so i asked this girl out ,what to do now?

[alaki]

here is the background : http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=227180

today i said "ive been meaning to say this for a while,i want to take you out for a drink,you have any plans this saturday?"

she says "oh thats nice,yea thats a good idea ,(with a smile),but i cant this weekend,i have a volleybal match"

i said "some other time then"
and went to the class together,she was keep saying some bull**** about volleyball, sitting in the class, she didnt even looked at me once for an hour

did she flaked?or she got shy all of a sudden
before i ask her out,she asked me to send her some pictures..
should i do that? should i wait for her to contact me?

EDIT: she will be gone next week and i wont see her, we have each others number and facebook

>>>IMPORTANT<<<

how should i act in the class from now on?,if she keep this attitude

 

[Suspens]

Where do you live if you don't mind me asking?

Anyway. You have done what you should have done. Nothing else you can do now. No contact till she reaches out to you.

 

[alaki]

Where do you live if you don't mind me asking?

Anyway. You have done what you should have done. Nothing else you can do now. No contact till she reaches out to you.

west europe

 

[bigneil]

today i said "ive been meaning to say this for a while, i want to take you out for a drink, you have any plans this saturday?"

she says "oh thats nice, yea thats a good idea, (with a smile),but i cant this weekend,i have a volleybal match"

i said "some other time then"
and went to the class together,she was keep saying some bull**** about volleyball, sitting in the class, she didnt even looked at me once for an hour

did she flaked?or she got shy all of a sudden
before i ask her out,she asked me to send her some pictures..
should i do that? should i wait for her to contact me?

EDIT: she will be gone next week and i wont see her, we have each others number and facebook

Problems are in bold above. My observations below.

* Here is what you SHOULD have done: You: "I'll be going to (some place she wants to be) for drinks on Saturday if you'd like to join me." At this point you can't be rejected per se, you simply told her what you are doing and offered to let her join you.

* You don't ask for a date, you don't ask what they are doing and you especially don't open by worshipping her.

* If she is interested she will either accept or offer a rain check. YOU don't be the one to offer a rain check. You already asked her!

* If she didn't make eye contact after, this is a done deal. It happens to the best of us. The more it hurts, the more you should let it reshape you. It's God's way of telling you that you aren't reaching your potential.

* Never be the Facebook friend of a romantic prospect. Unless you are dating and they request it, but only after sex, and put them in the restricted category so they don't see your posts every day.

* Walk away until she contacts you.

 

[alaki]

Problems are in bold above. My observations below.

* Here is what you SHOULD have done: You: "I'll be going to (some place she wants to be) for drinks on Saturday if you'd like to join me." At this point you can't be rejected per se, you simply told her what you are doing and offered to let her join you.

* You don't ask for a date, you don't ask what they are doing and you especially don't open by worshipping her.

* If she is interested she will either accept or offer a rain check. YOU don't be the one to offer a rain check. You already asked her!

* If she didn't make eye contact after, this is a done deal. It happens to the best of us. The more it hurts, the more you should let it reshape you. It's God's way of telling you that you aren't reaching your potential.

* Never be the Facebook friend of a romantic prospect. Unless you are dating and they request it, but only after sex, and put them in the restricted category so they don't see your posts every day.

* Walk away until she contacts you.

how to act in the class tommorow? like nothing happend? or should i go on ignoring her too?

 

[bigneil]

Show up with a prettier girl who is interested ideally. You must be completely unaffected by her in either case. Not easy once you have oneitis. Their mere presence is illuminated by your own mind.

 

[alaki]

Problems are in bold above. My observations below.

* Here is what you SHOULD have done: You: "I'll be going to (some place she wants to be) for drinks on Saturday if you'd like to join me." At this point you can't be rejected per se, you simply told her what you are doing and offered to let her join you.

* You don't ask for a date, you don't ask what they are doing and you especially don't open by worshipping her.

* If she is interested she will either accept or offer a rain check. YOU don't be the one to offer a rain check. You already asked her!

* If she didn't make eye contact after, this is a done deal. It happens to the best of us. The more it hurts, the more you should let it reshape you. It's God's way of telling you that you aren't reaching your potential.

* Never be the Facebook friend of a romantic prospect. Unless you are dating and they request it, but only after sex, and put them in the restricted category so they don't see your posts every day.

* Walk away until she contacts you.

UPDATE:

so today was good i think,
i saw her from the corner of my eyes alot of time looking at me,
but when i looked back she looked away,

once i cought her watching and kept eye contact for like 10 secs when i smiled ,she smiled back,for the first time i saw her pupil dialate too,
this didnt happend before,it was creepy tbh

i was sitting and noticed shes touching my foot with her feet..
should i build up kino in the class or should i just be casual like nothing ever happend?or ignore her?

 

[Tictac]

i was sitting and noticed shes touching my foot with her feet..
should i build up kino in the class or should i just be casual like nothing ever happend?or ignore her?

__________

Are you going to observe or do something?

 

[amoka]

UPDATE:

should i build up kino in the class or should i just be casual like nothing ever happend?or ignore her?

Dude, read the bible. You lack the fundamentals and it's just a matter of time when you'll be asking "she licks her lips when I am talking to her, should I kiss her?" When you have the basics, you'll know what to do in most situations.

 

[pyros]

here is the background : http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=227180

today i said "ive been meaning to say this for a while,i want to take you out for a drink,you have any plans this saturday?"

she says "oh thats nice,yea thats a good idea ,(with a smile),but i cant this weekend,i have a volleybal match"

i said "some other time then"
and went to the class together,she was keep saying some bull**** about volleyball, sitting in the class, she didnt even looked at me once for an hour

did she flaked?or she got shy all of a sudden
before i ask her out,she asked me to send her some pictures..
should i do that? should i wait for her to contact me?

EDIT: she will be gone next week and i wont see her, we have each others number and facebook

>>>IMPORTANT<<<

how should i act in the class from now on?,if she keep this attitude

she cant because she has a volleyball match...aha...

See this, whenever you get a reply like:

I cant because:
- I have a volleyball match
- I have a soccer match
- I have a b-day party
- My cousins are visiting me
- I have a friend from another state coming
- I have to study
- I have to help my sister with her children
- I have to babysit
etc
etc
etc

It means SHE IS NOT INTERESTED, and she is rejecting your date offer.
Unless she offers an alternative time which is a good sign, you forget about her and let her contact you in which case you ask her out again.

You do not sit around waiting for her to text you, you do not obsess over her, you do not wonder what she will be doing, you do not build an evil plan to win her over ----> you continue with your life and go to meet other girls that will say yes to your date offer.

It is not that importat what you do, YOU JUST NEED TO FIND THE GIRLS THAT LIKE YOU AND ARE SINGLE. (which are just a few keep that in mind) This is why it is called a numbers game. There is nothing you can do when a girl either doesnt find you hot or is not available.

Should you send her those pics? if you want to spend/waste time talking to a girl who is not into you....wanna keep her as just a friend? fine, I have female friends but I dont want to have sex with them, I just have them as friends cause I like to hang out with them.

How should you behave around her? however you feel like it man. If you want to act butthurt go ahead, if you want to keep talking to her as if nothing happened go ahead as well, BUT WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO IS GO MEET OTHER GIRLS.