So I asked my hot professor out. It didn't go real well. Can I salvage it?

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So I'm in college, and I'm in my mid 20s. Anyways one of my classes I have this SMOKING hot teacher who is a 10! Looks like a older Katharine McPhee. Thing is she is like late 30s so at least 10 years older than me, but doesn't look it and she IS single!

Anyways I had a crush on her since day one. Over spring break I decided to email her and ask her if she wanted to go out to lunch, coffee (she drinks lots of it) or go hangout somewhere sometime because I would like to get to know her better. I emailed her because I didn't think it was appropriate to ask her in school.

She didn't reply so the next class I talked to her afterwards about the email. She wasn't pissed, but she told me that it is inappropriate. She said I wasn't in any trouble, but asked for it not to happen again.

Thing is she is single, yet she didn't seem very happy about being asked out.

So I backed off a bit on her, and only would small talk. Anyways she has facebook and does have some students on there. So I went ahead and sent her a friend request just to see if she would approve it. She didn't then a few days later after class I mentioned I sent her a friend request and she tells me " I won't do that." I was also asking about a grade, and she said she's having some family issues which she's told me before, which takes her longer to grade them. So I tried asking her whats wrong, then all she said was bye and walked the other way.

I assume the facebook thing was her hint at telling me to p*ss off basically in a nice way? She seemed pretty stern about it, but like i said other students she adds.

I did apologize about the facebook thing, and she said it's ok. I decided to apologize if I showed too much interest in her. I decided to go to the dept head about it, and I told her everything that happend. The dept head said I wasn't in any trouble, and that she saw no need to get involved with it since I resolved it myself.

Ever since I asked my teacher out though she wont reply to emails about class, and she's also more timid, shy, and cautious when talking to me. Like wanting to cut it short or avoid me if possible after class. She said she accepted my apology and said we just need to move forward.

Thing is I didn't smother her. What is it about me that turned her off? All I asked her is if we could go to lunch sometime or go out and do something.

I probably should have waited until after the semester to ask her out.

Is there any way I can salvage this? At the end of the semester can I ask her if I can stay in touch with her, and if maybe this summer since I wont be a student of hers anymore of maybe she wants to go do something?
 

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You want someone to risk their professional career to go on a date with you? You wrote it down???haha You are dumb. lol You don't need this site, you need professional help. Back off this lady before she calls the cops and you are expelled. What is wrong with these people these days???
 

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I have no idea but that was pretty ballsy!
 

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Dude let it go. From now on, ONLY discuss school stuff with her and keep it professional. Unless you have a school related question, don't bother her at all. It doesn't matter that she's single. As we established in another thread, single women are already getting f&cked somewhere else. They don't need any of us, unless they are REALLY interested. She is clearly not interested and doesn't want to mix work with pleasure.

Finally, the worst thing you did was talk to the department head. You embarrassed this teacher, went over her head, and all but admitted to stalking her. Fortunately, the professor and department head have been understanding SO FAR. Please do not try their patience further.

I know you didn't mean any harm. Please quit while you are ahead and let this one go. If you like older women, find an older student, not a faculty or staff member.

MustangMan said:
So I'm in college, and I'm in my mid 20s. Anyways one of my classes I have this SMOKING hot teacher who is a 10! Looks like a older Katharine McPhee. Thing is she is like late 30s so at least 10 years older than me, but doesn't look it and she IS single!

Anyways I had a crush on her since day one. Over spring break I decided to email her and ask her if she wanted to go out to lunch, coffee (she drinks lots of it) or go hangout somewhere sometime because I would like to get to know her better. I emailed her because I didn't think it was appropriate to ask her in school.

She didn't reply so the next class I talked to her afterwards about the email. She wasn't pissed, but she told me that it is inappropriate. She said I wasn't in any trouble, but asked for it not to happen again.

Thing is she is single, yet she didn't seem very happy about being asked out.

