lamath
Master Don Juan
For some its a superiority complexe, but i think its general its what you just said
Smart People Have Less Friends
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taiyuu_otoko
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All I can say is one thing. I've watched movies in the past with women ex-friends/gf/wife at the theater and then I've watched movies by myself at the theater but then looked at a bunch of intellectual movie review videos to get emotional and intellectual support both before and after watching the movie. Guess which one of the two is a better experience? There is lots of intellectual stimulation across lots of youtube and other video stimulation that the desire to want to have friends is tanked down.
Lets face it, I don't even care about going to bed alone. I stick some headplugs on the tablet and I can watch anything want and just fall asleep afterwards before the video is finished playing. The modern streaming has virtually made a social grave because you are getting this emotional and intellectual support by watching any video you want or any stream of TV-show / movie depending on what slant your mind or mood is in and that's gratifying in and of itself. This thing has mainly happened with me in an observable way from 2016, and big-time starting in 2017 and has resulted in a social demotivation at a level that I have never seen before.
In the past video saturation is more limited because you'd have to rent from Blockbuster or you are limited by the selections offered on a TV channel, or there was not much of a selection online like there is today. You didn't have a flood of video content online like you have today.
So, maybe technology has made life easier for intellectuals to feel a bit less inclined to be social than before.
Lets face it, I don't even care about going to bed alone. I stick some headplugs on the tablet and I can watch anything want and just fall asleep afterwards before the video is finished playing. The modern streaming has virtually made a social grave because you are getting this emotional and intellectual support by watching any video you want or any stream of TV-show / movie depending on what slant your mind or mood is in and that's gratifying in and of itself. This thing has mainly happened with me in an observable way from 2016, and big-time starting in 2017 and has resulted in a social demotivation at a level that I have never seen before.
In the past video saturation is more limited because you'd have to rent from Blockbuster or you are limited by the selections offered on a TV channel, or there was not much of a selection online like there is today. You didn't have a flood of video content online like you have today.
So, maybe technology has made life easier for intellectuals to feel a bit less inclined to be social than before.
metalwater
Master Don Juan
??? I did not yet it. what does it mean?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Is that the same as saying most men aren't strong enough to "handle" her?
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Blacksheep
Master Don Juan
That happens when we took the red pill and start to understand reality.
It's good to relate with people... But I prefer being alone than being around false, envy and ignorant people.
Genuine friendships can give us a really good sense of purpose. And that kind of friendship helps us to grow up. But this is really difficult to find.
Better off focus on what is really important than spending our time with people that wanna get something from us.
#RECENTE CASE:
Have a childhood friend that stopped talking to me for about 2 years. Now he is working on that Prudential company selling life insurances...
Ok, he started to call me back, saying that he wanna visit me and show me his job, without any commitment (okay man haha). I know for sure he don't wanna come here to visit me. This is obvious, but he thinks I'm a fool.
My desire was to block this guy and never talk to him again... But you know, pretend to be a fool give me an advantage. Enemies don't know that you know their strategies.
It's good to relate with people... But I prefer being alone than being around false, envy and ignorant people.
Genuine friendships can give us a really good sense of purpose. And that kind of friendship helps us to grow up. But this is really difficult to find.
Better off focus on what is really important than spending our time with people that wanna get something from us.
#RECENTE CASE:
Have a childhood friend that stopped talking to me for about 2 years. Now he is working on that Prudential company selling life insurances...
Ok, he started to call me back, saying that he wanna visit me and show me his job, without any commitment (okay man haha). I know for sure he don't wanna come here to visit me. This is obvious, but he thinks I'm a fool.
My desire was to block this guy and never talk to him again... But you know, pretend to be a fool give me an advantage. Enemies don't know that you know their strategies.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
From the pretend to be a fool strategy doesnt it waste your time and energy? Can't you be round those who value you?
Blacksheep
Master Don Juan
Yeah, I feel that sometimes.
But in some cases, answer directly with a "no" can cause more problems and waste of energy.
