Sleeping arrangements

[DonEdwardo]

Hi Guys,

Here is a bit of a problem I am currently facing, I invited a Girl that I have seen three times before to a 3 day music festival, everyone camps out in tents and pretty much has a good time getting drunk and I guess going mad etc...

As I said I have only seen her 3 times in the past,

1) Met her at a party and # closed her
2) Took her to a movie, very light kino and got a hug at the end
3) Took her to lunch at the zoo and again light kino and hug.

She initiated the first hug, anycase since then she moved back to varsity and I won't have the opertunity to see her again before the festival. I have kept minimal contact, one sms to ask how a exam went, I mentioned the fact that I hoped she could study and that she was not thinking so much about me that she was not able to concentrate, she responded very well to this flirt.

One phone call a few days later, she did not pick up, I did not leave a message and she called back within a few hours, I invited her to the festival, she accepted the invitation but told me that she needed to confirm something at varisity before she could let me know for sure. She then said if she does not get back to me I am to phone and remind her, I acted really surprised and said are you sure it's possible for you to forget such a thing? she laughed and said please remind me if I do.

I left it then, a few days later she sms'd me to ask how my week was going and to let me know exactly when she would be able to let me know by and wished me sweet dreams, I replied and told she must have the same but the ones about me must be esp sweet. Again she responded positively to that flirt.

So now I have a situation, I will need to arrange for tents etc for the camp, if this is on my mind then it is sure to be on hers as well! where will she sleep? I can let her sleep in my tent with me, obviously I would not mind this. lol. I can let her sleep with my sister who will also be coming along. I could try and arrange a tent for her alone?

I don't want to make her uncomfortable but don't want to be all AFC, I need to get the question across in a way that says, I really would not mind being close to you etc. but I want to respect your choice and feelings on the matter.

I think AFC would be to pitch up with tent for her and set it up. I was thinking of phoning her closer to the time and saying something like, you have three choices, share with me, share with my sister, or supply your own tent.

I guess I need to come across as, I would really like to get to know you more intimately, but I am mature and secure and confident enough not to have to try and force you to sleep in the same tent as me.

Please guys, any mature helpful answer/advice will be appreciated.
Edwardo

 

[Desdinova]

If you've already been on a date with her, there shouldn't be a problem. Just because you're sleeping in the same tent, it doesn't mean you have to fvck, right?

I wouldn't say a damn thing about the sleeping arrangements, but make sure you have a tent that accomodates two. Naturally assume that she's sleeping in your tent.

If she's uncomfortable with it (which I doubt), then tell her "You should've supplied your own tent!" She agreed to come with you, therefore if she's decided NOT to sleep in your tent, she'll bring her own.

Don't concern yourself too much with her being uncomfortable unless she gives you a direct "STOP". If anything, she's probably looking forward to sleeping in the same tent as you!

 

[Good_ol_boy]

Take 2 tents, one for you and one for sis. She'll decide when the time comes. It's part of K.I.S.S.!

 

[Desdinova]

When he got to the front desk, she reminded him that there needed to be separate beds , so he had to tell the clerk in a super AFC tone to get separate beds. He said that he could hear the male clerk snickering about the situation, and it made him feel like the biggest loser in the world.

Bottom line - don't assume anything. I personally would never take a woman on an overnight trip unless I have slept in the same bed (that does not necessarily mean there was sex, but that she was at least comfortable literally sharing a bed.)

He paid for a girl that he wasn't even dating. It sounds as if our friend Don here just invited her (correct me if I'm wrong, Don). If you only invited her and she's providing her own food, booze and ticket, she should be providing her own tent (if she doesn't want to sleep with you). Personally, I've slept in the same bed as women that I wasn't fvcking or dating. It usually leads to fvcking eventually.

If she starts making a fuss about not providing her a tent, just stand your ground and say "Well, you should have brought one!" Don't put up with any crap from her not providing her own supplies for this trip you *invited* her on. If you have to stand your ground like this, she'll find you more attractive because you're not putting up with her 5hit.

