Sleeping with women who have boyfriends, is it wrong?

[bigneil]

All hot women have boyfriends. Generally, if they like you they say they don't, and if they don't like you they say they do (even if they don't). If she were married I would say stay away, but if she's not married and he is thousands of miles away then you absolutely should. Any time a woman travels they need to have sex. The trip takes them as they say. No women ever went overseas and came back the same.

 

[Costin]

OP: It seems the girl has made a move on you, not the other way around. If she makes another move then don't feel the need to restrain yourself anymore.

If I was in your situation I'd be hesitant about it, and I certainly would not get in a relationship with her ever, since cheaters are cheaters. ( To be tempted by it is one thing, to actually do it is another and most of us are tempted ).

As for banging her? Go for it if you are OK with just some casual sex...this isn't a married woman after all.

 

[tomwesten27]

So last night we all went out to the bar and ended up drinking and everyone got tipsy. When we got home the girl went into my roommates bed to crash out since they are friends and all her luggage is in there.

I just got into bed and she barged in saying random tipsy stuff and just got in my bed with me and immediately started cuddling with me, so again I just went with it.

Later into the night into the early morning she was wrapped up in my arms and eventually it just turned into me playing with her pus and feeling her cans. It went on/off the whole night until we passed out.

This morning I literally still had my hands on her bare cans (which are amazing C sized) and she was acting very comfortable with me.

Eventually she turned and kissed me randomly then got up and showered and we are having a normal convo like whatever.

I did not try to bang her, but I am just gonna act like it was just a regular night. right? No point in mentioning anything right?

I think she is sleeping here another 2 nights so let's see what happens..

 

[tomwesten27]

So I came home from work last night and was curious if the girl was going to come into my bed again, but she did not. (first time she was drunk)

This morning I decided to mess around with her by jumping on the bed and waking her up lol. She was smiling and we started chatting about the other day. She claims she doesn't remember getting home or barging into my room BUT I know she remembers us fooling around yesterday morning because she wasn't drunk anymore at that time, and she allowed it to happen.

I playfully mentioned to her "oh I missed my cuddling partner last night" and she just responded with "I'm sorry I passed out early" we joked a bit more and I left her alone to shower/get ready.

I am curious how I should play it tonight when I am back home how can I get her in my bed again? Should I just say "hey you should crash with me tonight" lol.

Honestly am I getting into something that I shouldn't be? Should I just take it as I fooled around with her the other night now leave it be?

Keep in mind she is here visiting my roommate who she's been friends with for a while & she has a BF..

I can't decide to either go for it/or leave it alone. What do you think? She's only here another few days.

 

[Kailex]

I think you are severely overthinking this for a woman who has a boyfriend and is only here for a few days.

It honestly sounds like you are trying to turn her into your girlfriend and are going to try to take her out on a date.

Why don't you just let things happen... and see where it all goes?
"Cuddle partner"? I cringed. Dude, if you want to do something... do something... crash and burn, learn something the hard way, but you can't play the game safely like that and expect her to make all the moves herself. She barged into your room and all you did was cuddle and play with her a little.

That's why she didn't barge in the second day.

Get it?

Stop overthinking the moral/ethical dilemma about all of this because I can guarantee you... she wasn't the first time she waltzed into your bed.

 

[JoeMarron]

I think it's fvcked up but it's your moral dilemma not mine, do whatever you want. Your not gonna have sex with her anyways though because I can see you becoming needy already

I playfully mentioned to her "oh I missed my cuddling partner last night" and she just responded with "I'm sorry I passed out early" we joked a bit more and I left her alone to shower/get ready.

I am curious how I should play it tonight when I am back home how can I get her in my bed again? Should I just say "hey you should crash with me tonight" lol.

It's a wrap. You're catching feelings and chasing her now.

 

[tomwesten27]

I think you are severely overthinking this for a woman who has a boyfriend and is only here for a few days.

It honestly sounds like you are trying to turn her into your girlfriend and are going to try to take her out on a date.

Why don't you just let things happen... and see where it all goes?
"Cuddle partner"? I cringed. Dude, if you want to do something... do something... crash and burn, learn something the hard way, but you can't play the game safely like that and expect her to make all the moves herself. She barged into your room and all you did was cuddle and play with her a little.

That's why she didn't barge in the second day.

Get it?

Stop overthinking the moral/ethical dilemma about all of this because I can guarantee you... she wasn't the first time she waltzed into your bed.

What the hell is wrong with me? After reading your post the light bulb in the head went on..I know this is a girl that THE MOST I can do is get a good bang with her and thats it, move on. I feel like I am trying way to hard now...chasing her...damn...why do I ALWAYS do this??

And yes...I was playing it safe...but if she was letting me play with her vag I almost guarantee now thinking about it I could of banged her...damn me.

 

[Mirage]

It's a wrap. You're catching feelings and chasing her now.

Very true.

You had the opportunity twice and decided not to act on it. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

Also, don't go kidding yourself that you preserved any moral virtue here. You let her sleep with you and kiss you while knowing she had a boyfriend. You also chased her after. Time to take responsability for your choices. It's not the end of the world but don't go acting like you're confused if that was wrong or not. I don't think it's the boyfriend that stopped you from giving it to her, you don't seem to bothered about the morality of your actions.

I'm not sure why you asked the question in the first place. Actually, the question "is it wrong" was just a front for something else you wanted I think. Just say things directly next time, no worries man.

 

[tomwesten27]

Very true.

You had the opportunity twice and decided not to act on it. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

Also, don't go kidding yourself that you preserved any moral virtue here. You let her sleep with you and kiss you while knowing she had a boyfriend. You also chased her after. Time to take responsability for your choices. It's not the end of the world but don't go acting like you're confused if that was wrong or not. I don't think it's the boyfriend that stopped you from giving it to her, you don't seem to bothered about the morality of your actions.

I'm not sure why you asked the question in the first place. Actually, the question "is it wrong" was just a front for something else you wanted I think. Just say things directly next time, no worries man.

I appreciate the blunt honesty its refreshing. Honestly I have a bad pattern that always starts with trying to nail a chick. After I get something from them instead of keeping my cool attitude I had before nailing them, I go into this crazy relationship, over thinking, gotta wife her up mode. I don't know why.

Maybe in the back of my head I crave that attention of having someone? I don't have a clue.

Any feedback would be great. I really need to practice not giving a crap and not getting my emotions involved.