So do you think I was rejected?

[ladiesman1382]

So how many of you are too completely shy to ever go upto a random girl that you thought was pretty and talk to her and ask if you can call her?
I am a big shy guy. I'm 25 and never had a girlfriend. I've talked to girls, had experiences before but never really just went up to a random girl and talked to her.
Do you think going up to a random girl and talking to her shows confidence?

Just recently I thought to myself I really need to stop being chicken. That if I ever saw one of those girls who I'd consider to be a dream girl I'd have to go talk to her. I even have my own "pickup line" (well noncorny one anyway, my corny one of choice is "the doctor said I had diabetes because of you, too much of a sweet thingg" which would be "Hi my name's is ***** I usually never do this because I'm shy but I thought you are really pretty so I was wondering if I could call you sometime?"

The thought process is of course that if you never try, you'll always be rejected, but if you do try at least there's a chance and if you get rejected well you're at the same place you started.

I honestly thought in a million years I'd ever talk to a random girl, and with the bad case depression I have of I was really scared of rejection.. but tonight I was at a poker place with my parents for a banquet. I went to play poker (big poker room, like 30 tables) and there was this this girl who was walking around handing out chips. I played for like 2-3 hours and thought of what I'd say but still convinced I'd never do it but then I psyched myself up to do it. Before I left, I almost didn't do it but I thought what the hell I don't want to lose a chance because that's even worse than being rejected.

I went up to her when she was by herself doing something in a drawer and the conversation was something like
"Excuse me are you busy?"
her "no can I help you with something?"
"No I was just going to say that my name is *****, I never usually come here but I think you are really pretty and was wondering if I could call you sometime?"
she sorta smirked/smiled I guess and kinda thought for a second and said
"so you don't come here a lot?"
"No I live in the north side of town so I go to (the other place)"
"(something)"
"yeah I've only been here one time before for the morning tournaments, too early for me though, do you guys still have those?"
"yeah"
"what time do those start?"
"oh like 11 or 12"
"I was like lol yeah that's way too early for me that's like my bedtime"
and then she was like "well can I call you?" (instead of me calling her)
and I said sure and she got my #
"so do you play a lot?"
"Yeah but I'm not like a gambleholic or anything"
"cool I'm going to have a home game soon would you be interested?"
"yeah"
blablabla
and then she said "I'll call you like monday"
and told me her name and then I said cool nice to meet you blablabla

not a total rejection, so good yah?


although some people think that means I WAS rejected

 

[stand]

You will know Monday.. Do not sweat it. Keep sarging. It's the only way you will get better and overcome your fears.

It's good you realize now that your dream girl isn't just going to bump into you and engage in conversation with you. You have to get out there and find her.

Good luck.

 

[j0n024]

Yes the only way to know is monday...but that is weird I never seen a girl ask for a guys number but then again she is a jock so whatever. I think she might be making you one of her "Friends" so be careful make your intentions very very clear to her before she puts you in the Friends zone ok bud and good luck UPDATE monday.

Plus your line "Hi my name's is ***** I usually never do this because I'm shy but I thought you are really pretty so I was wondering if I could call you sometime?"

I think it is very good ...straight to the point and well thought you but I think you could do a little better sorta like this.

"Hi my name is j0n I usually never do this but I saw you over here and and thought you looked pretty CUTE so I came over here to get to know you better" Then you go on to name ect...ect...ect. GOOD LUCK .

 

[ladiesman1382]

yeah maybe something like "I have to get goin" so it doesn't seem like I can't start an actual conversation

what do you mean jock?
monday and tuesday have passed (albeit christmas) so i'm thinkin rejected
oh well
least I had the balls

 

[L B]

The smart ones will ask for your number so they don't have to lie about theirs.

Don't sweat it. Of all the numbers you will get, some will be wrong numbers, while others will not return your call. It's part of the game.

Good practice so far. Looks like you're an action man, while you're at it, check out the DJ Bible. Practice the lessons in there and improve your game.

Experiment with different things and try to find a style that works for you, that you are comfortable with. Remember that no style works for everyone.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

To answer your question in short, YES you got rejected. Any woman who is truly interested in a man will have no problem giving her number to him. In fact if you really do your job right, some women will hand it to you, or ask you to ask them for their number.

However, that doesn't mean she won't hit you up on Monday for her little poker game but your in the friend zone, so don't make the mistake of getting all excited if you hear from her. But I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for her call. She most likely will not call.

There are two things you need to understand. Number one; Woman absolutely HATE and I mean HATE to be the bad person when it comes to male-female interaction. So what do they do? They try to be "nice" by laying you down gently, but to the average chump they see this as a glimmer of hope, rather than the reality of the situation. Number two; you didn't get rejected because she wasn't interested. You got rejected because you failed to build ANY rapport with her, you failed to make yourself stand out from the other million guys that hit on her all day, everyday. And mostly, you failed to control the frame by making her see you as the prize.

Congrats on making the cold approach, it takes a lot of courage to overcome your fear. But the good news is you have the right mindset and your only going to improve. Next time you approach, trying establishing some non-verbal signs of interest (eye contact, body language, smiling), then approaching in a confident manner without mentioning her looks. She'll be much more receptive to giving you her number if you do it right and you could be fuvkin' that girl within a short time from then.

Good luck.


PIMP

 

[MooseGod]

Never let her call you. Fatal mistake.

Other than that, sounds like a pretty good pickup, even if you do get blown off. I'd consider it a success if I were you, because you had the cojones to do it. Just do it to every attractive girl you see, and you'll enjoy some success eventually. It's strictly a numbers game.

That's not a bad 'pickup line' either...except maybe instead of saying she's pretty I'd say 'there's just something about you...' Makes it more mysterious, doesn't kiss her ass, and if she likes you it brings up romantic notions of love at first sight and other cheesy stuff like that in her head.