So confused man... lol

[titansremember]

Man, I really hate all my posts being about the same girl. Usually, I have a clear cut route as to where to go next regarding problems in my life with women. But this is too damn confusing.

All my life, I've kind of been the cool guy, not giving a fvck about anything really, until this girl broke up with me after three months. I live in a college suite with like 4 other guys. I assumed these guys would have some respect for my emotional state, but no. Three days after our break up, she comes along and hangs out with everyone as if nothing happened. I try to be my usual cool self, but being "just friends" with a girl I really want to bang is not something I've ever been good at, since every attempt I've had at it has been crash and burn. I told my friends, "give me a solid week without seeing her, and I'll be good." Sure enough, that week comes, and I'm still not over her.

Unfortunately, now its getting worse. This girl is just someone I do not want in my life right now. She's constantly skipping class, getting high with all my "friends," while I'm trying to quit weed and be a better student and improve myself altogether. But she is always in MY living space and I am constantly being forced to interact with her. And it sucks, I don't want it. Not to mention this girl lied to me during the breakup and, I'm guessing, has no respect for me because of this.

If I tell her I don't want to see her, that will only make me look weak, since it's been a month and a half and I'm still not completely over her. At the same time, having her around is just hindering my process, not to mention she can pretty much tell I'm not over her when she sees me. There's no hiding it. I can't tell this to the guys I live with. And there's not a whole lot of other places I can go where I can get something done. It's MY space too. I live there. And as someone who lives there, I believe I have a right as to who I don't want to see there.

And honestly, do you think it's right for a girl to break up with you and just hang around you like it didn't happen? Are we supposed to suck it up and deal with it or do we deserve to have some breathing room? Looking to hear from you guys...

 

[Chamber36]

I don't blame you at all for not wanting to see her. I broke contact with a girl who was giving me attitude, even though we're still platonic "friends", I am glad she doesn't come to my house anymore.

My advice is to try and see if you can keep her away. If I was you I'd tell your roommate to cut contact with her and stop answering her calls, and that sort of stuff. Just cut her out.

 

[Slickster]

Why is she hanging around anyway? My bet is she is interested in one of your "friends". You will probably find this out on some drunken night in the future.

The best way out of this is to find another girl. This always gives you perspective about the last one.

 

[Iceberg]

Why is she hanging around anyway? My bet is she is interested in one of your "friends". You will probably find this out on some drunken night in the future.

The best way out of this is to find another girl. This always gives you perspective about the last one.

I agree.

Any time you have some chick getting high and drunk with a group of dudes, she ends up banging one of them. Or in this case, she's already banged one, so she's gonna get a 2nd one.

 

[titansremember]

You know what it is man? She hangs around my roommate to get free weed. Iceberg, I don't think he's going to bang any of my friends. One of them is gay, and the other one is just repulsive. Women tell me, he's the kind of guy that women see and just do not want to have any sexual relations with. He's short, has a really freaky mustache, hairy, you get the picture. I've had it with this girl. When she broke up with me and I went on this site, I finally saw her for what she was, and I couldn't believe it. And I'm glad I never supplicated and gave her free sh1t. I mean, she'd smoke me up all the time and whatever when we were dating, and it got to the point I'd feel so guilty I was getting all this free sh1t from her. And as soon as I try to repay her, boom. She dumps me.

She came by to pick up free weed from this dude today. I don't even talk to her anymore, it's just that disgraceful. And Slickster, I'll have you know that I AM drunk right now (also on codeine, its crazy). I thought she was the prettiest girl on campus, but I realize now what a wh0re she really is. Now I just gotta find another girl... gonna be hard to find one with a better body/face than this one, man. Sh1t...

But thank you guys for showing me the harsh truth. It was so hard to believe at first, but now it's clear as day. Hopefully I'll have this same confidence when I'm sober/hungover tomorrow. Here's to you guys.

 

[Jair213]

I agree.

Any time you have some chick getting high and drunk with a group of dudes, she ends up banging one of them. Or in this case, she's already banged one, so she's gonna get a 2nd one.

Or bang by all of them.

 

[perseverance]

Chamber36's advice isn't going to work, you can't dictate to your friend who he can and can't be friends with.

This girl clearly wants to bang one of your mates, I bet that free weed your mate is giving this girl isn't 'free' as such, he's probably getting sexual favours in return, like a blowie for an ounce, that sort of thing.

 

[titansremember]

Chamber36's advice isn't going to work, you can't dictate to your friend who he can and can't be friends with.

This girl clearly wants to bang one of your mates, I bet that free weed your mate is giving this girl isn't 'free' as such, he's probably getting sexual favours in return, like a blowie for an ounce, that sort of thing.

Nah, its not even that man. She'll stop by my room when she needs a free dub, that kind of thing. My friend only really scores with fat/ugly chicks anyway.

Although I appreciate the advice you guys are giving me, I think your imaginations are running a bit wild. I was JUST asking how to keep her out of my room and away from my personal space. I honestly don't care if she decides to blow this loser of a dude. If she decides to turn into a strung out druggie sucking d*ck for weed, I really don't care and it's her loss and I want you guys to know that. You guys are sounding like the kind of people who assume, if a girl you know isn't in the room for 5 seconds, she's off doing sexual favors with some other dude! Give it a rest and give me advice on my problem!! lol

 

[5string]

How bout you simply tell her that it would be best if she didnt frequent your place? I know you dont want to say "I feel uncomfortable when you hang out here" as it sounds like it makes you out to be weak and that you are the one with the problem. I understand that fully.

Slickster has the best advice. Get another girl. Maybe that will make her uncomfortable and she wont hang around. Plus, having a new gal will help you get over her.

Tough spot to be in.

 

[loveshogun]

Are we supposed to suck it up and deal with it...?

Yes. Stop crying so much. It's really not an attractive look on you, or any man for that matter.

Don't you have anything cool going on in your life? Get some of those things going on. If you need ideas, we can give you some. Yeesh.

If you had cool things happening in your life, you wouldn't have nearly enough time to ask us advice about your non-problems.

... twice!

... about the same damn girl that isn't worth it!

As for what 5string told you, it's golden advice for someone who has things going on in his life, but for you, I don't recommend hanging around anymore women for a little while. I recommend becoming an accomplished, fun guy.