Slapped a girl....do you think it was the right thing to do?

[Microphone Fiend]

I think that oregon says that because of his uprbringing. It's like that arguement of law when a person is brought up in a bad situation and in turn does bad things because he has no chance. I'm sure Oregon would have a different opinion if his mother killed his father or something like that, lets jsut leave it at that and stop talking about his response...

Anyways I think the chick got what she deserved, plus those chicks that came to your rescue. if they saw it all they can vouch for you.

Lol DJ'ing has a downside I see, pretty soon you're gonna have to start literally beating chicks back with a stick.

PeaceDj (ironic name ) I wanna know how did you reject the chick? Maybe she thinks she was played or something

 

[spanky]

I completely agree with protecting yourself from physical harm when threatened but was striking her the best solution in this case for the both of you?

There is at least one thing to consider here:

A man who finds justification in hitting a woman in one instance will find it easier to justify hitting them in others. Now, like I say, you have to defend yourself against a threat but I would be hesitant to hit a woman who just kicks me. It sound like you reacted more out of anger than the idea of defending yourself. This sort of “reflex” can become problematic in the future unless you decide to put forth some heavy effort in not striking a woman.

Do you think you could have easily restrained her or walked away and reported her for harassment? In this way you would have a witness to her harassment and school officials behind you which would most likely have stopped her and you would still have a decent rep. She may want to retaliate in some way.

What would you do if you find someone slapped your sister at school (if you have one)? Don’t count on your sister to give you the full truth.

It is good that you had a witness because I can tell you from experience that others would doubt your story of defense since she is the woman (a woman lied to the police and told them I hit her in order to get back at me for breaking up with her even though she showed no visible signs of abuse) . DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE PREVIOUS STATEMENT! I had to attend a violence program for several weeks and I have never hit a woman in my life and I had a clean record (If she reported you to the police, you will not walk away with a clean record; you will at least get disorderly conduct which could pose a problem if a woman ever accused you of hitting her again). I had to sit and listen to a guy every Saturday morning telling me how to channel my anger or be peaceful when I felt like hitting and I felt like I should have been the guy doing the teaching in the freakin program in the first place. There were other guys in the program who claimed they were unjustly there and it was not hard for me to belive them.

In brief, unless a woman is attacking with a weapon, don’t lay a hand on her or you could really regret it. When I mean don’t lay a hand on her I mean walk away without touching her because simple taking a hold of her is assault according to the American justice system so even restraining could be a problem.

Just some things to consider…..

Hey, you know you have to change your name now. JK.

 

[spanky]

"I don't think anyone is above an ass kicking"

This is true but just as my favorite comdian says "just don't do it!"


There are reason to smack an old lady "just don't do it!"

there are reasons to murder a person "just don't do it!"

 

[chlywly]

Seems to me like she got what was coming to her, a bit of the karma, if she couldn't deal with rejection she had no reason to start bothering you...

Either way certainly you shouldn't start hitting people women or men if you want to be respectable or be a DJ.

From your description although it seems like you didnt totaly intentionally do it, I know how it is to have a reaction and if she's pushing your face its very natural to fight back...

She got what was coming to her either way... Just do your best to stay away from her and be nice if you are around her, she's got issues not your responsibility to deal with them.

 

[bp1974]

Can't remember where I heard this quote:

"If she's man enough to hit me, I'm woman enough to slap her down".

 

[B9]

LOL

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

A few questions.

You say you were in school, therefore i find it very interesting nobody else was around.

You say you were near the door to your next class? Was the door open or was the door closed?

I'm not one to hit women, but there are definitely circumstances where some women will drive you over the edge.

However, nine times out of ten, I find your story a flat out lie.

Because where i went to school, college, high school, grade school, or beyond

A guy who hits a women, no matter what circumstance, a teacher is going to intervene, security guards are going to come, and maybe even the police.

Do that out in the real world, either in public or some apartment, your going to get arrested, no matter who started what.

And there are always two sides to every story.

Why did she start pushing you?

To many people on this site like to build up their fake worlds.

Tell the whole story next time, not just what glorifies you as a saint.

All I know is, in the majority of places in the USA, if you hit some women in public, (and she falls to the ground because of it) you most likely are going to get arrested. Somebody might not jump in, but somebody is gonna call the police.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You are right in that hitting a woman is wrong however self defense should be taken into consideration. Like other replies have said, she may have deserved it as much as you could have blocked her attacks and just stopped her from hitting/kicking you in the first place.

What really matters in this case is how you personally feel about your actions. More that feeling that your actions were justified, how is your conscious reacting? Don't focus on whether it was right or wrong, instead focus on what would you do if it happened again and follow that path.