Pretending as a fool I mean:
- When someome try to persuade you to do something and you say that you're gonna think about it and answer later. Then you just ignore. Cause saying "no" will lead to that people make you spend more time, cause they will try to prove their point to you.
- Or a crazy girl screaming and fighting because you said something or cause you want to break up and ask her to leave. Then, you say you're sorry and that you're wrong about that. Find and excuse, and when she left... don't talk anymore.
It really depends on the situation, on those ones I could spend more energy trying to prove my point or triggering a negative rejection behavior from someone.
Idk if I explained that correctly... but if it makes me spend time pretending to be a fool, then it have to be on a critical situation. Otherwise it doesn't worth.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Yes thats how they cope and convince themselve that its not thier fault.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So a man should be sturdy enough to endure her bullshyt. Eat it and be happy?
lamath
Master Don Juan
Ofc not .........punp and dump material
Especially of she cant even see its all her fault.
pls dont speak in such manner about women
I recently saw a video that was saying smart people suck at small talk and also they don't have many friends. I can't find the video though. I was talking to a girl from Finland two days ago and she was telling me that over there everyone sucks at small talk and that Americans are great at it (but not me lol).
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
False, envy, egotistical, deceit are the "pills" they chose to get what they desire out of life.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Aren't the Finnish all cvcked?
That is why in Europe Americans are not seen as intelligent. They are in general much worse then Europeans when it comes to history and education. When it comes to small talk Americans are very good. People have different priorities.
I was telling her how I try to understand their side of the world and she was excited to hear that and said most Americans don't know **** about Europe which is true haha. I also had a friend from England, well a bit more, but, she knew things about US history I didn't know but also I wasn't taught it in school and she was. Idk what to say about that one.
you cant be a programmer and have many friends
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I believe we have to differentiate between intellectual skills like logics, creativity or wisdom and social skills like being able to make small talk, read body language and so on.
People that have fewer friends according to mainstream culture and media happen to be "shy or goofy or insecure", this is ridicolous since as many posters already said lot of people is more interested in ideas and productivity rather than socialization or simply dont get from socializing the same pleasure they get in being productive or obtain something wheter is a salary or a medal.
Personally I have few friends and they are mostly people I share a common goal with, I dont random people as friends without sharing anything with them for the sake of having friends, also Im an introvert which doesnt mean "shy", it means I rest and work easier when alone cause social interactions demand my attention.
I could open to random people in the streets and easily have small talks, most of my sex life has been fvck buddies and one night stands with girls I picked up with no social circle help...yet I feel no need to deal with big groups or go out during holydays or friday night.
Also lot of people especially men find dealing with emotional people frustrating which makes it dealing with most women a necessary hassle only to get laid, let alone being forced to hit parties or places packed of people as women want.
The death of this society is rewarding uncapable workers with great social skills while penalizing productive hard workers who just want to work and stay by themselves with no social networks or popularity contests involved.
People that have fewer friends according to mainstream culture and media happen to be "shy or goofy or insecure", this is ridicolous since as many posters already said lot of people is more interested in ideas and productivity rather than socialization or simply dont get from socializing the same pleasure they get in being productive or obtain something wheter is a salary or a medal.
Personally I have few friends and they are mostly people I share a common goal with, I dont random people as friends without sharing anything with them for the sake of having friends, also Im an introvert which doesnt mean "shy", it means I rest and work easier when alone cause social interactions demand my attention.
I could open to random people in the streets and easily have small talks, most of my sex life has been fvck buddies and one night stands with girls I picked up with no social circle help...yet I feel no need to deal with big groups or go out during holydays or friday night.
Also lot of people especially men find dealing with emotional people frustrating which makes it dealing with most women a necessary hassle only to get laid, let alone being forced to hit parties or places packed of people as women want.
The death of this society is rewarding uncapable workers with great social skills while penalizing productive hard workers who just want to work and stay by themselves with no social networks or popularity contests involved.
