Smashing the LJBF barrier
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it's back on baby....
i stood by what i said and withdrew, saw her down at the station after a few days of no contact and walked straight past her without lookin at her, i got on the train she came and sat down near me but didn't say anythin to me, after about two minutes she let out a cold "so how are you goin" and i said "fine" coldly back. Another few minutes passed and i caught her lookin at me and she was about to say something, i looked at her trying to will her to say what she was about to, then she just started talking, she ranted for about ten minutes about how i was the one person in her life she needed more than anybody else, and that if i wasn't around she'd struggle etc... i kept a blank no reactive face till she finished, then patted the seat next to me, she came over and sat there, still lookin at me for a response, i put my arm around her and pulled her really close as if we were about to kiss, but at the last minute i tipped her head downward and kissed her on the forehead (she complied to me, but still, i wasn't going to give completely in, what she did was wrong and by NOT going the full kiss i kept the power in my hands, to show she isn't yet forgiven). I kissed her on the forehead, she burst into tears and then lay down in my arms for about twenty minutes, i missed my station but it was okay i wanted to savour the moment.
i stood by what i said and withdrew, saw her down at the station after a few days of no contact and walked straight past her without lookin at her, i got on the train she came and sat down near me but didn't say anythin to me, after about two minutes she let out a cold "so how are you goin" and i said "fine" coldly back. Another few minutes passed and i caught her lookin at me and she was about to say something, i looked at her trying to will her to say what she was about to, then she just started talking, she ranted for about ten minutes about how i was the one person in her life she needed more than anybody else, and that if i wasn't around she'd struggle etc... i kept a blank no reactive face till she finished, then patted the seat next to me, she came over and sat there, still lookin at me for a response, i put my arm around her and pulled her really close as if we were about to kiss, but at the last minute i tipped her head downward and kissed her on the forehead (she complied to me, but still, i wasn't going to give completely in, what she did was wrong and by NOT going the full kiss i kept the power in my hands, to show she isn't yet forgiven). I kissed her on the forehead, she burst into tears and then lay down in my arms for about twenty minutes, i missed my station but it was okay i wanted to savour the moment.
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update, sorry it's been a while been very busy
pretty much came to a massive head on friday night where we ended up in the city together, i ditched a girl i really wanted and she ditched a guy she really wanted to just go walkin round the city, we were drunk so the feelings all came out, holding hands, sitting on my lap, hugs, kisses on the neck, the opportunity came up for us to kiss on a park bench and suddenly for some reason i didn't want to do it, i don't know if it was because i didn't want her any more or if i was waiting for the right time, or maybe i didn't want to because we were drunk and i wanted it to be special, maybe it's because i was never really intent on the outcome, more on the process, but either way, i did not so much smash the ljbf barrier, i piece by piece took it apart....
...... no wait that's the wrong way to describe it, i was doing such awesome things on my side of the barrier that when she started taking pieces of it out to see what was going on the other side, she started taking it down piece by piece herself, i'm damn tired now, but when i get some time i'll go over what i've done, most of it is up in this thread, and work out some strategic way i got to where i am now, which is finding out what i wanted so badly might not have been what i actually wanted...... but i think this is the case in all one-itis's
i am actually sorta kicking myself now because i had a very very hot new girl after me that i left to hang out with my best mate who i see every day and who's been around for years.... i don't regret ditchen her to see where me and my best friend were headin, but i just thought i wanted her more than i really do, (warning cliche) i really think u just want things you can't have because u can't have them
pretty much came to a massive head on friday night where we ended up in the city together, i ditched a girl i really wanted and she ditched a guy she really wanted to just go walkin round the city, we were drunk so the feelings all came out, holding hands, sitting on my lap, hugs, kisses on the neck, the opportunity came up for us to kiss on a park bench and suddenly for some reason i didn't want to do it, i don't know if it was because i didn't want her any more or if i was waiting for the right time, or maybe i didn't want to because we were drunk and i wanted it to be special, maybe it's because i was never really intent on the outcome, more on the process, but either way, i did not so much smash the ljbf barrier, i piece by piece took it apart....
...... no wait that's the wrong way to describe it, i was doing such awesome things on my side of the barrier that when she started taking pieces of it out to see what was going on the other side, she started taking it down piece by piece herself, i'm damn tired now, but when i get some time i'll go over what i've done, most of it is up in this thread, and work out some strategic way i got to where i am now, which is finding out what i wanted so badly might not have been what i actually wanted...... but i think this is the case in all one-itis's
i am actually sorta kicking myself now because i had a very very hot new girl after me that i left to hang out with my best mate who i see every day and who's been around for years.... i don't regret ditchen her to see where me and my best friend were headin, but i just thought i wanted her more than i really do, (warning cliche) i really think u just want things you can't have because u can't have them
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Awesome Virtual! You did what was perhaps the most difficult things to do! You should be proud!
I have been paying attention to this thread, cuz I'm in the same boat as you, and i am trying to get passed that purgatory known as "the friendzone".
I have been paying attention to this thread, cuz I'm in the same boat as you, and i am trying to get passed that purgatory known as "the friendzone".
Congrats virtual on doing something so difficult! After liking my best female friend for a very very long time I finally came out the other day and admitted that I feel more then friendship. Now I know most of these guys on here would/maybe will start criticizing me for doing this, but I've never been more relaxed in my life. A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Turns out she's feeling the same way.
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month later....
i seem to have lost all attraction for her, it's like i've ljbf'd her, before when she'd try and dominate the friendship i'd let her walk all over me, now if she does something i don't like all i have to do is look at her a certain way and she caves, and then suddenly, she starts touching me, hardcore, and she doesn't even notice it, it's as if standing up to her and not taking her ****, affirming myself as a dominant male in her life has made her subconcious all over me,
take a good look at that girl that ljbf'd you, at your best friend that you're in love with, there's a reason that you two aren't together, it's because she doesn't value you as much as she should, and that's because you let her do it, get some self-respect and know you should be appreciated more, demand that appreciation, not through words, through your actions, because you deserve somebody who appreciates you, act like that and she may appreciate you, if she doesn't, find somebody who does, because you can and will find better.
i seem to have lost all attraction for her, it's like i've ljbf'd her, before when she'd try and dominate the friendship i'd let her walk all over me, now if she does something i don't like all i have to do is look at her a certain way and she caves, and then suddenly, she starts touching me, hardcore, and she doesn't even notice it, it's as if standing up to her and not taking her ****, affirming myself as a dominant male in her life has made her subconcious all over me,
take a good look at that girl that ljbf'd you, at your best friend that you're in love with, there's a reason that you two aren't together, it's because she doesn't value you as much as she should, and that's because you let her do it, get some self-respect and know you should be appreciated more, demand that appreciation, not through words, through your actions, because you deserve somebody who appreciates you, act like that and she may appreciate you, if she doesn't, find somebody who does, because you can and will find better.
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seems like a god damned waste of time in my opinion, could have spent the effort on newer exciting ladies,
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