Slap me in my face

[ATP]

Im a ****ing disgrace to men on this planet. In one single day I have gone from a self confident man to a supplicanting fool. This is a FR and a post of what not to do.

I met a girl and started to flirt with her. She was "THE" girl so to speak, everything was right from body to intelligence and she was interested. So what do I do, I start to think about her even though tell myself its a bad idea and in a matter of a day I am a nervous wreak. I thought I could handle it but obviously I couldnt.

I ask her out the next day. My posture is wierd, Im talking in a light voice and stumbling over my own words. I then text her the same day, then call her the next. Smart move right? I get the "my battery is almost dead" line after I ask to meet her "sometime".

I realized my mistake here and have had radio silence ever since in hope of smoothing over my bad impression. Gonna give it a go on sunday to ask her to get together. But then I wont ask to meet up "sometime".

It is amazing how I could turn from confident to such a pathetic sight in one single day. I want you all to slap me in my face for being so ****ing stupid. Under NO circumstance start to think about women you have just met. Dont let them into your mind, occupy yourself with other things instead.

Ill update on sunday to say how it went.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Don't be so hard on yourself, man. It's a learning process that most of us are on here and it's obvious you know where you went wrong, so you are clearly able to learn and make adjustments next time.

I'm the slowest learner on the planet when it comes to this stuff (look at my age) but I'm determined to keep on plugging along with my baby steps without beating myself to a bloody pulp.

Let us know how it goes Sunday but you need to get into "outcome independence" mode.

 

[Myrrdin]

dude, read my thread. You'll feel a lot better. )

 

[ken chang]

dude, read my thread. You'll feel a lot better. )

Haha! It's true. Read his thread. It WILL make you feel a lot better.

Good luck to you. Let us know what happens, maybe I'll learn something.

Oh and..SLAP!

 

[Scars]

I would do some damage control and go with no contact for now.

But that's just me.

I'd wait until SHE contacts you. She will eventually. Especially if things were going good, and you just suddenly disappeared.

If she asks, just blame that nervousness on having a bad day. The contact will raise her IL a bit, then you gotta come in strong and make a better impression then you did last time.

During this time, treat it with the mindset of a "next". You don't have to necessarily next her, but in your mind think of it that way. It will give you time to put your head on back straight, and possibly even get over this little oneitis hump you have slowly developed. Come back around with the mindset of what-ever-happens-happens, it's not all that important to you.

-Scars

 

[joe henny]

I just don't understand how you guys crush on a girl you've just met it blows my mind. What is it?