Slipping back into becoming an AFC, help!

[Coppaia]

First of all I just want to thank you all for the progress I have experienced the last few months with regard to women. I have slowly, but surely managed to kill the whimpering AFC inside me. For the last few months I have managed to land women out on town and get them home, this almost never happened to me before. At late November, however, I met this stunning spaniard who is way out of my league. If I am a 7 she is a 8+. In addition to this she is 29 and I am 24. We are both expats and she has been living here for years while I have only been living here for a few months. She has a big network of friends while I on the other hand have a smaller, but tight knitted group that I hang out with. I am telling you this in order for you to understand that the "frame" (is this the correct use of the word?) is heavy in her favor.

Before I go on I should also add that we at the moment live together. One of my roomies is renting out his room to her and that is how we got to know each other. For the first week she was preoccupied with exams, but shortly after we started to have sex and have done little else all through december.

When she moved in I was in a healthy "womenhating" mindset, instilled into me reading this site. Hence I managed to keep up a nonchalant facade. I kept on prioritising my hobbies over her and kept on going out with my female and male friends. I also decided that I would follow the advice to get a woman on the side to protect me from getting to infatuated with her. At this point my confidence level was sky-high and as a result I managed to land a completely gorgeous posh brit on vacation. By some drunk reasoning I thought that I could sneak her up into my room and have sex without the spaniard knowing. I also thought, this was just after we had begun having sex, that I had no obligations towards her considering that we hadn't agreed upon being exclusive etc. Before we got to do anything, however, she caught us and she demonstratively grabbed and kissed me in front of the other.

We had a chat and agreed that bringing others to the apartment was not okey. As the days passed we have become more and more like a couple and I am more and more starting to slip back into being an AFC. We are now speaking baby-language to each other for gods sake. What I am afraid of is of her realising that I am just faking being an alpha, if she hasn't realised already.

I want to keep her, but at the same time I want to keep on practicing my game. The paradox of the situation is that I don't think I will be able to keep on to her if I let the alpha die.

I have a friend with benefits/former girlfriend ish coming back from exchange in a few weeks. So dons what should I do?

 

[Maximus Rex]

I met this stunning spaniard who is way out of my league.

Why is she "out of your league?"

If I am a 7 she is a 8+.

Actually men are suppose to date chicks that are a point or two higher than they are.

In addition to this she is 29 and I am 24.

You said this to say what? I stopped reading after this. That's why any other issues that you brought up I didn't address.

 

[stevo]

So in a nutshell.

You have a girl you're presently fcuking who's your roommate, you agreed to not bring women to the apartment. You do want to spin plates but do not want to lose the piece of ass.

Interesting.

First off, knock the beech off the pedestal you have her on.

Second of all, you dictate what you want not she telling you what would be.

Third, she can easily go fcuk another dude at his house but you cant bring another broad to the house, that's indeed a good set up for her. You shot yourself on the foot when you agreed to this, shows you're desperate for her punani. Way out? You go out with girls and let her know about it, if she brings it up you let her know "you haven't had someone connect with you on a level that'd make you exclusive with them yet, and until then you're open to meeting new people".

Fourth, if you tell yourself you're an alpha, you'd believe it. If you tell yourself otherwise, you'd believe it. If you tell yourself she's so amazing and you're not good enough for her, you'd believe it.

The power lies in what you tell yourself.

Every chance you get, fcuk this roommate, if possible, every freaking day.

 

[Coppaia]

haha, I am saying this to point out that we are at two different stages in life. She is at the point where things is supposed to get serious while I am still at the last desperate stages of adolescence.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Lead with your actions. Handle your business with this chick at the house and let her know straight up your not monogamous. You need to let her know that your feeling her and you cherish what you have but your still going to date around. I've done this many times. She will get mad and get sad but she can only respect it. I wouldn't take chicks to the house however just because she might mess up your chances with the next lady.

Quit talking about all this AFC bs and do what the hell you feel like doing. If you want to fk with other btches... Guess what??... Fk with other btches.

 

[Coppaia]

So in a nutshell.

You have a girl you're presently fcuking who's your roommate, you agreed to not bring women to the apartment. You do want to spin plates but do not want to lose the piece of ass.

Interesting.

First off, knock the beech off the pedestal you have her on.

Second of all, you dictate what you want not she telling you what would be.

Third, she can easily go fcuk another dude at his house but you cant bring another broad to the house, that's indeed a good set up for her. You shot yourself on the foot when you agreed to this, shows you're desperate for her punani. Way out? You go out with girls and let her know about it, if she brings it up you let her know "you haven't had someone connect with you on a level that'd make you exclusive with them yet, and until then you're open to meeting new people".

Fourth, if you tell yourself you're an alpha, you'd believe it. If you tell yourself otherwise, you'd believe it. If you tell yourself she's so amazing and you're not good enough for her, you'd believe it.

The power lies in what you tell yourself.

Every chance you get, fcuk this roommate, if possible, every freaking day.

Thanks for the feedback! It is very much in the cards by now that we are exclusive.

 

[beforeimgone]

First of all I just want to thank you all for the progress I have experienced the last few months with regard to women. I have slowly, but surely managed to kill the whimpering AFC inside me. For the last few months I have managed to land women out on town and get them home, this almost never happened to me before. At late November, however, I met this stunning spaniard who is way out of my league. If I am a 7 she is a 8+. In addition to this she is 29 and I am 24. We are both expats and she has been living here for years while I have only been living here for a few months. She has a big network of friends while I on the other hand have a smaller, but tight knitted group that I hang out with. I am telling you this in order for you to understand that the "frame" (is this the correct use of the word?) is heavy in her favor.

Before I go on I should also add that we at the moment live together. One of my roomies is renting out his room to her and that is how we got to know each other. For the first week she was preoccupied with exams, but shortly after we started to have sex and have done little else all through december.

When she moved in I was in a healthy "womenhating" mindset, instilled into me reading this site. Hence I managed to keep up a nonchalant facade. I kept on prioritising my hobbies over her and kept on going out with my female and male friends. I also decided that I would follow the advice to get a woman on the side to protect me from getting to infatuated with her. At this point my confidence level was sky-high and as a result I managed to land a completely gorgeous posh brit on vacation. By some drunk reasoning I thought that I could sneak her up into my room and have sex without the spaniard knowing. I also thought, this was just after we had begun having sex, that I had no obligations towards her considering that we hadn't agreed upon being exclusive etc. Before we got to do anything, however, she caught us and she demonstratively grabbed and kissed me in front of the other.

We had a chat and agreed that bringing others to the apartment was not okey. As the days passed we have become more and more like a couple and I am more and more starting to slip back into being an AFC. We are now speaking baby-language to each other for gods sake. What I am afraid of is of her realising that I am just faking being an alpha, if she hasn't realised already.

I want to keep her, but at the same time I want to keep on practicing my game. The paradox of the situation is that I don't think I will be able to keep on to her if I let the alpha die.

I have a friend with benefits/former girlfriend ish coming back from exchange in a few weeks. So dons what should I do?

Read my thread:


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