So, if you are looking for a LTR.
Does your value come down to being a good provider?, in a healthy relationship ofcourse, with no headgames, etc.
After a while here, you know what you know on how to get a girl. Which in a way comes down to being fun without hiding or being overly open about your sexual interest in her. You can also be, regardless of how you were born, in outstanding shape, with real values, no vices, hardworking, work on your high ambitions, honest, loyal, family-driven, protective, try your best to be patient (with her), look for details, etc. And, as far as chemistry, well, let's assume that's in the bag too . . .
All that taken into consideration.
If you're not only a good or bad provider, but not a provider at all, because of whatever reason, is it understandeable for a woman to take you off her list because of that?
Does, in LTRs, your value really come down to how much of a provider you can be?
Women's value in some way, comes down to her attractiveness. But I feel there is so much more than that when you take her into consideration for a LTR. I mean, she can be not blessed with natural attractiveness but maybe she invests money and time into herself. She has to be "my type", which is really attractive, but not necessarily a 10 in everyones mind. And ofcourse, personality wise, she has to be affectionate, etc. And chemistry ofcourse.
I'm asking this because I'm being ... delayed, because of this, with some chick. And this led me to, in a way, be scared of making money, you know? Not wanting to be -loved- for my money. I've lived . . . well, in my life, I know what a life with, considerable money is like. I feel I will be essentially the same in one month, in one year, in five. With properties here and there, the cars I want, the clothes I want, or with even less that what I have today... I consider I will be the same. I would like to note, insist. This doesn't mean I don't have high, very high ambitions, and work with direction to consolidate these ambitions, but I feel that that doesn't define me.
Thinking like a woman, I'd marry myself, or, be in a LTR with myself at least, because I'd have enough interest and believe SP/him/me.
At first I thought it was simply a matter of lack of interest. But then I started thinking, well, maybe (she) is right. In some ways, many people are promises. But how do you know that will become a reality? Just in case, the woman who got me thinking is 29 going on 30. I mean, clock is ticking, you can be in a relationship, for, what, 1 year? And if (I) just turn out to be a promise, well, you can't build a family from no money. And, you got one year less to find someone to have babies with.
Harsh, but true?
So, in a way, I suppose it's understandeable for a woman to go for that. But, is there a line, if any, that divides gold diggers from women-looking-to-build-a-family?
I can't shake the feeling of making money, and women going for me because of it. Not just because of it, but it being detrimental on whether they are in a relationship with me or not. I don't plan on losing the money I make, but, if (she) is with me, what prevents her from not if I lose the money? *ofcourse, lose it only to build it up again*. Or, her going for someone who is a *better* provider. . .
If it does come down to that. If it is understandeable, then, damn, I'll feel really well about being ultra-picky. I mean, I have the qualities I listed above, and, thank god, I was blessed with naturaly beauty (not adonis-like though), tall, AND I'm a (good) provider? I'll be a god!
I personally feel money is the only thing keeping me from being full, taking away the attractiveness to women that it could bring, I really think it's the only thing lacking in my life to take me closer to completeness. Or, in another point of view, it will get me on the fasttrack to completeness.
And if so, women have it so much easier in a way. They don't have to be ingineous, creative, ambitious, nothing. Just have (great) personality, take care of her body extensively and... what else?
This isn't geared to be misoginistic, this is geared to the truth.
Thankyou!
Does your value come down to being a good provider?, in a healthy relationship ofcourse, with no headgames, etc.
After a while here, you know what you know on how to get a girl. Which in a way comes down to being fun without hiding or being overly open about your sexual interest in her. You can also be, regardless of how you were born, in outstanding shape, with real values, no vices, hardworking, work on your high ambitions, honest, loyal, family-driven, protective, try your best to be patient (with her), look for details, etc. And, as far as chemistry, well, let's assume that's in the bag too . . .
All that taken into consideration.
If you're not only a good or bad provider, but not a provider at all, because of whatever reason, is it understandeable for a woman to take you off her list because of that?
Does, in LTRs, your value really come down to how much of a provider you can be?
Women's value in some way, comes down to her attractiveness. But I feel there is so much more than that when you take her into consideration for a LTR. I mean, she can be not blessed with natural attractiveness but maybe she invests money and time into herself. She has to be "my type", which is really attractive, but not necessarily a 10 in everyones mind. And ofcourse, personality wise, she has to be affectionate, etc. And chemistry ofcourse.
I'm asking this because I'm being ... delayed, because of this, with some chick. And this led me to, in a way, be scared of making money, you know? Not wanting to be -loved- for my money. I've lived . . . well, in my life, I know what a life with, considerable money is like. I feel I will be essentially the same in one month, in one year, in five. With properties here and there, the cars I want, the clothes I want, or with even less that what I have today... I consider I will be the same. I would like to note, insist. This doesn't mean I don't have high, very high ambitions, and work with direction to consolidate these ambitions, but I feel that that doesn't define me.
Thinking like a woman, I'd marry myself, or, be in a LTR with myself at least, because I'd have enough interest and believe SP/him/me.
At first I thought it was simply a matter of lack of interest. But then I started thinking, well, maybe (she) is right. In some ways, many people are promises. But how do you know that will become a reality? Just in case, the woman who got me thinking is 29 going on 30. I mean, clock is ticking, you can be in a relationship, for, what, 1 year? And if (I) just turn out to be a promise, well, you can't build a family from no money. And, you got one year less to find someone to have babies with.
Harsh, but true?
So, in a way, I suppose it's understandeable for a woman to go for that. But, is there a line, if any, that divides gold diggers from women-looking-to-build-a-family?
I can't shake the feeling of making money, and women going for me because of it. Not just because of it, but it being detrimental on whether they are in a relationship with me or not. I don't plan on losing the money I make, but, if (she) is with me, what prevents her from not if I lose the money? *ofcourse, lose it only to build it up again*. Or, her going for someone who is a *better* provider. . .
If it does come down to that. If it is understandeable, then, damn, I'll feel really well about being ultra-picky. I mean, I have the qualities I listed above, and, thank god, I was blessed with naturaly beauty (not adonis-like though), tall, AND I'm a (good) provider? I'll be a god!
I personally feel money is the only thing keeping me from being full, taking away the attractiveness to women that it could bring, I really think it's the only thing lacking in my life to take me closer to completeness. Or, in another point of view, it will get me on the fasttrack to completeness.
And if so, women have it so much easier in a way. They don't have to be ingineous, creative, ambitious, nothing. Just have (great) personality, take care of her body extensively and... what else?
This isn't geared to be misoginistic, this is geared to the truth.
Thankyou!
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