 

[Helter Skelter]

Lorraina Bobbitt deserved to be punched.

You shouldn't have hit her, but too late now. She deserved it though.

 

[DEKKA]

not hitting a woman under absolutly ANY circumstances is just another social agenda that has been pushed on us right alongside the wave of the feminization of men as a whole. i am fully opposed to abusing women in any kind of way that would take advantage of the fact that we are stronger creatures and given the role of protectors and guardians. however please examine where these philosophys come from and what you are taking in. remember how vehemant women are about monogamy? well thats because of social conditioning over the years. think about all the things us guys have accepted as truth just because of the social pressures of the womens movement and feminism and of society as a whole (a society lacking any male backbone). some women are getting trained to want the best of both worlds. they want to have their cake and eat it too and they think they can push men to the absolute line nowdays, take everything they want, and not get put in their place when they step majorly out of line. i totally agree with sean connery, and i think you can at rare times hit a woman out of love the same you you would a child that you loved. peace~~

 

[sprinter911]

I am a state trooper and have seen this situation many times.... it is common for a woman to strike first expecting no retaliation... however if it would have came down to the police getting involved if the witnesses would confirm your story i would have cited her for assault and harassment... self defense is self defense ,if you would have whooped her ass for cheating on you without her hitting you it would be the other way around... ive seen several woman beat the piss out of there husbands and its not that uncommon.

 

[Walden]

Dude go out and buy a book called Kyusho-justu by George Dillman.
It's about pressure point fighting and one of the best books on martial atrs I have ever read (also "Aikido and Harmony of Nature" by Saotome Sensei).

It's useful cos you can shut someone down or put pain compliance moves on them in such a way that you DO NOT hurt them.

It's great for cops and mil' personnel as well.

 

[00Kevin]

Sean Connery recently make a remark about women.
He said that women need a "slap" now and then

so don't worry about it. This guy is loved by women everyplace even in his old age.

 

[CLOONEY]

she sounds like an annoying little biotch and needed it. No really it is never right to slap a girl, however this was a mistake. But seriously how old is she, like 15?

 

[Starman]

I think it was John Wayne who said "Every Girl needs to get slapped once in the face to put them in their place" eheh

One time this fat chick who had a MAJOR crush on me (she used to buy me stuff, vacations, pay for my classes, etc etc)

One night she got really drunk..and started professing her love..I just said "Listen! I dont like you like that!!"

She went f0cking NUTZ!!!! Slapped my face in -20 degree weather..and started to punch and kick me!!

I tried to push her away from me and walk away..and she kept going at it!!

can you imagine being attacked by a drunk bison?? thats how it was for me

so I got pissed and just PUSHED her..she fell down...the earth rumbled..I started walking away..but fearfully kept looking back for her to get up and stampede me..but she was like a tipped over cow

I stopped talking to her..and found out she told EVERYBODY I punched her!!

we are best friends now..but she is still phat

 

[dietzcoi]

Starman

Good story but please do not use the term "best friends" to describe your relationship with a woman!

Men are best friends with each other.

Unless you want to be one of the AFC best friends who constantly SMS my GF and volunteer to do anything she wants??



Dietzcoi

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Symmetry of response, my friend, symmetry of response.

That means that, when attacked to the point where you must defend yourself, you respond with an approximately equal amount of force. Gender is irrelevant, although it is typically easier to respond with equal force to a female than a male.

For example, if someone's throwing a punch at you, you can defend yourself, but you don't defend yourself by pulling out your 9mm and blowing them away.

In this case, I think you responded with a little more force than what was required to defend yourself, and with a little more force than you were being attacked with. I'm not saying that you shouldn't have defended yourself, I just think you went a little overboard.

 

[Blaaaaat]

A sh!t man, don't hit a woman... bla bla. It's al BS.

It doesn't matter if it'sa a man or woman, don't hit anybody. Unless they are attacking you, then defend yourself in a appropiate way.

There are realy nasty *****es out there, just like there are plenty of *******s. Enough of those b!tches take advantage off the fact that "man shouldn't hit woman". When they take advantage of this, then the "rule" doesn't apply anymore.

 

[squirrels]

Like Chris Rock says, I'll never hit a woman.

But I'll shake 'em.

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by squirrels
Like Chris Rock says, I'll never hit a woman.

But I'll shake 'em.

Lol. How could I forget that. "I'll never hit a woman but I'll shake the $#it out of them!"

He was also the one who says " There is a reason to hit anyone, just don't do it."

He also says ain't nothing worse than a woman that knows a man won't hit her. As soon as she knows this, you will be all
sorts of "punk @$$ b*tches."