So hard to do..

[yankees13]

Some of you may have read my post about a week ago.. This girl in my psychology class, that i had my eye on initiated a smile first.. Some of you said if she intiated first i should run and talk to her and not waste time...

I was so excited today ready to talk to her, but i didnt i had no damn balls i chickened out completely, and it feels bad. During class i went out for little break, when i came back opened the door, she looked who it was and she looked into my eyes, i didnt smile nothing, i just looked back at her like a dumb ass..

Tommorow will have a class again, and i have to do it, i just need some encorougment.. It feels so easy when you say,you will do but when it actually comes to doing it, its like oh god no, not today

 

[Walden]

Don't sweat it dude , it's easy to be scared into making excuses and then believing them.

Remember that you're approaching cos it's gonna be fun to get to know a beautiful baby , and stay relaxed.

You might wanna try mentaly rehearsing it just as far as walking up to her. Generally if you can drag yourself over there , you mouth will do the rest.

Good hunting.

 

[Tano]

Just think, she obvioulsy likes you so its not the fear of rejection. Also if you dont do something soon she is going to think your a wussy and so your going to regret this for a long time. The man has to make all the moves and women are attracted to strong, confident males.

She knows you like her and she is going to quickly loose interest if you dont grow some balls. I think the problem your having with her is that you cant think of an conversation opener or that when you speak to her you are going to sound nervous and stuff it up.

Why not just smile and say hello on the first day, and then on subsequent days just have a little conversation. Find out what she likes to do for fun, does she like to travel, her hobbies etc. This is the slow approach but i guarantee you that if you try any of that DJ **** on her now its gonna blow up in your face because your not ready.

 

[yankees13]

Hey

Thanks for the reply, have been reading your journal... You have made tremendous progress, actually great progress.. Wish i had balls like you...

 

[Kodiac]

Take a risk dude, its not even a big one, you know shes interested, now..there no excuses, get off your butt and DO IT!

Maybe get to class early, when you first see her GO IN, the 3 second rule...dont think just GO.

And if you feel the nerves start to kick in, just stand up...think "fuk this, im going to do it" walk towards her and know.. there is no turning back now!

You will feel so much better for doing it..trust me.

GO GO GO

 

[bugsquish]

Just think how good you're gonna feel when you come and post on this topic "I got a number/date/screw"

 

[Bud Wiser]

This is a case of clearly irrational fear. Hey, dude, think of it this way...

She doesn't have a gun!

She can't physically harm you. So get over it -- now.

Second, before you approach her, imagine her naked and hold that image in your mind when you speak with her. Mind you, this is with full eye contact! Don't stare at her body, just imagine she's naked while you look into her eyes. (I've tried this and it helps you use your eyes to frame things into a sexual context without being obvious in any way.)

Let's see -- what's a good opening line? You could try this:

You: "Hi, I'm (name). Do you think we'll ever learn anything useful in this class?"

Her: She probably smiles and shrugs or says "I don't know."

You: You know, like maybe how people put up barriers and don't let their real selves show? Stuff like that..."

Anyway, you get the point. You don't have to memorize this. What I'm suggesting is that you use the one thing you have in common with her, the psych class, to your advantage.

Just hang loose, imagine her naked, but don't look at her body and maintain eye contact, and let it rip without giving a damn about the outcome. ("Kill that desire" -- remember?)

P.S. This exact same thing happened to me in my college psych class. Guess what happened? I was too scared to do anything and she ended up with another guy. I regret it to this day.

Don't let this happen to you!

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

You need to strike while the iron is hot (ie Right F*cking Now)

Dont be giving all that B.S that you have no balls, i dont buy that...think of it this way..WHAT you are ACTUALLY going to do is what 90% of the guys out there (who dont read this site) THINK and DREAM of DOING, but will never DO IT.

You are about to set yourself apart in their eyes, and most importantly, this girls. So take that to heart.

As far as the fear thing, and i want to give credit where its due but i cant remember the post or the poster, try this:

Go to the bookstore and read about the holocaust and how horrible it was for people who were of jewish decent during those terrible times, then go talk to her. Maybe it will help.

good luck

 

[Starman]

heh try these psych lines

A nurse walks into the psychiatrists office and says "Doc, there is a guy here who claims he is the invisible man!"

Doc:"Tell him I cant see him right now"


Or

Did you hear about the guy that walked into the shrinks office covered in only Saran Wrap?

Girl: "umm no"

The doc took one look at him and Said "I can clearly see your nuts"

 

[yankees13]

**UPDATE** ROADBLOCK!

Thanks everyone for such great advice... But today sucked big time, i didnt talk to her because im assuming she has a boyfriend WHY?

While getting out of class, she gives this guy a kiss... So im like i cant talk to her lol maybe thats her man.. So i go sit by the window, and make a phone call.. I see her walking with two guys, she was holding hands with one of the guys, that kind of crushed me.. (YEA i know AFC mentality), im assuming thats her man , well it must be if they holding hands..

So i guess i gotta move on... Although i was left little confused, why would she intiate a smile first (Yes of course you may say shes just being friendly, but the way it all happened i wouldnt call it just a friendly smile, i mean sometimes i still see her glancing at me during class although i pretend i dont see her... I guess my only other option is basically sit by her have a convo, and like in middle of it be like "so was that your man you were walking with on tuesday" I dont know if it is the right thing to ask she may think " damn he must be stalking me"

And last thing some of you may say well she has a man because YOU didnt make a move, that isnt the case, because i believe i saw them holding hands at beggining of classes which was like 3 weeks ago..Not sure though

Opinions? Thanks

 

[Starman]

well you have two assumptions from your observation..they were holding hands because

1) they were a couple

2) They wanted to clotheline the next person walking down the hall

 

[rich_uk]

dude, if you dont know her you can still talk to her. just start a conversation like you were going to and act like you didnt see her with the guy. maybe she is looking at you because she does like you. you might be able to get the girl in this, you might as well give it a go and just talk to her and see what happens. atleast you will have a buddy in your class!

 

[yankees13]

Yea i think its # 1, oh well time to move on

 

[Starman]

its a waste of time..one thing thats worse than trying to gauge a girls IL..is trying to gauge ones that taken

 

[yankees13]

LOL wish she never smiled at me, and didnt glance at me in class... But yea im gonna move on, although i probably will talk to her.. Never hurts to have a extra friend

 

[Starman]

yup..some women flirt..even tho they have a man..take the smile as an ego boost..talk to her..maybe she has friends..

 

[chlywly]

Originally posted by Starman
yup..some women flirt..even tho they have a man..take the smile as an ego boost..talk to her..maybe she has friends..

Agree

If you like her and she has a man that doesnt mean you shouldnt talk to her, you never know what can happens or whats meant ot be

I say GO FOR IT