So attracted she's scared?

[Bonhomme]

Have any of you guys dealt with a gal who's so attracted to you she's scared?

There's one gal in my picture who's showing all the signs that could point to that: amazing chemistry, unable to keep her hands off me when we do get together, having some really fun, animated phone conversations every now & then, but cancelling dates often, and I'm having a hard time getting a date with her in general.

I just talked with her a couple nights ago, and she was talking as if she's my girlfriend (repeatedly referring to me as "sweetie," and stuff like that -- she never did before, so it's not just her usual way of speech), laughing a lot, etc., and begging me to call her the next day. But then yesterday when I did call her she was unreachable. And she hasn't called me.

It also seems to go against the usual "rules" in that the more I pursue the gal, the better she responds.

She can't be putting on an act, because the way things heat up in response to the flow of things is way too natural. Nobody can put on that good an act.

Any of you guys have any ideas or suggestions? I have other fine gals in the picture, but it would be a drag if this gal chokes herself out of contention: we just have so much fun when we do make contact.

 

[phillyb]

she's playing games with you man.....foget her!

 

[jakeyboy]

she may not necessarily be playing games with you though that could be a likely possibility

IMO, you should simply not pursue her for a bit and see how she reacts. like frinstance, now, she begged you to call her the next day and you did, and she didn't pick up. this shows she's messing with you, to see how you would react, would you give in to her demands and call her? how would you react when she didnt pick up and didnt return your calls?

look mate, if she wants to, she can very well call you, she doesn't need to beg you to call her. she's got fingers for keying in numbers.

ignore her for a bit, wait for her to call you.

PS. the next time she begs you to call her, tell her if she wants to speak to you so badly, she should call you.

 

[Bonhomme]

That's what I thought, phillyb...

but the explanation doesn't feel right. She's way too emotional about everything to be just playing games.

Perhaps an extreme variant of "the rules," in which she's trying to "dump proof" herself by trying to find a man who will go to great lengths to get her. I dunno. Definitely too emotional to be insincere about her attraction. But her mind might have misgivings.

Yeah, I just may have a go at your suggestion, jakeyboy, and work the other gals. One of them is pretty hot, bright, and interesting, and we just had a great first phone convo.

Don't worry, guys, I'm not gonna lose my head over it whatever happens or doesn't happen. I'm actually enjoying the challenge.

Whatever the case, it's very interesting, and I must say it's piqued my curiosity!

 

[Big Bad Wolf]

Bonhomme

I went through this same ordeal for 3 months. She would talk about how much she wanted me, blah blah blah...when I finally would get her to see me, she was all over me, sex, sex, sex. But she would play those stupid games like not returning my phone callls (I would maybe call her once a week), saying she was going to come see me, then never a word from her. I even stopped giving her attention for awhile, but nothing changed. She wasnt the only piece of ass out there, it was not worth the BS so I told her no more.

Maybe she is just an AW.

 

[dearsappho]

Going through exactly the same thing as you, my friend.
Girl keeps flaking on me for reasons unknown, but when we do get together all hell breaks loose - I mean, she totally looses control of her otherwise reserved character. I love it...

This has been going on for 3 weeks and I basically had enough. What did I do you ask?
I put my foot down. I made it known to one of her friends that I had deleted her number from my phone because "I had lost patience" with her and was "moving on to someone who could be bothered". The third person tactic scrambled her mind a bit, man because...
What happened was is that her mate called her that instant to tell her what I had said. My flakey chick calls me to ask what was going on and that "she didnt understand where all this had come from".
I told her that we should talk about where things stood and I required a yes or no answer. She said yes and Im off to meet her in a few minutes.
I will not wane in the face of fear. Either she tells me that she wants me and the **** stops period or shes on the slag heap....FOR GOOD!

Later chaps

 

[Bonhomme]

Noted, BBW

But did you really go after her to the point you convinced her she's your #1?

That might be what my gal wants. Sort of a female DJ. She's a lot of fun, so I just may play along for a bit.

My one real concern is that she might actually expect me to do something that could otherwise get me arrested (chuckling).

Interesting extreme human behavior.

 

[dearsappho]

Mate....I dont care if she thinks shes MY number one. I want to know that Im HER number one, savy? U should do the same me thinks...

 

[Bonhomme]

simultaneous post, dearsappho

I was adddressing Big Bad Wolf. It didn't appear he made much of an effort. And, truth to be told, this gal compliments me about 5X as much as I do her. I've let my hands and ears do my talking.

Best of luck, dearsappho!

 

[Big Bad Wolf]

Bon -

I made a big effort, the problem was she wasnt making any effort at all. Yea, I would get lip service all day long, compliments out the ass (i.e. I would drink your sweat), she would say she wanted to see me, etc. She was all talk and no action most of the time. IMO she is an big AW. I am not saying yor girl is this way, but it is a possiblity.