smiling while talking

[jhonny9546]

When I talk to someone that I'm attracted to, or She talk to me, it's hard for me to not smile while talking.

I worked to keep this thing more "formal" but I really cannot do it.

Do this happen to you also?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No

 

[LTG71]

Sure. If you are both enjoying the conversation, what’s the problem with smiling? Part of flirting and basic body language. Ever hear of the concept of mirroring? If you’re smiling and she’s not, it’s probably not a fun conversation.

 

[BaronOfHair]

When I talk to someone that I'm attracted to, or She talk to me, it's hard for me to not smile while talking

Mistaking the counsel offered up in teeny bopper rock

for genuine wisdom has it's drawbacks

 

[Jor-El]

Surely you are overthinking here ? I mean,ok,you dont wanna be grinning like a loon the whole time but being cheerful is a positive trait..a bit of smiling is to be encouraged,we cant get lost in our hands at times on here

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

When I talk to someone that I'm attracted to, or She talk to me, it's hard for me to not smile while talking.
I worked to keep this thing more "formal" but I really cannot do it.

Suppressing a smile makes you unattractive. When you don't look mischievous at the same time, you run a risk of looking like a guffawing creep who is secretly mocking her.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

That's probably fine if you do it naturally. It's only bad to force a smile. Personally I almost never smile or laugh around women or people in general and I don't think it's an issue for me because I otherwise come off as pleasant and engaged (if it's with someone I like).

 

[jhonny9546]

That's probably fine if you do it naturally. It's only bad to force a smile.

Like if you put your hands on fire, you would immediately take that off.
It really comes natural to me.

When you don't look mischievous at the same time

I'm not creep neither mischievous.

Usually the other women I talk too, start to mirror and smile too while talking.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Surely you are overthinking here ?

It wouldn't be '24 if we weren't indulging in turgid analysis for the sake of APPEARING more clever than we really are

 

[Serenity]

It's important to note that smiling isn't just smiling, why you're smiling and as a consequence what the smiling says about you is what matters.

I still smile a lot when I'm interacting with people in general, but it comes from a very different place than it used to.

I remember back to the very first date I got when I started working on myself back in 2013. I was very nervous throughout the whole date which lasted around an hour, I was smiling and laughing some, but it came from a place of insecurity. I was not doing it because I enjoyed myself with her in that situation, I did it to constantly relieve the tension I was feeling in the situation. Simply put it was a nervous smile and I would bet my life savings she could absolutely tell how insecure I was based on that alone.

Now I have a confident smile. I naturally smile when I have a good time, it looks different, it looks way more attractive, it's a different expression of a smile altogether. I only laugh if I genuinely find something funny, never nervously to dissipate tension. If anything I can use my smile to ADD tension if the interaction is becoming a bit too flat and boring. I can turn off this smile in an instant if the situation shifts to where I don't like it anymore, this was not the case back when I was nervous because I'd use the smile to dissipate that tension and probably end up smiling more (nervously).

Smiling is fine, don't try to micromanage it. Do ask yourself why you're smiling though and if it's to reduce tension you should work on why you find whatever triggered it uncomfortable.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

When I look at an attractive woman, I start thinking up what kinky things I can do with her, so I often get feedback from women how mischievous my smile is. And you can only be truly mischievous if you're confident that you can bring the mischief to a satisfying conclusion, so if you can look at her with inner amusement that will confirm your (already apparent) confidence.

 

[jhonny9546]

Smiling is fine, don't try to micromanage it. Do ask yourself why you're smiling though and if it's to reduce tension you should work on why you find whatever triggered it uncomfortable.

In my scenario, I do smile sometimes to dissipate the tension or sexual tension.

When I look at an attractive woman, I start thinking up what kinky things I can do with her

I do this too.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Smiling and looking your object of interest in the eye is a normal thing and a nonverbal way to convey interest and if the person smiles back it’s a strong indicator of interest.

 

[jhonny9546]

if the person smiles back it’s a strong indicator of interest.

Or that she can just be nervous as you?