Slipping back

[shyguy32]

Well...here I am back asking questions again!

So this site has helped me out tremendously in the past year and a half...just wish I would have found it before I spent a few hundred bucks on those "I'll tell you how to get a girl books". Anyway...

I'm kinda seeing (effing) this 19 yo that can't get enough of me and at first I was like HELL YEAH, cause she's hot. Now it seems I just get irritated with her over the littlest things and she's getting pretty needy.

I used to be a guy who would try to do anything and everything to prove I was the "nice guy" and hoped chicks would like me for "who I am". And I would allow them to pretty much do and say what they wanted to me.

Not with her though I'm totally in control of things and tell her when I don't like that she's doing something. If she doesn't like something I'm doing I tell her she knows where the door is.

Anyway I have 2 other girls that I could get the sex from if I wanted it just right now and I know that I could get more. (thanks to this site and all you guys here posting)

My problem though is that ONE chick that I can't get out of my head, we've messed around a few different times. But never got the score on her! I talk to her now and then on the phone text her and in my text I do all the right things, but when I talk to her or am with her I turn right back into the guy I was before I found this site. For some reason I can't be the "jerk" with her. Maybe I'm just wasting too much time and energy on her, which isn't much really. Still it's too much for never getting any action. The 19 yo is just as good looking and is willing to do anything I ask her.


So please guys ***** slap me and tell me to get off my "Oneitis" horse and start treating this girl like she walks on water. I swear this chick as the something about mary syndrome though...everyone thats around her wants to get with her and of course I think she's just a big player, but an unintentional player if there is such a thing.

HELP....slap some sense back into me...


SWSWSW

maybe I need to start chanting that a little more....huh? SWSWSW WN

 

[joekerr31]

you know why people hate needy?

people hate needy because they subconsciously know that someone who is needy isn't being genuine with them. they aren't really into THEM, but rather are only into them to appease some deep seeded need to have someone in their life.

the 19 yo annoys you because you know its nto really YOU she's into, but rather you as a means of feeding her need to be with someone. she's merely projected that need onto you for the time being.

as for your oneitis. just make a move on her. a clear and definitive move.

the easiest way to deal with oneitis is to just take your shot. nothing cures you of oneitis better than getting shot down.

 

[JoeBlack]

Great advice.

Sounds like you like this girl more than the rest and the only way you'll get her out of your head is to completely next her (which I imagine is something you don't want to do) or just make a clear and assertive move on her to get what you want which will either go one of two ways.

Well - and then you are ok

Bad - you know where you stand?

How bad will bad really be? Not bat at all I expect the worst is you will get turned down and you will know your stance and can get her out of your head!

Let us know what happens!

 

[shyguy32]

Well....I'm just being evasive right now....the other chick is in college right now the one that I can't get out of my head.

So I text her the other day while shes getting ready for class and I ask her if there are any hot chicks there. I say that I expect her to scout a few out for me.

Of course she says no that she won't do that.

Me: Hey you shouldn't make their decisions for them, I'm sure they'll like me I'm charming and attractive you would be doing them a favor.

She doesn't respond after that.

Then calls me later on that day and I don't answer.

2 more calls today and I don't answer....

I'm trying to turn the tables on her.


The problem is I'm sure she's going to be like every other woman. Once you nail her the little oneitis thing is over and you take her down off that pedestal and realize..."Hey she has flaws, she can be a *****"

It's not like I haven't made a move on her guys....I've messed around with her a few different times, just haven't gotten the goods! So I think, that she wants me. But she could just be using these little petting sessions now and then be her way of keeping me in her little reign.

So thats why I'm trying to be the one that is elusive now.

I'll just have to find a way to be the MAN when we're face to face rather than be a total kiss ass.

Anyway...thanks for the responses guys.

 

[Freddy1]

I have that problem of slipping back to old bahaviors as well. I kick myself for it.

I keep hitting at my weakneses everyday until it breaks.

 

[fertileTurtle]

Still it's too much for never getting any action.

You said it. If I were you, I would make my move on her and get it over with. Time is money...