slow down, chill out, take a fvckin valium.

DEKKA

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 16, 2003
Messages
526
Reaction score
0
Location
SOCAL
ok guys heres the deal.

when you finally are worthy and experienced enough to think you can handle a LTR. you need to remember something that i find to be quite important in keeping said LTR.

slow down
chill out
take a fvckin valium

okay? capishe? way too many of my friends even think they are going slow when in reality they have the throttle wide open.

ive seen lots of questions on the boards lately pertaining to things like "when should i ask her to be my girlfriend?" and "when should i clarify where the relationship is going?"

my answer. whats your hurry?

if you intend on spending a lot of time together in the future with this LTR then you better be spoon feeding her at the beginning and making her atempt to bring the relationship to the next level.

women must ALWAYS be the ones to signal a move to the next level otherwise they arent ready to give up the chase. when they are tired of the chase and have gotten enough enjoyment from chasing your money ass THEN they will signal its time to move up a step.

even then you dont have to if you dont want to.

but, once a relationship of some kind has been established, and i want to move on to LTR status (which isnt very often cuz i personally dont like having a girlfriend, but would rather have fun while im young), i will pull away and give the woman the impression she might be losing me. this creates a reflex action in her that makes her want to move to the next level.

and just because you arent going out yet doesnt mean you can still act like you are!

dont act all boyfriend like just yet fellas. you're a free man and you have to act like it until you're no longer a free man so to speak.

never give up the game and get comfortable cuz you're ass will be packin and your head will be spinning wondering how you destroyed the 95% IL she had.

us guys love to get comfortable and open up once we think we're in. you gotta hold that sh!t back and stay strong. let her have her fun and sacrifice your own pleasure for a while until the time is right. then you can move on without destroying the relationship.
 

sux2bu

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 25, 2003
Messages
755
Reaction score
9
I'm laughing too hard to even think of anything to say because I've seen this one-hundred times over -- especially the high school scene. I've seen young couples in jewelry stores that didn't look a day over 16. FOR FUKS SAKE!!
 

Sting

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 21, 2001
Messages
652
Reaction score
9
The reason is insecurity

The reason most men ask about how (or whether) to take their relationship with a particular woman to the next level is because they are insecure. A man needs to let a woman decide whether (and when) to take a relationship to the next level (e.g. exclusivity). Don't worry, if you're "money," a woman will definitely want to take things to the next level -- out of her own sense of insecurity.

Men and women think taking things to the next level will safeguard their significant other from the clutches of other people. They're obviously wrong -- one need only look at the percentage of people who cheat.
 

EternalBachelor

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 13, 2003
Messages
137
Reaction score
4
Age
42
Location
Scotland
But surely it is the man's responsibility to make the first move, be it kino or a first kiss? After that, I agree that the man should just lie back and let the women decide where the relationship is going to go.
 

legolas

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 2, 2003
Messages
952
Reaction score
14
Location
Red Sox Nation
Hmm, this is tip is insightful. Especially the part about not giving up the game EVER!! Most guys want to learn quick fixes to get into an LTR, and then stop......

Then once they are dumped, they come to this site again to larn more quick fixes :rolleyes:

btw, DEKKA I was looking at your album site, whose link you have in your sig and saw the picture of abbieleah. Dayumm!! That's one fine lady right there!!!! I mean this is what I consider an 11 :p
Now who is she, your girl?
 

DEKKA

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 16, 2003
Messages
526
Reaction score
0
Location
SOCAL
Originally posted by legolas
btw, DEKKA I was looking at your album site, whose link you have in your sig and saw the picture of abbieleah. Dayumm!! That's one fine lady right there!!!! I mean this is what I consider an 11 :p
Now who is she, your girl?
thats the girl i lost before i became a DJ. shes the reason i stopped being a chump. =P
 
Top