jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
You have reached an age where you have surpassed those free opportunities that were given to you.
There are people you see together, the happy couples and the social circles from high school. They didn't have to struggle much: everything was easy for them. They were matched by something called "repeated exposure." It's not a game; it happened naturally because we are inclined to pair with people we like. It's a game of exclusion.
People like us, who came out badly from a relationship of that type, or were excluded from the social group because they are all couples and we are single, or for other reasons like low social participation in these activities, find themselves making active efforts and facing rejection. They have to learn many things now.
Now, it doesn't matter only how high a man's SMV is, but also how many useful and repeated opportunities he creates so that the market can sell him in the best position, like the best product. It's not just about dates.
Some of us, who are growing in terms of SMV but don't see results, is because they can't find their niche. It's not easy, and that's why everyone's help is needed to succeed, because once you find it, you'll be in the right place at the right time, multiple times in your life. And it's in this position that you can build social groups, like your friends, your family, etc.
The social groups where, as young people, you met other men and dated women and couples could form, had things in common like:
Now, if we look at these groups, we'll call them Frequency Groups (FG). The really important part is that we need to understand how we can get the best out of who we are. Many of us like the gym, yoga, travel, food, music, painting, archery, horseback riding, etc.
Try every single FG and see which ones you enjoy staying in longer because the activity we do exhilarates us, entertains us, makes us positive, and not just because we see others doing it as a trend. In this case, once we understand our 4 or 5 groups of interest, we must give our best to become people with high SMV in those groups. Once we do this, which we'll call "SMV Optimization," we'll start being men of value for the things that matter to us.
Jeff Bezos is a man with very high SMV globally, but he would be beaten by Sam the catechist if they both had to compete for the neighborhood church group. Jeff wouldn't have a chance because he would see himself defeated and say, "What does Sam have that I don't?" "I'm a man of much higher value." And so we would say that Sam has more "game." Wrong! Sam is the leader of his group; he makes decisions, he guides. Here's where if there's a girl genuinely attracted to Sam, she'll be with him and not with Jeff.
Finding our FGs seems like the best shortcut to becoming great men, because we can continue to increase our SMV, but only in that specific field. A Ferrari is fun both on a straight road and in curves, but certainly not in a city with traffic lights and controls, right?
If you go to a bar and You are a man of high value, no one will know unless it's from your physical appearance and your game. But even in this way, you'll be just another man. While if you're a Sam of the neighborhood, you'll definitely have genuine friendships and relationships guaranteed! And Sam has much less effort to make compared to a man who must conquer the world to reach unknown people at a bar. But He had to find his niche.
Now it's up to us what kind of life we decide to lead, and here opinions might be conflicting, since those who have reached the point of being a man with "game" and high value might say it's wrong to think about becoming a leader in a restricted social circle and instead expand and keep horizons open, while there are also those who think the opposite.
This post is written as an informative piece that aims to address the problematic question that all men will face in life, which is that frustrating question, "Am I doing something wrong? Am I at my highest SMV and yet I haven't obtained friends or women, even doing this thing that i like?" Because sometimes it won't work. Boosting SMV isn't enough. It's a gray race where you'll become men of "objective" value, but rarely "subjective" value for yourself or someone who admires you.
In this case, I invite everyone here to contribute to the post to enrich the methods, the case studies, things that come to mind to manage to find activities that truly interest you and that you can do with enjoyment and pride, as recreation, with endless desire, things that satisfy and don't aim at women as a goal, but aim at putting yourself in that place where encounters are possible and nature will do the magic.
How did you find them? What advice would you give to find them? How have they changed you?
There are people you see together, the happy couples and the social circles from high school. They didn't have to struggle much: everything was easy for them. They were matched by something called "repeated exposure." It's not a game; it happened naturally because we are inclined to pair with people we like. It's a game of exclusion.
People like us, who came out badly from a relationship of that type, or were excluded from the social group because they are all couples and we are single, or for other reasons like low social participation in these activities, find themselves making active efforts and facing rejection. They have to learn many things now.
Now, it doesn't matter only how high a man's SMV is, but also how many useful and repeated opportunities he creates so that the market can sell him in the best position, like the best product. It's not just about dates.
Some of us, who are growing in terms of SMV but don't see results, is because they can't find their niche. It's not easy, and that's why everyone's help is needed to succeed, because once you find it, you'll be in the right place at the right time, multiple times in your life. And it's in this position that you can build social groups, like your friends, your family, etc.
The social groups where, as young people, you met other men and dated women and couples could form, had things in common like:
- Repeated frequency or long hours together
- Always the same people
- Mixed men and women
- Similar objectives
Now, if we look at these groups, we'll call them Frequency Groups (FG). The really important part is that we need to understand how we can get the best out of who we are. Many of us like the gym, yoga, travel, food, music, painting, archery, horseback riding, etc.
Try every single FG and see which ones you enjoy staying in longer because the activity we do exhilarates us, entertains us, makes us positive, and not just because we see others doing it as a trend. In this case, once we understand our 4 or 5 groups of interest, we must give our best to become people with high SMV in those groups. Once we do this, which we'll call "SMV Optimization," we'll start being men of value for the things that matter to us.
Jeff Bezos is a man with very high SMV globally, but he would be beaten by Sam the catechist if they both had to compete for the neighborhood church group. Jeff wouldn't have a chance because he would see himself defeated and say, "What does Sam have that I don't?" "I'm a man of much higher value." And so we would say that Sam has more "game." Wrong! Sam is the leader of his group; he makes decisions, he guides. Here's where if there's a girl genuinely attracted to Sam, she'll be with him and not with Jeff.
Finding our FGs seems like the best shortcut to becoming great men, because we can continue to increase our SMV, but only in that specific field. A Ferrari is fun both on a straight road and in curves, but certainly not in a city with traffic lights and controls, right?
If you go to a bar and You are a man of high value, no one will know unless it's from your physical appearance and your game. But even in this way, you'll be just another man. While if you're a Sam of the neighborhood, you'll definitely have genuine friendships and relationships guaranteed! And Sam has much less effort to make compared to a man who must conquer the world to reach unknown people at a bar. But He had to find his niche.
Now it's up to us what kind of life we decide to lead, and here opinions might be conflicting, since those who have reached the point of being a man with "game" and high value might say it's wrong to think about becoming a leader in a restricted social circle and instead expand and keep horizons open, while there are also those who think the opposite.
This post is written as an informative piece that aims to address the problematic question that all men will face in life, which is that frustrating question, "Am I doing something wrong? Am I at my highest SMV and yet I haven't obtained friends or women, even doing this thing that i like?" Because sometimes it won't work. Boosting SMV isn't enough. It's a gray race where you'll become men of "objective" value, but rarely "subjective" value for yourself or someone who admires you.
In this case, I invite everyone here to contribute to the post to enrich the methods, the case studies, things that come to mind to manage to find activities that truly interest you and that you can do with enjoyment and pride, as recreation, with endless desire, things that satisfy and don't aim at women as a goal, but aim at putting yourself in that place where encounters are possible and nature will do the magic.
How did you find them? What advice would you give to find them? How have they changed you?
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