Naughty Ninja said:
Good posts! I definitely agree with the drug/weed use. I met a chick I've been talking to that mentions weed use a lot. Completely turned me off as far as wanting to pursue anything with her.
There are some signs where I won't even waste my time trying to get laid with a chick let alone a relationship. That's one of them. Many listed in this thread too..
Also chicks who play the 'victim' role or are the types in need of 'saving'. I listen and pay attention to what chicks say, smile, nod, ignore their nonsense. As soon as the red flags start popping up, I'm done with going anywhere with them. Period. I've got no time for losers even if they're attractive.
This. People who do excessive drugs and/or are alcoholics are typically dysfunctional. It's interesting that a lot of these things are connected to the SAME PERSON. For instance, daddy issues --- low self-esteem --- drug use --- promiscuity --- bad boys / bullies / troublemakers --- drama --- misery --- chaotic lifestyle --- victim playing. For men and women. Troubled people ALL have the same history, mindset, associations, and lifestyles. This applies to celebrities, as well. Think, Eminem, Tupac, Axl Rose, etc. It's their entire... well, everything.
A lot of stuff we complain about isn't in all these thousands of women - its a specific type of minority that has ALL of the issues in one toxic package. In other words, losers. Not, this one is a liar, that one is cheater, this one is an alcoholic, that one is a tease or manipulator, this one is mean, vulgar, and rude... No, this one is Satan on earth. We wouldn't hate them so much if this wasn't the case. These people are garbage. They typically associate with other toxic people, as well, which is where the branching out comes into play.
I can see this clearly looking back - because I was the same way for a long time. It was a huge chain-effect of people attracting, and associating with what they were. This guy would hang out with these people, that guy had his crowd, and we all connected together - because we were all crazy and dysfunctional. Misery, drama, chaos, etc ensued. Everyone was troubled. We all dated the same people, too. Because, we were all the same.
This is why troubled people associate with other troubled people no matter where they go. Not one person in all these groups is going to be quality. Guaranteed. That's why they ***** about not being able to find any good people, and claiming everyone is a jerk, user, player, liar, etc. It's all they know, because its all they associate with, because its WHAT THEY ARE. They can have hundreds of friends, and they're all still guaranteed to be losers. Losers have their loser friends, who have their loser friends, who have their loser friends... They all end up meeting and matching.
With that said, saving the damsel in distress is a horrible idea. Playing the victim, *****ing about losers / *******s, and complaining about no good men / people is a HUGE red flag. If they weren't so ****ing crazy and disturbed - they wouldn't be doing all these things, seeking after these people, being *****es themselves, or *****ing and being miserable all the time.
People don't play the victim as a result of what happened - its a result of who they are. IE, they're not miserable because they dated bad boys - they dated bad boys because they're crazy and dysfunctional. Thus, being the good guy doesn't accomplish ****, because the bad boy isn't the problem - its them. That's why they seek them out over and over. It's also why they ***** about them over and over.
Do NOT sympathize with this kind of person. You will find for yourself what the harsh reality is. They are garbage. If they were genuinely good, decent, kind, honest, etc people - they would have NO problems attracting "good people". They wouldn't be a myth. Nice girls / guys wouldn't finish last. Not everyone would be a ***** or *******. Instead, they ***** about losers to no end - because that's exactly what they are.
We only get thrown off and assume its all the bad boys fault, because of all their incessant *****ing towards them (ie, blaming them for everything). That's only their perspective, and claim. Reality is, these people have several issues, and seek out the drama / misery / *****ing / chaos. They love to ***** and be miserable - that's why they keep going to the source that fuels it, or otherwise causing trouble and drama and chaos wherever they go. It's also why they associate with like-minded people. Every ***** or ***** associates with other *****es and *****s. Always. Trouble attracts trouble. If EVERYONE in their lives is trouble - so are they.
Here's the proof, reality, and what you need to watch for: You'll find that it never ends with JUST them *****ing and playing the victim. That's because they're not a victim, and haven't "changed". They're ****ing crazy. That's why, in ADDITION to the "woe is me" schtick, they're also playing games, acting like ****s, teasing and manipulating men, using everyone, treating them like garbage, getting drunk and high, caring only about themselves, being stubborn and coniving, whoring themselves, attention whoring, blaming everyone for everything, and so forth.
This isn't all a result of dating bad boys. These people are toxic, and that's why they seek after bad boys, and other dysfunctional people. It's all connected to who they are. Most of them are bad girls themselves - and always were. Only they believe themselves to be nice, or the victim. Nobody else - in the history of forever - does. Nothing you see is new. Just because they ***** and complain - doesn't make them the victim. And it shows in who they are, which is what they attract.
Being a captain save a ho and sympathizing with them is futile. They didn't change into anything, which is why you can't change them back into anything. There's nothing to change them back into! This is why you never find the so-called nice person they claim to be, or that you try to dig for - it doesn't exist. What you see is what you get. They just blame everyone they specifically seek after, befriend, date, and associate with for everything. As well as everything they do wrong. That's the fault of their parents, bullies, jerks, bad boys, unloyal friends, etc. Nothing is ever their fault. They are the perma-victim in life. In reality, they're simply attracting what they are - and always were.
They aren't the victim, or the diamond in the rough getting caught up in all these bad people through no fault of their own, and "changing" as a result of them. That's just them being delusional, self-absorbed, and in denial. As well as you being naive and sympathetic.
The damsel in distress is nothing more than a crazy, dysfunctional, miserable person with issues - who attracts what she is, and complains about it. That's why they drive YOU up the wall. The problem is them. All these issues they've ALWAYS HAD are going to get dumped onto you - as they blame you for everything. Just like they blame the bad boys and *******s that they specifically seek after for everything. You will find out for yourself just how victimized these people aren't - and never were.
Even the ones who try "saving" troubled people are troubled themselves. They're not victims, either. That instant compatibility is there. They can relate to one another, and had similar experiences. That's why it flows so naturally - because they're both crazy. But of course, a troubled person doesn't want to be saved, and will keep seeking after the chaos. So yea, its pointless to try. Still, the savior is usually crazy.
Damnit, why did I have to be so crazy and dysfunctional in my younger days? I could write an encyclopedia on this ****. At least I know what to look for, and avoid. Eh, whatever.
