Zarky said:
Had a bad night with the short term girl last night and it will be our last. Was our 4th or so date.. first two dates were fine, had some ok sex quickly. Then she started getting neurotic about it, b/tching that she slept with me too soon and other sh!t. Then she called me and said that she'd gone in for some STD tests and was blaming me (turns out it was a bladder infection). So we hung out for our 3rd date, no sex. I was willing to give her one last shot but she was b/tchy and whining last night and cried for half the night because I wasn't answering the 5000 probing questions she asked, AND she wouldn't put out yet again, so I fell asleep and she went home.
The chick is 36 and the longest relp she ever had was less than a year. When I brought that up she started bawling. She's a head case. And the sex was fairly poor as well.
So now I need a new short-term girl.
Update on this chick. I deleted her from my phone and chat client and I guess she realized this because she texted me wondering what was wrong. I told her off (this was Dec 31st) and said I was over it, too much b/tching not enough sex. No response.
Then the next day (Jan 1) I sent her a text telling her I had a dream about her. She texted me back saying I was confusing her and did I want to come over? I said yes and went over to her place and we screwed. She said she thought she'd never hear from me again. She was still neurotic and talks waaaaay too much so I don't think the relp is going to last but she blew me like there was no tomorrow so I guess she got the point.
Interesting, the last few women I've dated who weren't putting out enough (going back to 2008, about 1 out of 3 new women I date has this problem) started putting out with vigor after I told them there wasn't enough sex and dumped them.. and then showed them some kindness. Maybe it's just that simple.
I know the mantra is "change her mood not her mind" but for some reason, at least for me, if they're not putting out and I get pissed and tell them that I'm dumping them because they're not putting out, then give 'em a day or so to stew on it, then re-initiate contact, this always seems to work for me. They invite me over almost immediately and screw me like crazy, as if to say, "Here's what you want."
EDIT:
Forgot to mention, apparently on the morning of Jan 1 the girl hung out with a few of her friends and she complained about me. Later told me that all her friends "hated me" even though I haven't met any of 'em. LOL.. and said that she'd have to explain to them why she ended up sleeping with me after I "treated her so badly." Girls are whacky.