 

[drZaius09]

Just the fact that you're even thinking about this means one and only one thing: You're Doomed.

How about, instead of stressing over every little detail with this chick (I've seen multiple posts from you on this topic), focus on your own day-to-day activities and your own life and your own sh1t. You can worry about the "sleeping arrangements" when it's time to f#cking go to sleep. You see what I'm saying?

My suggestion to you, as it most likely would be in any situation, is to sleep wherever the f#ck you feel like sleeping... if she wants to join you, she won't hesitate.

 

[DonEdwardo]

Thats what I love about this forum, you guys are not afraid to kick a struggling AFC in the arse when it matters the most :cheer:

You guys are all right, chicks are not some special type of human being.

1st) She will be paying her own way, this is a $60 + date without the food etc!! I made it clear when I invited her that she would be supplying her own ticket
2nd) She said yes, I never offered to provide sleeping accomodation etc. If someone asked me to a place, if I was worried in any way about the arrangements, I would ask I wouldn't just pitch and expect everything to be the way I wanted it, when my friend asked me to go with them to this event, the first thing I thought about was how I would need to arrange a tent for myself. She must have thought either the same thing and come up with a plan, or is going to bring it up sometime if it's a problem to her. If she can't do either and just expects things to be arranged then what kind of person is she in the first place?
3rd) If I was paying for everything then in anycase it would be on my terms, I can't pay for everything and then have to arrange seperate accomodation, you guys are right that would be total BS!!! If I pay for a hotel room and invite a chick along, then I am sorry to say, but certain things are "written" in the contract. She accepted, what the hell is she thinking if a guy invites her on a weekend away at some hotel?!?!?!? That he just wants to get to know her better??? Unless he has led on in the entire relasionship before that all he is after is her mind, she would have to be damn stupid to expect nothing less, but... if you know very well that you don't stand a chance with this chick i.e. no kiss time after like 30 dates, then you would have to be the idiot to think all of a sudden she's gonna jump into bed.

Damn I hate being so AFC. This is the point that I need to drum into my head. If she is at all worried about it she will bring it up. Oh wait sorry drZaius09, your right again, the real point is, I wonder where I can go and meet some new potentials this weekend, just to keep some more options open! Hell the way I see it, if I don't give them a chance to discover me, they'll never know who they are missing! And that would be the real shame!

Hmmm.. I feel the need to start a new thread on one-i-tis...

Cheers,
DonEdwardo

 

[Slickster]

Originally posted by Desdinova
If you've already been on a date with her, there shouldn't be a problem. Just because you're sleeping in the same tent, it doesn't mean you have to fvck, right?

I wouldn't say a damn thing about the sleeping arrangements, but make sure you have a tent that accomodates two. Naturally assume that she's sleeping in your tent.

If she's uncomfortable with it (which I doubt), then tell her "You should've supplied your own tent!" She agreed to come with you, therefore if she's decided NOT to sleep in your tent, she'll bring her own.

Don't concern yourself too much with her being uncomfortable unless she gives you a direct "STOP". If anything, she's probably looking forward to sleeping in the same tent as you!

Excellent advice!

Don't bring up sleeping arrangements until the time comes. Hopefully there will be just enough alcohol in both of you that the decision will be easy.

 

[flexion_]

Its really not a big deal about the tents.

Even if she brings her own tent its not a long walk to yours. Just let her do whatever the hell she wants to do about how she sleeps and have fun. If you just have fun then she'll end up in your tent anyway...

 

[dietzcoi]

Damnit, I would never bring a Mormon chick to a hotel room... that guy was a total AFC!

How embarrassing...

Anyway, the point is that you should not invite girls on weekend trips until you are sure about them.. this could be fun or could be a disaster.. but now she calls the shots and you will have to accept it. This is an AFC action.

Can you cancel? You will have the chance to meet new girls if you are alone at the concert...

Dietzcoi