So I backed off a bit on her, and only would small talk. Anyways she has facebook and does have some students on there. So I went ahead and sent her a friend request just to see if she would approve it. She didn't then a few days later after class I mentioned I sent her a friend request and she tells me " I won't do that." I was also asking about a grade, and she said she's having some family issues which she's told me before, which takes her longer to grade them. So I tried asking her whats wrong, then all she said was bye and walked the other way.

I assume the facebook thing was her hint at telling me to p*ss off basically in a nice way? She seemed pretty stern about it, but like i said other students she adds.

I did apologize about the facebook thing, and she said it's ok. I decided to apologize if I showed too much interest in her. I decided to go to the dept head about it, and I told her everything that happend. The dept head said I wasn't in any trouble, and that she saw no need to get involved with it since I resolved it myself.

Ever since I asked my teacher out though she wont reply to emails about class, and she's also more timid, shy, and cautious when talking to me. Like wanting to cut it short or avoid me if possible after class. She said she accepted my apology and said we just need to move forward.

Thing is I didn't smother her. What is it about me that turned her off? All I asked her is if we could go to lunch sometime or go out and do something.

I probably should have waited until after the semester to ask her out.

Is there any way I can salvage this? At the end of the semester can I ask her if I can stay in touch with her, and if maybe this summer since I wont be a student of hers anymore of maybe she wants to go do something?
 

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Ugh.

This guy is known as One Goal over at loveshack. He has about 10 threads obsessing over his professor.

Everyone's already told him to move on so he came here...

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Dude give it a rest. Leave the poor woman alone.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Dude let it go. From now on, ONLY discuss school stuff with her and keep it professional. Unless you have a school related question, don't bother her at all. It doesn't matter that she's single. As we established in another thread, single women are already getting f&cked somewhere else. They don't need any of us, unless they are REALLY interested. She is clearly not interested and doesn't want to mix work with pleasure.

Finally, the worst thing you did was talk to the department head. You embarrassed this teacher, went over her head, and all but admitted to stalking her. Fortunately, the professor and department head have been understanding SO FAR. Please do not try their patience further.

I know you didn't mean any harm. Please quit while you are ahead and let this one go. If you like older women, find an older student, not a faculty or staff member.
You're right. I went to her boss because I did think it was wrong how I kept being persistant, and I worried she would tell so I figured if I went to her boss and was honest about what I did that hopefully I would'nt get in any sort of trouble.

It's ok now, but my feelings were kind of her she rejected me.
 

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MustangMan said:
Is there any way I can salvage this?
Salvage what?

At the end of the semester can I ask her if I can stay in touch with her
Keep in touch? Were you ever in touch to begin with?


I think the best thing you can do is to pursue this lady. She said no and is obviously not interested but you just can't let it go. Do whatever it takes and get your ass thrown in jail for stalking, harassment... whatever. You really need to learn and it seems that you're hell bent on learning things the hard way. I say do it.

This is NOT how you handle yourself socially, and this is NOT how you approach women.

I hope to read about you in the newspaper later this month.
 

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MustangMan said:
Over spring break I decided to email her and ask her if she wanted to go out to lunch, coffee (she drinks lots of it) or go hangout somewhere sometime because I would like to get to know her better. I emailed her because I didn't think it was appropriate to ask her in school.

She didn't reply
I can't imagine why she didn't reply - a teacher would really like to have her misconduct recorded in written text.

And coming on to a woman through email instead of in real life is clearly the way to go.

And obsessing over a woman who has already told you no several times....

God, I can't go on. There are so many things wrong with this. I suspected this was a troll thread, but Maxtro says you have made several threads about this at loveshack too. Have you not learned anything from this forum?

I notice now that you only have two posts here, so I suppose you just registered to write about this woman, and haven't read this forum before.

So....

Your dating license is hereby temporarily revoked. To get it back you must improve your game and insight radically. In particular you must get it into your brain that a ten-year-older teacher who says no to you is not someone you should keep bothering.
 

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What can I say, the biggest dumbazz move ever? ONLY way you top it is to ask her out again
 

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Make her see that you are the right choice! Find out her home number and call her at home or on her cell. Prove it to her!
 

