So how many times a week do you see a plate?

[ComeOnMan]

Ive had this main plate for like 8 months or so and she doesnt really complain that much that we see each other only once a week but most girls im going out now just complain that i dont text much, they want to see me all the time and **** like that.. how do you guys deal with that?

I dont think giving them more days/time is the answer since they gonna get comfortable and probably pullback but how do i stop this ****? Are these girls needy or am i being too much of an *******?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Depends...and eventually if you aren't giving them what they want they will leave but that is how plates go...

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

Stop overthinking it. Do as you feel bro. If you want to see them, go, if not then dont go. Honestly all these little rules and what not are for people who need to be guided in their RP lifestyle. Plates break sometimes no matter what you do so you might aswell get the most fun outof it on your terms. Stop caring about these things and success will follow. I love my girlfriend but if one day she's done with me I know I will be fine, so will you even if all your plates break at once. This is true outcome independence. If a ***** annoys you with neediness like wanting to see you everyday just tell her no and if she keeps being needy just let her know it bothers you. A true Alpha isn't the one who has 10000 plates, its the guy that calls the shots and isn't fazed by women because he knows he's the catch. Act like it. Everything on your terms and you got to let them know.

 

[ComeOnMan]

I see.. well, i just lost one more yesterday i guess. Maybe she is pulling back but whatever

 

[Lookatu]

I always position myself as a busy person ever since I first meet them so I manage their expectations from the start. They know I have a full time job, a side hustle(part time job), and I care for my sick mother. This allows me to be selective with my time and when I see them, I remind them from time to time that I'm "investing" my time in them. But usually they catch the feels or want more of you after a few couple months to a few months. Not sure how you managed to keep a plate for 8 months unless you are treating her like a GF.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Plates only once a week. Girlfriends twice a week. If a plate wants to see you more she will fall in line and position herself to be your girlfriend. You don’t ever have to give in to her frequency.

The good thing is that you want these girls to chase you. So when they hit you up, simply make the next date but push out some time.

Example: I wait 5-9 days after seeing a girl that’s not my girlfriend before calling her. 90% of the time they can’t wait that long, so they’ll hit me up instead. I ask them out when they do, then I set a date for 3-7 days away. That keeps the frequency at once every week or two weeks.

 

[ComeOnMan]

I always position myself as a busy person ever since I first meet them so I manage their expectations from the start. They know I have a full time job, a side hustle(part time job), and I care for my sick mother. This allows me to be selective with my time and when I see them, I remind them from time to time that I'm "investing" my time in them. But usually they catch the feels or want more of you after a few couple months to a few months. Not sure how you managed to keep a plate for 8 months unless you are treating her like a GF.

Exactly! If they start to show this extremely high interest after 1-2 months or so i get it, thats fine but thse girls im talking about they were like this after the first date, asking me out the next day and stuff like that so i usually get confused.. i dont give them more than 1 day a week and they just pullback or lose interest after some time.

Maybe they are needy as hell or im just used to those savage girls who dont need attention all the time and im just coming off as an as5hole

 

[ComeOnMan]

Plates only once a week. Girlfriends twice a week. If a plate wants to see you more she will fall in line and position herself to be your girlfriend. You don’t ever have to give in to her frequency.

The good thing is that you want these girls to chase you. So when they hit you up, simply make the next date but push out some time.

Example: I wait 5-9 days after seeing a girl that’s not my girlfriend before calling her. 90% of the time they can’t wait that long, so they’ll hit me up instead. I ask them out when they do, then I set a date for 3-7 days away. That keeps the frequency at once every week or two weeks.

Yep, thats exactly what i do. I guess they are trying to build a connection? get a boyfriend and **** like that? I hear alot of relationship questions from them but they dont really ask me for a relationship directly

 

[Lookatu]

Exactly! If they start to show this extremely high interest after 1-2 months or so i get it, thats fine but thse girls im talking about they were like this after the first date, asking me out the next day and stuff like that so i usually get confused.. i dont give them more than 1 day a week and they just pullback or lose interest after some time.

Maybe they are needy as hell or im just used to those savage girls who dont need attention all the time and im just coming off as an as5hole

This seems normal to me. It's definitely a juggling game and the more plates you spin, the more you have to manage.
Just keep the communication lines open and feed them breadcrumbs of attention until you can see them again. Have some excuses lined up or better yet, bring it up at the end of your first or second date so their expectations are in check. Like tell them that you'll be extremely busy at work as a heads up or something like that.

I find girls to be fine if you feed them breadcrumbs because it shows them that you are thinking of them or have them in mind. I've stretched out time by 2-3 weeks often just feeding them breadcrumbs. But keep in mind if she comes across a better option, she will jump on it. There will also be cases where she'll entertain other options and go out but not have it go anywhwere in terms of interest/fun as the same as she's had with you, so she ends up wanting to go back out with you and is willing to wait until you're available.

 

[ComeOnMan]

This seems normal to me. It's definitely a juggling game and the more plates you spin, the more you have to manage.
Just keep the communication lines open and feed them breadcrumbs of attention until you can see them again. Have some excuses lined up or better yet, bring it up at the end of your first or second date so their expectations are in check. Like tell them that you'll be extremely busy at work as a heads up or something like that.

I find girls to be fine if you feed them breadcrumbs because it shows them that you are thinking of them or have them in mind. I've stretched out time by 2-3 weeks often just feeding them breadcrumbs. But keep in mind if she comes across a better option, she will jump on it. There will also be cases where she'll entertain other options and go out but not have it go anywhwere in terms of interest/fun as the same as she's had with you, so she ends up wanting to go back out with you and is willing to wait until you're available.

Yeah man.. thats what i was thinking. Im gonna start giving them scraps if they start complaining about it and see how it goes cause i find it hard to keep some of them at this attraction level for long periods of time