back on thursday and ask her for a date, if she hasnt called me back before that.
After that whatever happens happens, if she says no or any excuse ill just next 100% . Samething if she gives me another excuse to get off the phone, but like i said i did hear people in the background, i hear like 2-3 girl voices in the background.


Oh and she sounded like she was glad, that i had called her once she knew it was me, i could tell by her voice tone.

 

[apache]

Ok this thread is a massive case of the blind leading the blind.

Lets get one thing straight; many of the rules like wait three days are ways of preventing you from seeming needy, if you can ring a girl up 10 mins after the number close, and not seem needy then it doesn't matter.

From what you've said, i'm guessing that when you met her you created no attraction, you instead asked rapport based quesitons etc. This mean that you have become a friend, although it is possible to get passed this, with your current skillset i doubt you'll be able to. Your best option is to move on, do more cold approaches and keep practising.

When you first meet a girl your main aim should be to build attraction, you can do this by demonstrating high value, ****y funny etc. You then get into rapport to build comfort

Don't listen to people who say if she's not interested in you move on, every reaction you get from a women is caused by you, meaning, you can make her interested in you.

And finally; girls flake, it happens, get over it.

apache

 

[Plain & Simple]

To be real with yall i dont really care no more, i ma just ring her in a few days if she hasnt like i said, and depending on her act, move on or give it a shot.

I mean dang, ive had girls that i met before tell me they busy or wateva, and that theyll call me back, and they never did, then i called them a few days later and i ended up on dates with them and even banging a few of them, thats why i aint worried about this here.

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Now, I didn't read all the replies, but I think I've read enough to post what's on my mind.

Has it occurred to anyone that maybe she knew he was going to try to get her to go out on a date and then decided to use what's actually a pretty good EXCUSE not to talk on the phone as in, having company.

My guess is, she either lost interest or really didn't have any in the first place: remember, she had to double-check the number with her friend to begin with.

Dude, you should probably go get more numbers, and hook up with someone else. As far as I can tell, she is a lost cause. If she does call, good for you, that's one more girl you got; if she doesn't, then you should probably already have a date lined up with someone else and tell her not this weekend or whatever.

Just my opinion, but I think this type of scenario has been completely overlooked.

 

[Plain & Simple]

^^interesting, ima find out what the deal is tomorrow when i call her for the last time, if she says no to a date or another quick excuse to get off then that'll be it, im serious.

 

[mrRuckus]

Originally posted by Plain & Simple


Another one saying that " what you been up to" should never be use .

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Considering it's not even close to proper english and sounds retarded I wouldn't use that phrase either.

Come on, admit it... you added ", girl" to the end of that.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Originally posted by Plain & Simple
^^interesting, ima find out what the deal is tomorrow when i call her for the last time, if she says no to a date or another quick excuse to get off then that'll be it, im serious.

This is sad, you really need to learn when to let go. The mistake you made was the phone conversation. Unless a woman has high IL in you, you can not make them work in a conversation. During the conversation, you make statements, you say something funny, you try to charm her, but never ask questions like what's up or what's new.

I worked with a guy that kept in touch with an ex female co-worker through e-mail. I was surprised by this because I didn't think they were close enough to keep in touch. One day he told me he asked her to look up some info for her. I laughed and told him he will never hear from her again. And he didn't.

 

[zerocelcius]

what do you mean "thanks SO Suave"?? You said you read the bible but what are you doing giving her YOUR #?

GO back and read the bible try again and this time don't F*&% UP!!!!

Cry Baby~

*hopfully being rough on you gets you pissed off and you can use it to bring out the Alpha Male in you*

:moon: