Smothering her with comments

kk2004

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Well, in the last two weeks me and my gf have gone thorough lots of ups and downs. We didnt know if we would see each other, not cuz we were having a problems but bcuz of other issuse out of her hands. Her mom she realli doesnt want us to see each other, but right now im chossing to forget that.

So in the last few days, i have gone through a relaization period and i relaized how much I reali love this gurl ,more than i though i did. She means more to me than i let her feel.

Like in the last few times i saw her, i was bieng nice, and postive with her, i said things like

"i miss u so much i wish u could be here with me now"
"I love u"
"Ur cute"
me: "Ur so hot. i dont care what u say"
her: no im not (in a slow tone)
me: yes u are

She would say them back to me but not as much. I could just feel the postive enrgy in her grow stronger though. So even though she may not have too many words to say i can feel her getting happier.

SO i just dont want her to start taking my love for granted, do u think i should tone down the lovey dovy stuff. I know ur answer already is gonna be YES. cuz it aint the dj thing to do or the pimp thing, but i figure that i give her compliments that are sincere and tell her how i feel about her, more than i normally do. I just dont want to be a wuss. BUt telling her those thing make us happier. I guess ill strike a balance. ill be postive but not saying them where they go overboard. I just dont wnat ot become a sap, cuz i am saying more nice things to her than she is, but i can feel her that she likes them and she doesnt say them to me as often now but its okay i can tell, she changes her action become diffrent.
 

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da heck?

i'd personally be more eager to show the girl how i felt than to tell her over and over.

maybe once in a while. like a gift.

*shrugs*
 

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It is my sad duty to inform you

... that you are acting like a wuss.

Show her a good time, talk less. Keep this mushy crap up, and you'll soon be hearing "let's just be friends..."
 

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STOP BEING A WUSS!

She would say them back to me but not as much. I could just feel the postive enrgy in her grow stronger though. So even though she may not have too many words to say i can feel her getting happier.
This isn't helping...

Read the ****ing bible man!!!
 

kk2004

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yup

yeah ur right. i have been a little to mushy. Im gonna ease off the compliments and show her. UYr right i should use them as gifts not as like ways to build attraction. Im gonna reclaim the manhood i guess and not be so touchy feely. But that doesnt mean i dont have to be postitive with her. I can be happy and talk funy and cheeerfully but just not seek her apporval, be a man and know that i am fine. I need to stop all that or maybe say them as much as she does
 

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"i miss u so much i wish u could be here with me now"
"I love u"
"Ur cute"
me: "Ur so hot. i dont care what u say"
her: no im not (in a slow tone)
me: yes u are <----- no

me starts kissing would have been the right answer if you ask me
 

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listen...I tell my girl stuff like this...I dont tell her that I love her.

but I also bust her ass half the time..and give her **** all the time :)


why because its funny!
and that also make sme being sweet seeem more amazing than she would ever imagine..because im more funny and harsh than sweet.

dont be afraid to be a man
 

kk2004

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okay, i mean i want to be funny, its hard for me to be though. ANd i used to make fun of her, i used to imply she was fat in diffrent ways. I dont want to be harsh to her, but i want her to enjoy her time with me. She realli got annoyed cuz i made alot of fun of her. Im just gonna chill and just make fun of things that I see around us. This way I have a persoanltiy, where i can talk and laugh about anything, and i keep positive.

I kiss my gurl all the time. so i show her affection and so does she.

I just dont want to lose value by making too many nice comments, but then i dont want to be harsh to her either where im making fun of her and i cross the line. I flat out said "ur legs are fat" while havin sex. So i just want to be a funny guy and entertaining while also keeping my man hood and at the same time being nice to her cuz she does deserve it most women dont. I read some where that being in control and manly is better than being a c&f in a relationship. Well being manly is easy, we always do things together. Like today i cant see her bcuz i have doctors appointment but its okay ill see her the day after. thas manly. I dont have to act tough or act macho, i just gotta have the balls to be me. I mean i always know that im stronger and in charge thas always in the back of my mind, but i dont want to think like that cuz it creates static in the relationship, too much for me cuz i go crazy with it. But it will stay in the back of my mind. I just want o be a fun guy to be around. And i just gotta be positive and compliments is one way, being witty is another, bcuz if u can get a womans mental juices flowing u are sure to get other things flowing.

Now i know all this realtes to confidence. I am the prince and all that. im working on that.

What i aim to do is keep my manhood, become funnier and wittier and more enticing. Maybe tease her from time to time on things. and try to be a challenge at times and then at times be easy and come out with my feelings. but in all this i Want to be POSTIVE with her cuz i want to enjoy her not look at her as a task to which i half to be rough with or macho or hard, i just gotta be me and show her i know and im in control and its all good. I get alot of looks from other women when im with her so that works in my favor, i mean i am hot, like im not average looking so women tend to stare , even like 12 hb's when u go to the beach. my gurl is like a hb 8 just to give an idea, but after a certain point i dont care, she is hot for me and i love her its all good im happy with her. the complimetns where to bring us back on to a positive note.

Like next time we have sex we are gonna try to use handcuffs and blindfolds and Im willing to do that, its to freaky for me but im willing to change for her, to do what she wants. that may not be manly but it shows i care in words. And thats good, we are both happy this way
 
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