Gents & Lady,
The truth lies within a vast array of facts that surround our society. Sadly as individuals, we've omitted responsibility in favor of allowing our society as whole to take the blame.
We are currently at a 60% divorce rate. This is for first marriages. Second marriages are at a 75% divorce rate. In the United States 40% of all mothers are single mothers. These numbers are fact and apply to all of us, and depending on your demographics, more so or less so.
There's a systemic influence that obviously has some sort of benefit for one gender or the other. In the case of the divorce rates, by and far the court system benefits women (especially mothers), as our society still gives women a free pass when it comes to infidelity, and otherwise toddler-like behavior. The fact that we have "no fault" divorce proceedings should be telling. This is like living in a right-to-work state...you could receive your pink slip any time for anything, with no legit reason. Additionally, mothers traditionally GET PAID on divorce day.
Okay, the single mother rate. While divorces are at an all time high, so too are female expectations for men in our society. And this is not necessarily a good thing. Simply watch any sitcom or read...hell..."anything" involving the two sexes and it's clear that the message is that women should expect everything for nothing, and that men should simply kneel and provide. This said, sex has not discontinued, but men are less likely to get married simply because our economic situation in the United States is bad enough, let alone introducing the possibility of two additional mouths to feed and the wife deciding that she can paid by you and a new husband.
So we're seeing a growing phenomena of Men Going Their Own Way and simply keeping to themselves...spending their money on themselves. The next likely argument is that many men just do not have the financial means to build a family due to the recent recession. This of course is leaving a ton of women to fend for themselves...and hence we now see a far larger population of single mothers who have never been married.
The truth is, there is a very real chance that you will be divorced if you marry. Let's keep in mind that the 40% who do stay married have a percentage of men who put up with a wife who cheats simply because he's too weak to leave her (and vice versa), or that some couples are staying together simply staying together because of the children or because of the familiarity of the relationship. 40% does not reflect happy marriages.
Am I against marriage? No, I've done it twice, it was fun and it sucked both times. I did not have kids and today I enjoy both my new Range Rover Sport (Super Charged) and my Land Rover Discovery that's tricked out with lockers and so on.
Do I enjoy being alone? Most times, and there are days when it sucks. In the last year my best friend who was married for 15 years discovered his wife has been cheating on him the entire time...he just finalized his divorce two-weeks ago. Another buddy of mine who was with his wife of 7 years...just finalized his divorce 4 weeks ago.
I personally believe what's happening in our society is a tragedy. I love being in a relationship, but the truth is, it's imperative that you take the advice on sites like this. These are not lies or gimmickry, because if it was there wouldn't be a million sites, radio stations and common discussion about the same advice...over and over again. You owe it to yourself to filter the "goodies" from the "badies" before you say "I do".
Sources of Inspiration:
1. A Voice for Men Podcast (taking the red pill for once in your life)
2. Shrink for Men.com (dealing with grown-up female toddlers)
Shrink for men is hosted by a female psychologist who seems to understand the male dilemma, and AVFM has female speakers. Both forums are balanced from a male/female perspective and are not female-bashing, but rather address the lack of alpha-male behavior in our society.