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She's not interested. Move on you creep.
 

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Gray The Prince said:
Spending time on BB.com's Misc, I can see a troll from a mile away.

This guy's just trolling lol.
No he's not trolling. As I said before, he's "one goal" on loveshack.

He's just a kid that doesn't really know what he is doing.

So MustangMan, it's good that you found this place.

Step 1: Forget about her

Step 2: Start reading some articles from the DJ Bible.
 

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MustangMan said:
So I'm in college, and I'm in my mid 20s. Anyways one of my classes I have this SMOKING hot teacher who is a 10! Looks like a older Katharine McPhee. Thing is she is like late 30s so at least 10 years older than me, but doesn't look it and she IS single!

you should post a pic so we can see how hot she is.

Anyways I had a crush on her since day one. Over spring break I decided to email her and ask her if she wanted to go out to lunch, coffee (she drinks lots of it) or go hangout somewhere sometime because I would like to get to know her better. I emailed her because I didn't think it was appropriate to ask her in school.

you shouldn't of emailed her to hang out at all.

She didn't reply so the next class I talked to her afterwards about the email. She wasn't pissed, but she told me that it is inappropriate. She said I wasn't in any trouble, but asked for it not to happen again.

Thing is she is single, yet she didn't seem very happy about being asked out.

of course she wasn't happy to be asked out by email. why would she?

So I backed off a bit on her, and only would small talk. Anyways she has facebook and does have some students on there. So I went ahead and sent her a friend request just to see if she would approve it. She didn't then a few days later after class I mentioned I sent her a friend request and she tells me " I won't do that." I was also asking about a grade, and she said she's having some family issues which she's told me before, which takes her longer to grade them. So I tried asking her whats wrong, then all she said was bye and walked the other way.

So you emailed her and she wasn't happy about it, then you stalk her out on facebook and friend request?

I assume the facebook thing was her hint at telling me to p*ss off basically in a nice way? She seemed pretty stern about it, but like i said other students she adds.

yes, and that's what you should of done after you emailed her the first time.


I did apologize about the facebook thing, and she said it's ok. I decided to apologize if I showed too much interest in her. I decided to go to the dept head about it, and I told her everything that happend. The dept head said I wasn't in any trouble, and that she saw no need to get involved with it since I resolved it myself.

why do that and implicate yourself and embarrass your teacher? Now they know you are a potential problem.

Ever since I asked my teacher out though she wont reply to emails about class, and she's also more timid, shy, and cautious when talking to me. Like wanting to cut it short or avoid me if possible after class. She said she accepted my apology and said we just need to move forward.

obviously dude, because she thinks you're a stalker. you should quit emailing her altogther unless you want her to get you expelled or have harassment charges against you.

Thing is I didn't smother her. What is it about me that turned her off? All I asked her is if we could go to lunch sometime or go out and do something.

you asked a professor out to lunch through email. that's kinda creepy dude. she rejected you, was upset by it, said to move forward. you should of stopped right there. but then you facebook friend her? of course she is turned off and avioding you. then you still persist by emailing her about the class? she thinks you're a stalker and you should avoid emailing her and talking to her as well.

I probably should have waited until after the semester to ask her out.

you shouldn't of asked her out at all.

Is there any way I can salvage this? At the end of the semester can I ask her if I can stay in touch with her, and if maybe this summer since I wont be a student of hers anymore of maybe she wants to go do something?


Geez dude.....what does it have to take for you to understand that this teacher doesn't want anything to do with you? She rejected your first offer to lunch, the facebook friend request, now she is avoiding and ignoring your emails and you after class, then you think she will magically accept your invitation to lunch just because the class is over? Leave her alone unless you want to get in some serious trouble. The school already knows about what you did as well. It won't take much for them to take action when she decides to report you. You said she has family problems. Let her deal with those because she doesn't need another problem...YOU........
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ELMER_GANTRY said:
ah man, don't tell him that. he probably would do that.

LOL. I know right? If he did it would just show that Dumb OP is dumb.
 
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